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Bianca
Master August 2019 Ontario

How Did You Pick Your Bridal Party?

Bianca, on April 16, 2018 at 23:29

Posted in Plan a wedding 72

Hey there hey! Since getting engaged I've been constantly asked "who's going to be in your bridal party?", and I've been constantly replying with "it depends". There's so many factors that are personally going into my bridal party: how many groomsmen is my fiancé having? Do we want to keep it...

Hey there hey!

Since getting engaged I've been constantly asked "who's going to be in your bridal party?", and I've been constantly replying with "it depends". There's so many factors that are personally going into my bridal party: how many groomsmen is my fiancé having? Do we want to keep it family-only? Am I going to ask too soon?

How did you all decide who you wanted (or didn't) want up there with you on your special day?

Do you have any regrets on early choices you made?

Did you get any loved ones who did not want to be up there with you?

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72 Comments

  • Olivia
    Curious January 2019 Ontario
    Olivia ·
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    I’m lucky in that ive had the exact same friend group since high school, so I knew who was going to be standing up with me. I found as long as I’m honest and clear with my expectations, they’ve done a great job

    The problem for us was that my FH does not want my brother in his party, and that was sort of an expectation for me. We had a long talk about it, and decided that I wouldn’t be putting his sister in my bridal party either but that they needed to be given other equally important jobs (My brother is doing a speech and I’m dressing and helping his sister so that she’s a guest of honour)
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    We both wanted an even number and wanted to keep it relatively small. We were planning a 100 person wedding and thought it would look weird if half the guests were standing up front with us! (slight exaggeration!).

    I chose the two closest friends I have here and one friend I have kept in touch with from where I grew up. I have no regrets about my decision! There are a couple people I had considered asking as well, but I'm okay with not having asked them (it would've meant buying a dress and their flight when one has a new baby and the other her own wedding in the fall).

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  • Chloe
    Super May 2018 Ontario
    Chloe ·
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    My FH had 5 groomsmen chosen, so I decided to match him. I had five friends in mind (neither of us has sisters). One unfortunately is on exchange in Scotland and is going to be unable to make it, but I found out that my 16 year old cousin really wanted to be a bridesmaid, and since I had an open spot, I was happy to make her happy!
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2018 Alberta
    Amber ·
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    My FH has three groomsmen and I wanted a matching bridal party so I choose 3 girls who I am currently the closest with. My sister, a friend from collage and a coworker. I really wanted to ask my best Friend from high school, but I was so on the fence about it. We are not super close anymore, would it be weird? Will she even want to? Then I won't have a matching bridal party. I stressed about it for a long time, but I eventually decided to ask her and I have absolutely no regrets! As for the matching bridal party, whatever there are bigger problems in the world. My biggest advice would be to remember that these people are going to be in your pictures forever, so choose someone who is special to you, not just because you feel like you should.

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  • Lyla
    Devoted July 2018 Alberta
    Lyla ·
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    I chose based on who I was most comfortable with.. I definitely recommend that you choose based one who is most reliable and comforting. I chose my best friend as moh and she has truly been an angel.. you definitely need at least one person that you can vent to about anything. She is my rock. My other 4 bridesmaids I chose 2 cousins, my sister-in-law, and a friend. I had originally planned to have my sister as a bridesmaid, but she dropped out because I asked her not to drink (she’s a little crazy in those situations) and she’s been talking behind my back and causing drama about the wedding already. So I would say the goal is people that you can count on to be mature, supportive, and reliable.
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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
    Alexandra ·
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    I wanted an even party to the groomsmen so there’s 6 of them. I have my three sisters, my FH sister, his brother’s fiancée (wife in two months!), and my bestie!
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    Definitely no regrets with my girls! Best frii and sister. Love them all ❤️ one less than the groomsmen..
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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
    Brittany ·
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    I don't have the big gaggle of girlfriends, so mine was simple. Sisters, FSIL, and my best friend. 4 girls total.
    My groom on the otherhand, has 8 groomsmen, from his brother to childhood friends to work buddies.
    I've already had to replace my MOH (was my cousin/friend), but early enough in the process that it didn't effect planning.
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