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Lynnie
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Are your siblings and in-laws in the wedding party?

Lynnie, on March 11, 2019 at 13:05 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 44
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What did you decide about siblings and future in-laws and your wedding party? Are you including everyone? Or only if you're super close?

If they aren’t in the wedding party, are you including them in another part of the wedding?


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Latest activity by Kelsey, on March 20, 2019 at 10:41
  • Kelsey
    Curious October 2019 Ontario
    Kelsey ·
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    My FH has 3 brothers and I have a brother but neither of us want a large wedding party. I didn't want my brother included in the wedding as we are not close and he opted to have one of his brothers as a groomsman as we is closer with him than the others.

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  • Karina
    Curious October 2019 Ontario
    Karina ·
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    We are all bestfriends but my fiance didn't want 7 groomsmen so he opted to not have my brother or his sister's fiance in the wedding party. But I have both my sister in law's and one of his cousins as we have always been super close.
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  • Julie
    Expert March 2019 Ontario
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    1 MOH is my bf + cousin. My Brother is a Groomsmen, my Nephew is our junior Groomsmen, my Brother's Girlfriend is a Bridesmaid, Zach is an Usher and my Goddaughter is my Junior Bridesmaid. My Fav Aunt is our MC. We have 14 in our Wedding Party including my FH and I.
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  • Tiffany
    Frequent user August 2023 Ontario
    Tiffany ·
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    I have 3 sisters so all of them will be my bridesmaids. I’m currently having a issue of how to pick a MOH without hurting a sister’s feelings? I am closer to one more than the other 2. I’m just afraid of sibling rivalry.
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    My brother was our MC. His wife made our bouquets. I would have liked to include them more, but they also have three young children and I didn't want them to be so involved with the wedding day that they couldn't take care of their sons. It was great to have them involved how they were! My husband's brother was a groomsmen. And his 2 sisters decided not to even come to the wedding!

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  • Taya
    Curious September 2020 Alberta
    Taya ·
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    I'm actually having my brother as a bridesman since I don't have many close friends and we have grown closer since we moved out together about 4 years ago! Don't be afraid to mix things up in terms of bridal party and do what makes you happy

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  • Jenn
    Frequent user April 2019 Saskatchewan
    Jenn ·
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    My FH having trouble picking the right friend to fill the best man role, and had a moment of - this would be A LOT easier if I could just pick my dad! Of course you can choose your dad!
    On my side, I honestly didn't even consider choosing my FSIL. And I have more sisters than bridal party "openings"! I would suggest that you imagine the ceremony, and picture who would be best, by your side and supporting you! Smiley smile
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  • Gabrielle
    Frequent user May 2019 Ontario
    Gabrielle ·
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    My brother will be walking me down the aisle sonce my dad passed. My step daughter and niece will be flower girls but thats about it. And i thinm my sister in law is insulted thag i didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid, but we never got along from the start so i didn’t really feel comfortable.
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  • Candace
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
    Candace ·
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    We did a very strict no family in the wedding party rule. I have too many siblings and I’m not close with his sister. Also my cousins started fighting about who would be a bridesmaid and who wouldn’t be sonwe shut that down early.
    Seeing friends who are including everyone in their family makes me happy we did away with that extra stress lol
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  • Kirsten
    Frequent user October 2025 Alberta
    Kirsten ·
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    My sister, brother and my closet cousins are in the party. With his brothers Austrian we discussed with his parents that they could be ring bearers together so that they can sit down with his parents after they walk down
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  • Ashley
    Frequent user October 2021 Manitoba
    Ashley ·
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    I couldn't imagine my day without my two sisters by my side we are really close so they are my maid/matron of honor. My fiancé has his little brother as one of his groomsmen and his sister is going to officiate the wedding for us.

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  • Monica
    Devoted June 2019 Ontario
    Monica ·
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    My brother is a groomsman, and sister is bridesmaid. Haven’t included FH’s siblings in the wedding party.. and probably won’t include them in any other part of the wedding but they will of course, attend
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  • Erin
    Super May 2022 Ontario
    Erin ·
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    My sister will be my MOH and his best man is a childhood friend
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  • K
    Expert June 2019 Ontario
    Kim ·
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    Nope. No siblings or in laws will be incorporated although they are invited.
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  • Brookelan
    Newbie November 2019 Alberta
    Brookelan ·
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    Hey! (this is directed to the comment below) Curious about how you are working everything with no wedding party? I'm planning to do the similar, but still want to get ready with some of my close friends and family. Are you completely skipping it?

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    I was open to having our siblings in the wedding party but we opted against it. He has one sister who is married with two small children, and it wouldn't be fair to ask her to be in the bridal party (extra expense, time, commitment), and I have a brother who lives in Ottawa, and it's way too far to figure things out from there. So the only sibling being included for either of us is my sister as my MOH.

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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
    Rachael ·
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    My fiancé and I have big families. He has four siblings and I have three. We decided to skip a wedding party altogether because of this and the fact that we're having a small wedding (meaning only our close friends will be at the wedding so we didn't feel the need to "honour" them by asking them to be in one).

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  • Robyn
    Super June 2019 Ontario
    Robyn ·
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    I have no siblings or cousins, and I had a huge falling out with my best friend, so I very optimistically asked my FH's only sister to be my MOH. I would definitely go back and change that if I could, to be honest. His younger brother is his best man, and his youngest brother will be escorting my FH's infant niece, our flower girl, down the aisle. So it's a full-on family affair, for better or worse (how appropriate)

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  • Rachel
    Frequent user July 2019 Ontario
    Rachel ·
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    My FH has 4 brothers and he chose them as his groomsmen. I chose my sister, and 3 of my closest friends. We decided to keep the wedding party small and intimate. If you are having a large wedding though, you could definitely invite your future in law's to be in the wedding party! It's really up to you! Who do you want to stand beside you on your day?

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  • Alix
    Expert June 2021 Saskatchewan
    Alix ·
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    My future sister in law is one of our bridesmaids and my two brothers are groomsmen in our wedding.
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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    We chose not to include any siblings or in laws in our wedding party due to the distance of 1 hour drive. In addition, There isn't any tradition of family within the wedding party in Indian weddings unless the couple decides to do so.

    My cousin wanted her 13 brothers walking her down the aisle when she got married which was different. As for my cousin who is getting married this September, they (the couple) are deciding to have a wedding party of close family members.

    Every generation is changing up the way things are being done now twisting up the traditions.

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  • Brittany
    Devoted August 2019 Alberta
    Brittany ·
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    I was just thinking about this today ! I only have step siblings. And none of us are overly close so none are in the wedding party.they were all older and moved out by the time our parents got together. Besides my step sister. My FH has both brothers in the wedding party. But now I’m worried that his sister might be offended she wasn’t asked. But she’s married with two kids and significantly older than us. ... we just didn’t think about it. I’m hoping she doesn’t either. . 🤷🏼‍♀️ But her boys (our nephews) are ushers.
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  • Chelsea
    Super June 2020 Alberta
    Chelsea ·
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    Absolutely not. I have two sisters, but am only close with one. She will be a bridesmaid because i want her there beside me, not because she’s my sister. my future sister in law is not in my wedding as we really aren’t close. i’ll never understand people who have people in their wedding because they think they should and not because they want to
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  • Svetlana
    Curious August 2019 British Columbia
    Svetlana ·
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    My fiance's older brother is a groomsmen, but my little sister is not in our bridal party, she's 13 though and doesnt really care about this sort of thing yet Smiley smile but she and my cousin (both same age) will be getting ready with us and probably even joining us for bridal party pictures, since the limo that we got has extra seats
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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
    Alexandra ·
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    Yup! All my siblings, my fiancé’s sister and his sister in law are all bridesmaids! He also has his brother as a best man!
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  • Amelia
    Super September 2020 Ontario
    Amelia ·
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    My 2 sisters are MOH’s, FH’s sister is my BM, and his brother is a groomsman. We wanted to keep the bridal party small so, aside from family, he’s just got a couple old friends as his best man and another groomsman (he felt very strongly that we should have the same numbers lol).
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  • Lydia
    Devoted June 2019 British Columbia
    Lydia ·
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    I don't have any siblings and my fiancé only has two brothers, so no girls. I am including one of my cousins and one of my bridesmaids though but I'm close to her. My fiancé isn't including his brothers in the bridal party, though he is having his youngest brother be his witness
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  • Elizabeth
    Frequent user September 2020 Ontario
    Elizabeth ·
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    It's kinda of a mixed bag for us. Including step siblings, I have nine. My fiance has three. He is inuding his brother and step brother than three friends. I have my sister in law (brother's wife) in my party and four of my close friends.

    My step mom was upset none of her girls were in the party and that my SiL was, but they told me not to worry about it before I made any decisions. I am not very close with my step dad's kids so nothing was expected there. My fiance's sister intimidates me and we have no interests in common so that was a no go from the beginning.
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  • K
    Expert September 2018 British Columbia
    Kim ·
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    We had a small wedding and weren't going to have a wedding party initially, but then decided we should have at least one attendant each - so we asked my brother to stand up for my husband, and my husband's sister to stand up for me, which turned out perfectly!

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  • Leah
    VIP April 2019 British Columbia
    Leah ·
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    We've asked my brother to MC.

    I'm kind of okay with this, but don't want to hire an MC, and my mother wants him to be involved....soooooo brother it is.Smiley atonished

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    My sister is a bridesmaid. My younger brother is escorting our son down the aisle and my older brother is escorting my step mom in.
    My FHs brother is a groomsmen.
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  • Cherry
    Devoted October 2019 Quebec
    Cherry ·
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    One of my future sister-in-law will be my bridesmaid because my FH asked her husband to be one of his groomsmen. The other 3 bridesmaids are my best friends. My FH will have one of his brother-in-law and 2 of his sons as groomsmen.

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