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Cant agree on guest numbers

Amanda, on September 5, 2016 at 00:15 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 5

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My fiance and I agreed on having just family and close friends come to our wedding and reception. I only have a list of my family members (a few have 5 kids), and close friends we both know. My list had about 66 people with family members i close to, and their kids and a few close friends.
Just tonight my fiance made the comment about their being to many people, and he wants something smaller.. How can i explain i want my family there and the friends ive choosen? I feel its unfair to compromise what i want and have dreamed of, and its also not fair on him as its his day to.. Someone help me think of a solution.
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Latest activity by Nelly, on September 27, 2016 at 05:20

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Nelly · On September 27, 2016 at 05:20
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Since we both come from large families and we are super close to our families. We agreed to have all of our families there. The issue we had was about how many friends to invite.
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Maddy · On September 7, 2016 at 09:24
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Hi Amanda I agree with Em and Devon. Making the guest list was also one of my greatest nightmare. I'm glad the first version of it is done now and that we could agree on a number... it was kinda hard to find a venue without agreeing on the number of guests like Devon says, I don't think you have to compromise but just talk about it to see what you both want and how you both want your wedding
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Devon · On September 5, 2016 at 10:35
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Guest list really is one of the hardest decisions. It's really something you have to go over as a couple. For us, we are inviting close friends and family as well but having no kids and not inviting extended family that we're not close to.
I think you both need to sit down and talk about each of your visions. It's not about one of you compromising, but both of you and finding a solution that makes you both happy!
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Emilie · On September 5, 2016 at 10:25
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Hi Amanda! I'm so happy to see you in our community!

I totally understand your situation! It's so hard to agree on everyone that will come to our wedding.

It's such an important moment! And of course, we want all the important people to be there!

What I would suggest first is to see how many people your budget allows. There many more things to consider and I think these articles really sum them up!

How to Build Your Wedding Guest List

7 Things to Consider When Making Your Wedding Guest List

5 People You Don’t Have to Invite To Your Wedding

And don't worry, many brides and grooms go through this difficult process, but hopefully this discussion will help you laugh about it!

10 things couples think about when making their guest list

Maddy also went through a similar process, you could ask her what she thinks. too many people on my list!! help!!

How many people do you have in total on your guest list?
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