Covid-19 + wedding season

View quoted message Ours is in late August. Just waiting to hear back from our vendor about what their plans are.😬 So frustrating! Every time we plan something things go wrong! LOL

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Hi Helena,

Appreciate the response! We just sent out a memo to our guests outlining exactly what you mentioned including; what the venue is doing and also ensuring guests stay home if they don't feel well. I think that is all we can do in the meantime given the unknown in the next week or two.

I agree, we are both in a sad spot right now. Our wedding planning/decorating has come to a halt in the midst of this situation. It's amazing how your feelings can change in a blink of an eye but all we can do is push forward and have a little hope.

View quoted message Your coordinating sounds like a bigger handful than ours, I hope your day of coordinator can help you out with getting all the details together for you!
Dress needs a little bit more hemmed - but we’re still aiming for April 4th so we can do our small ceremony. The woman was so sweet and gave me a big hug - and coincidentally ran into a good friend there picking up her dress at the same time! So I feel there’s a little magic going on that will make the whole thing memorable.

I keep thinking the same thing - even in a year and for the rest of our lives this will be a wonderful silver lining of a story during such a heartbreaking and uncertain time around the world.
Let’s keep in contact on our plans! Feel free to follow me on insta, we can see how each others days work out and support each other from afar during the ************@*******.******

View quoted message That’s what we’re thinking too and definitely hoping for! Especially since everything is already planned and booked lol but will see how things are in June when invitations need to go out. Day by day 😊

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We just sent an email to our guests (wedding in 3 weeks) reassuring them that we are still doing it, the venue is taking extraordinary measures to ensure everyone´s comfort but we understand if they change their minds and prefer not to come. We also included something like: if you belong to a risk group or have been in contact with someone who has tested positive, we encourage you not to come. And that we will keep them posted if anything changes.

Yes, ultimately it´s up to each and every one of ours guests. We already lost 12 people, including my family and closest friends who were flying from Portugal. Yes, the wedding as it is now is nothing close to what we ever dreamed of, nor to all the planning and money spent over the past year. And yes, in the end, it is about love, but we can´t help but feeling sad.

View quoted message Hopefully by August this will be over or very well controlled. I've heard mention that this running into May/June is the better scenario because our healthcare system can handle that vs all of us getting sick at once in the next few weeks.


New Brunswick has been very proactive. We only have one confirmed case, but all schools are closed, large gatherings postponed, and a lot of employees are preparing to have staff work from home.
Try not to panic yet, you have months left before you need to worry.

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Thanks for the reply Sadia! That's the only thing we can do at this time I assume. We technically have our final guest count but feel the need to reach out to them again in light of everything that has just transpired in the last week. How are the guests feeling? Will they still attend? Postponing brings up the uncertainty of when will this get better? When is a safe date to postpone?

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Thanks for the support, really appreciate it! Makes us feel we're not alone in this situation. We planned this wedding over a year ago and just can't believe something like this can happen. Why us you know?

Our reception venue has offered to postpone with no penalty to another date but only Friday/Sundays available, which isn't the end of the world. We had planned to go on our honeymoon beginning of August and hope to be married by then! This uncertainty of when this will be over, will something else pop up? Ugh its terrible, your mind goes everywhere. Your right that the photographer would be the other vendor essential to being able to do the wedding at a later date. Our next step so far is asking our day of coordinator to reach out to the vendors asking them how they handle a postponed wedding in these circumstances.

We have our ceremony at a different venue which adds another challenge. If we had to postpone our reception and go ahead with the ceremony April 4, 2020, like you said wearing the dress twice sounds pretty good! Get our money's worth that's for sure!

I hear you, this weekend is a challenge. I wake up every morning thinking maybe this was a dream? How can everything change so quickly in the last two weeks? Everything feels so irrelevant, you know? I hope the dress pick up goes well for you today, we have to push through! I always tell my fiancee.. well this is a memory we'll never forget and hopefully can laugh about in a year!

View quoted message Oops hit send too fast. Anyone who’s weary may not show up but there will still be people who are keen to see you get married! I would see if you can wait until you have a final guest count. If you feel like you need to cancel, you can always postpone it to a later date. Given the circumstances people will definitely understand!

View quoted message Oh Andreaa I can imagine how stressful it must be. As long as you’re doing whatever you’re comfortable with the guests will understand! People who feel compromised or weary wo

View quoted message Ahhh we’re wedding twins! I’m July 10 as well. I’ve sent out a portion of my invites, I’ll be delivering out the rest of them as I normally would - trying not to let this damper my wedding plans. I’m hoping and feeling a bit confident that things will blow over by June. My shower is June 6. It is what it is but I can’t afford to not plan anything and then, just my luck, it DOES blow over and then I’m behind on ALL my wedding plans.
If worst comes to worse and I have tons of cancellations then I’ll just do my wedding on livestream and have the whole buffet to myself lol! Thankfully a lot of our guests are pretty positive about still attending since July IS farther out. Good luck!!

View quoted message I think with all precautions that the federal government has put in effect;we should be able to get back to our normal lives.Lets just be positive for now.Hopefully everything will work together for our good.

View quoted message Mine is in August, too! It feels like it’s far enough away that things should be settled by then, but I’m worried about the planing process. Like do I continue planning things? And we’re all getting laid off of our jobs while this virus is in effect, so it depends on whether or not we can find other jobs, too. Not what I expected to be going through in the wedding planning stage!

May 23 for me too!
Vancouver

I am really getting sad, thinking we may have to cancel our May wedding. Also thinking it’s sad that the countdown of joy has now turned into a countdown of what day we can pull the plug
Can’t wrap my brain around all of this
I just brought my dress home from alterations a week ago and then I felt excited. Now just unsure

Anyone else have a July wedding and starting to figure out a Plan B?
Getting married July 10 in Toronto, right now we are working on our invites but I’m going to hold off on sending them right now. I’m really hoping this blows over by then but I do have my shower May 8 that I’m sending invitations out for this weekend.

Hopefully the silver lining in all of this is once it blows over there are going to be some amazing travel deals to book a honeymoon!

I am starting to have concerns as well but am trying to remain calm in hopes it will pass or improve by our date this summer. My biggest concern is the fact that we are getting married in NB where my fiancé is from/his family lives (a lot of whom are in the “elderly” range and there will be a few brand new babies at that time) BUT we will be flying from AB and all of my family is flying from BC, SK and ON.. the fear that someone may pick something up during their flights or layovers and unknowingly pass it on is starting to get pretty real. Along with that, if we do cancel, are people who have already made travel plans going to get any of their money back? OR if we go forward with it but people are afraid to travel, will I get married with none of my family there? 😢 That said, all we can really do is keep checking updates and see where things are at closer to. If we do end up having to cancel, I’m hoping to do a courthouse situation or something tiny on our date and have our “real” wedding another time.

I am very concerned even if my wedding is in July. The problem is that my fiancé's family are all coming to Montreal for the wedding from Florida. We don't know if the situation is going to get better. We haven't sent the invitations yet. We were supposed to do it this week, but with the current situation, it is not the right timing as people might be more inclined to decline. Because of all of this, we don't even know if we will meet the minimum number of guest requirement of our venue. We have no plan B for now. We are closely watching the evolution of the situation, but I guess if things get worst, we will have no other choice than to cancel the big wedding and maybe do a small ceremony with the family and close friends from here and do the big reception for our 1st anniversary.

Getting married May 22nd in Montreal with 60 guests. Althought we don't have many guests flying from abroad we do have family members coming from the states and a number of elderly and people with health issues. This is so stressful. I guess we will have to wait what the next weeks hold, ultimately we don't want to put our family and friends at risk.

We get married on May 23rd in Hamilton, Ontario. We have already cancelled our honeymoon to Spain/Italy/Greece and his bachelor party this weekend was cancelled. Looking into moving my bridal shower from April 4th to something closer to the wedding date. I hope everything has calmed down by then because we are on the hook for more $$ than we can afford to lose at this point...

View quoted message Mine too! April 4th in Vaughan Which Hall is yours at? As tough as this situation is our wedding is local and has no one flying in from anywhere. There won’t be any strangers and all family and close friends. I am still planning to carry on with our wedding as planned. We’ve invested so much time, money and emotions to just fall victim of fear and cancel. Our hall- in addition to their already strict cleaning and food handling procedures have implemented more to ensure everyone feels safe. If we have some people cancel - not much we can do. Just taking it day by day!

View quoted message For sure such a gamble. I’ve read a few articles and listening to reports it’s ‘supposed’ to be better by June. But who knows really!
My fiancé is on his bachelor party this weekend - they even had to change that last minute from going to Montana to staying in the Canadian Rockies - so he and I haven’t even seen each other in person since we’ve made the decision to postpone.
I’m worried it may be difficult to find a date that works well with our venue and photographer (all the other vendors I don’t think would be a concern). So I think we’ll have to get both their availabilities and just narrow something down that way. I asked the venue about a couple dates in September or August - so we’ll see what they have open I guess.It’s such a strange feeling making the decision and having to start telling people... but everyone’s been so kind and supportive. I’ve shed a lot of tears and I’m definitely spending the weekend in a strange grieving feeling... I pick up my dress today, and suddenly more sad about it than happy.BUT in the end it’ll all be perfect and a wonderful story no matter how either of us decide to work around this road bump!
I’m here for you if you need someone you don’t know to chat with ♥️

View quoted message Thank you for the reply!! Terrible feeling to have right now. Definitely have thought about the same thing, still wanting to get married April 4th, 2020. Our worry about postponing it is the gamble of whether this is going to get better or worse later on? It’s a gamble either way, we just hope it doesn’t get worse. What should that later date be exactly to hope your in the cleats Have you two decided on a later date?

View quoted message Our wedding was going to be April 4th as well - in Calgary.
We’re postponing - we don’t want to put our guests health and safety at risk, and don’t want to lose out on having some special individuals in attendance due to immunocompromised issues.
We’re still going to get married on April 4 - but just with our parents and brothers in attendance, and asking one of their girlfriends to apply for commissioner to preform the ceremony in our house. Still working out the details - but it would be so sad to have the special day we’ve been planning come and go with nothing celebrated... bonus this way I’m going to get to wear my dress twice!! ✨All our vendors have been extremely supportive and keeping our deposits to transfer to a later date. There shouldn’t be any concern with losing out as this falls under an ‘act of god clause’ I believe is part of any contract.
In the end it’s up to you and your future husband to decide how to work around this together!♥️

We’ve cancelled our wedding 😭 May 23rd so we have like 10 weeks. But half our guests and my photographer are coming to Canada from England so we don’t know if by that time they will be allowed and my hubby has been sent home from work indefinitely due to the coronavirus so this is going to financially hit us badly. My shifts at a restaurant has been cut because no one is eating out anymore. We also just found out we owe the CRA 4 grand so we can’t do this at this time anymore 😔

View quoted message I’m getting married on that day too! But in Saskatchewan.

My wedding is April 4th in Vaughan, Ontario and I didn’t book a honeymoon bc I wanted to wait for a last minute deal to the Caribbean. Honestly I do stress over the news and if the wedding will be canceled/ postponed but everything is out of my control really...

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Got it! Agreed. I keep checking Air Canada and I can still book Europe flights for October and they are still expensive AF so until that stops being a thing haha. And yes good for checking the factual sources. Too much crazy out there.

Looking for advice and hopefully some words of encouragement for a wedding happening April 4th in Toronto. We don’t know what the right thing to do is. Is it ultimately up to your guests if they want to show up or not? We just hate the idea of the room feeling uneasy

View quoted message Oh I’m not panicking by any means. I am more concerned that the borders will close or air travel will be suspended and I won’t be refunded. I’m hoping it’ll all blow over soon, preferably by June when I have to go back to Ontario for my shower, that’s why I’m keeping updated with the provincial sites and Health Canada who are providing factual numbers.

I get you, I too am starting to question what is the best options . For now I don't plan on changing plans for the wedding itself( we don't have enough people in one room to have to cancel with the new regulations in quebec) , but the honeymoon plans are looking bad. I know that airlines have lifted cancelation fees and many housing websites and hotel offer refund or cancelation. I hope it won't change too much of our plans we made so far.

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I think it's really to hard to tell what life will look like a week from now, let alone September! Not to disagree with your concerns because I feel you, but I think its important to stay present and not assume the worst months from now. We have an entire Europe honeymoon planned (parts in Italy and on a cruise to boot) that's been booked, paid for, locked down for the last year. FH and I decided to continue moving forward with our plans until we really know otherwise.

I do think for any weddings happening in the next month, I would be frantic as well. But just from one fall bride to another, I would say hold the phone on cancelling and see where we land closer to our dates. So much is going to change (hopefully for the better) before then.