Cash vs Gifts

I don't think there's a polite way to ask for cash. Even etiquette says you shouldn't include registry info on the invitations. I think these days most people end up giving cash if there isn't a registry. If not, most people include a gift receipt so you can return it for credit at that store.

I have seen little poems on the bottom saying something like "gifts aren't expected but if you choose to bless us with one, cash would be appreciated so we can buy things for our house" or something along those lines.

The way my family does it is we usually always get money given at the wedding. The shower is when people try sneaking in gifts instead. In my opinion, I would rather put that money toward our own things we need. Plus I’m pretty picky so I’d probably be spending weeks returning it all. So our go-to is to put “monetary gifts appreciated” at the bottom of every invite.

We flew in for our wedding, and didn't want gifts since it would be difficult to get them back to our home. We didn't relay anything, just told people who asked if we had a gift registry, and we received very few gifts. Only a few frames and some handmade items people made for us, which we made room for in our suitcases.

Totally your decision if you want to write anything, but we didn't want to seem rude by saying no gifts, so let nature take it's course. I would say 95% of our guests gave cash.

We put NO BOXED GIFTS PLEASE on the invites. Thats direct enough.

When sending out the invitations, you should add a 'Wishing Well' card in the mix. This would include a cute poem about how you'd rather receive a monetary gift. Here's a good example here:

https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/520239174/wishing-well-card-template-black-and?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=wishing%20well%20card&ref=sr_gallery-1-1

We just didn’t register for gifts I think that makes it pretty clear. I agree, I think most people give cash nowadays anyways

You can still have a traditional gift registry, but it can be for the bridal shower instead, that way there is hardly anything left by the wedding day and people will bring money...in theory. But I think a lot of people give a monetary gift now anyway. It's easier and people are lazy lol.

It is a cultural difference too. E.g. my fiance is Italian and they give a card with a cheque for usually no less than $100/person. Some people even call the hall ahead of time to see how much a plate costs and pay more than the plate. Whereas my British/Canadian family operates on smaller weird gifts, like tea towels. I Totally understand wanting money....

I’ve seen people word it on their invitations. “You are not required to give us a gift, but if you would like to, monetary gifts would be appreciated.”

From my understanding, so long as you don’t register your guests should get the message and leave you monetary gifts. I’ve seen people write it on the invitations tho but I personally wouldn’t recommend it.