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Jennifer
Super August 2018 Alberta

Family Photos

Jennifer, on April 26, 2018 at 10:22 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 40
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Hey ladies!

Who are you including in your family photos on your big day?
I know we want to ensure to get professional photos taken with our parents and grandparents but I have a feeling my grandma is going to want the whole family (I have an aunt and uncle and my aunt has three kids). We’re really close and she gets a family photo at every event.
If we start including aunts, uncles and cousins I’m worried it’s going to get out of control or take a long time. My fiancé’s Dad for example has 9 siblings and they all have children. Where should we draw the line? Are you including aunts and uncles or just the parents and grandparents? How do would you tell someone that someone else isn’t included?

Thanks!

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Latest activity by Helen, on April 30, 2018 at 16:09
  • Helen
    Frequent user September 2018 British Columbia
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    Our photog has a system where he puts you in the middle and then in order of importance out from there on both sides. Starts taking pics and then whittling down the crowd from the outside in to get through them the fast and make the transitions smoother.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Hmmm this is interesting I might consider this! We have approximately 300 guests and my fiancé has a huge family so it just worries me about how long it could take but big group shots is a good idea thanks!
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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    We included all the family beforehand in the room for nice family shots ad group pictures after the wedding ceremony.
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    We're doing group photos with everyone that comes. After our ceremony, we will be dividing guests into groups and taking pictures with them. We will let people know beforehand so they are prepared. But, I wanted pictures with everyone that came.

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  • Emily
    Devoted November 2018 Ontario
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    Distant relatives will end up in the photos anyway. Maybe take one big group shot with all the guests, but beyond that, I would just do parents, grandparents ad siblings (and siblings spouses/partners). Smiley smile
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  • Summer
    Devoted May 2019 Ontario
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    We’ll be doing our immediate family (parents/siblings/niece/nephew and grandmothers). Hoping to get one big photo of us all together at the same time
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  • Amanda
    Curious July 2019 Alberta
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    Just do a giant photo of your side and one with his side. That is my plan!

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    In our pictures we had immediate family only for my husband's side (his parents, his sisters and their spouses and the nephews and niece) and on my side we had my extended family (my mum and her bf, uncle and his wife, my 2 cousins and my grandma). I think it depends on the family situation/dynamic. It seems like you all get along and stuff and are a large group so limiting photos to immediate family and grandparents may be a good idea.

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    We'll probably just include our immediate families.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
    Jennifer ·
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    Lol right! I’m worried about that, it’s crazy how family members try to have so much say in your wedding sometimes haha but when I have kids I’ll probably understand
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  • Rebecca
    Frequent user October 2018 Ontario
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    I think grandparents and parents are perfect. I’ve decided to do it this way. You get to include the ones closest to you, without hurting any feelings and it won’t take forever lol
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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
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    Parents, siblings, grandparents and bridal party. If we start involving aunts and uncles that’s gonna be a nightmare. Like 90% of my half is all family. I’ll have our photographer get more shots of everyone when we’re in the reception
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  • Holly
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    Holly ·
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    We are just having our parents, siblings and his grandparents for the family that are doing photos. And his grandparents will only be in a few, one with just him, him and his parents then all of us.. we don't want photos to take longer than they need to and we don't need to include everyone's cousins even though his mom might try to make us lol
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Lol love it, way to have your guys back! Sounds like a great photographer!
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Lol I’ve never been to one that’s done this! The perks of the community I’ve gotten so many great tips on here!
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Yes ours has two shooters as well I’m pretty relieved about that! It’s a good idea having the officiant announce!
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  • Mandy
    Devoted July 2019 Alberta
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    What I tell my family and future in laws is that this how much I’m paying for additional hours it is this much. If you want to contribute go ahead. But at the end of the day if you have an awesome photographer they will make sure you get the photos you want and will tell everyone that it’s not what you wanted. Our photographer is awesome he has pretty much said he doesn’t mind being mean on the wedding day to make sure we get the photos we want.
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  • Jackie
    Devoted April 2019 Ontario
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    What can I say, I’m a smart cookie lol
    All the family weddings we’ve ever been to always do one big photo with everyone. This way you hopefully don’t miss anyone 😊
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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
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    I hadn't really thought ahead this far... which I probably should, as we are doing first look photos, and almost all family photos before the ceremony. I don't want everyone seeing me before the ceremony though... so perhaps we will do the immediate family photos and our bride/groom photos, then take just a 30 minute break before the reception for some extended family photos. I have 4 siblings (full sis, half sis, 2 step sis) and my fiance has one brother... plus my mom, dad, step dad, his dad, his mom... we have one grandparent left between us, and she probably won't be attending, and having Adults Only, so no kids... hopefully that minimizes some photos.

    My photographer is going to be at the reception for about 4 hours or so, so I'm not too worried about getting pictures with other extended family members/guests during that time.

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  • Jennifer
    Super July 2019 Ontario
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    Our rough planning is this. After our ceremony us and the wedding party will walk down the aisle. have everyone turn around for a large group photo (have officiant announce). and then the officiant will ask family members we want in photos to stay around (just announce by last name). i'm getting larger group family photos. so say my FH's dad and his sisters/their kids etc.
    but I plan on doing it with having a list written out with family names and having a friend corral/call people out. I did it last year at her wedding. and it worked really well and went by fairly quickly.
    its important to me some of the family photos as a lot of our families we don't get to see often. I am also lucky that my photog comes with 2 shooters.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Yeah I didn’t even think of this, so smart! We are having a big wedding min 300 people but I’m sure the photographer can do it!
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  • Jackie
    Devoted April 2019 Ontario
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    Best bet is to do one big group photo of everyone. Family and friends included. This is what we do.
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  • Marie-Claire
    Devoted August 2018 Quebec
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    I think we'll have people stay in their seats or just stand there for a group picture taken from the altar, with us in the aisle or something. The church has an elevated stage, so it will be easier for the photographer to get everyone this way.

    Other than that, I don't want to take big group shots.

    Just our parents, siblings, nephews and niece means 20 people. If we were to include aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents, his family has 45 peoples and mine has 44, and I don't feel like tracking everyone.

    I do want pictures with my grandparents however, but they'll have to be taken at the ceremony or reception location, because they're not healthy enough to stand for a long time. Still, they are very dear to me and will have been married 69 years, so they're a great example for us.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    I love this I’ll have to mention it to our photographer thanks for sharing!
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    I hope so! We do have a little photo area in our tent that I was hoping we could use for photo opportunities too just didn’t want to offend my grandma I’ll just talk to her before hand so we’re on the same page. Smiley smile Thanks!
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  • Alexis
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
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    Exactly! You just turn around and stand with them so you're in the shot and surrounded by all your loved ones!
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  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
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    Exactly!! There will be tons of times for photos! Also since you're outdoors it'll be even easier to get a big group arranged for a few quick photos!

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Omg that’s an awesome idea! So while you’re still standing at the “alter” get a big group shot before you exit?
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    So true! Our photographer will leave after supper and first dances are over though but someone else can take photos at the reception doesn’t have to be professional.
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  • Alexis
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
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    We're doing immediate family; however our officiant recommended something that I think we may do. Before you walk down the aisle after the ceremony, have your wedding guests shuffle over to fill in the aisle and space behind you - get one big group shot and then you don't need to worry about tracking people down for photos afterward.
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  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
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    I think for the formal professional shoots we will keep it to parents and grandparents!

    Aunts and Uncles would be great but like you said... it would take so much longer... Unless we did like 2 or 3 BIG group shots I would be fine with that but my photo list that I want is fairly specific and doesn't have extended fam (unless they're in the bridal party)

    There will be time for photos at the reception too!

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    I’ll have to mention the part about paying the photographer to get a lot of photos of my fiancé and myself I like that and I’m sure everyone can understand this!
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