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Lynnie
WeddingWire Admin October 2016 North Carolina

Would you rather... invite 20 more guests, or cut 20 guests?

Lynnie, on April 23, 2018 at 12:01 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 33

Knowing everything you know now (budget, capacity, space, declines, drama, new friends, etc.) - if you could go back to the very beginning of your planning process and adjust things accordingly...

Would you rather add 20 more guests to your original guest list? Or would you rather cut out 20 guests who initially were invited?


Would you rather... invite 20 more guests, or cut 20 guests? 1

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33 Comments

Latest activity by Jessie, on June 19, 2018 at 13:45
  • Jessie
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
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    Invite 20 more guests. I can't take guests away it would be too hard.

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  • Marcia
    Super August 2018 Manitoba
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    I would invite 20 more guest, we are having a small intimate wedding Smiley smile

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    Cut 20 more guests. We are already at the top of our guest list amount and would not be able to add.. but I do know some people that I could cut seeing as they aren't family it would be easier this way.

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  • Maegan
    Super July 2018 British Columbia
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    Invite for sure. Our list was already as small as we were willing to make it and it would be incredible hard to make our list any smaller.
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  • Marcia
    Super August 2018 Manitoba
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    I would cut if I could!
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    I cut that many from the list prior and close to the date.
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  • Amanda
    Curious July 2019 Alberta
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    Cut 20 more. are invite list is so long

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  • Sara
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
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    I'd add more people, there are so many people I would've wanted there but there were too many factors for them not being able to

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  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
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    Cut if I could

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    If we could afford it, add. If we couldn't afford it, cut.

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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
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    We cut people but then added some to our list. We likely added around 20-30 to be honest.

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  • Alexis
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
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    If money wasn't an issue, I'd invited more.
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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
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    I rather add. in ways I wouldn't because of costs but in the end if they were on the original list and we didn't really invite much friends I would rather add.

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  • Clarissa
    Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
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    Definitely cut. I wanted a very small wedding to begin with but my fiancé has a large extended family on both sides and feels obligated to invite them all. I do have a few more friends I would of added to the list but we were already over capacity for the venue. His mom said cut and do with the list as you wish but he still won’t cut any of them (or the unnecessary plus ones)
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  • Amanda
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Invite. I could easily do that. I didn’t invite any of my cousins that live out of province. And we’re having a buffet dinner, so that’s easy to take care of too.
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  • Meghan
    Frequent user August 2018 Newfoundland and Labrador
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    Cut! Although we have more people who we would like to invite, our venue just won’t allow for it.
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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
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    I’d rather cut 20 more guests. The more intimate the better
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  • A
    Frequent user October 2018 Ontario
    Amanda ·
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    Probably have to say invite 20 more guests..I don't like thst thought of having to exclude anyone. Though my guest list is pretty complete...don't know if we even have another 20 we could add lol
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  • Mandy
    Devoted July 2019 Alberta
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    Cut 20 guests
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  • Trinity
    Beginner May 2020 Ontario
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    Cut! Smaller the better. Currently at 98 ...hoping that is it lol
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Cut, we’ve invited 375 guests and couldn't imagine adding anymore!!
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  • Jessica
    Super March 2018 Ontario
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    Cut, cut, cut! We had originally invited over 200 people to our wedding, and we ended up with around 120. It was truly perfect, and I'm so glad people said no. While it would have been amazing to have them on the day of, I got to save money, and the reception was much more intimate!

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    We are not finialized our guestlist, we've saved spots for new friends we make here in BC as well as a few maybes back home. So I'd add 20 it's in the budget.
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  • Leah
    VIP April 2019 British Columbia
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    Cut. The smaller the better.
    We’re inviting 80. Planning for 50. Hoping for 30.
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
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    Invite 20 more. We had a hard time cutting it down as it was. And, our venue could hold more than what we invited
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  • H
    Curious September 2018 Ontario
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    Cut! We are having an intimate wedding of approx. 25 people. If we cut 20 we can elope just the two of us with our parents which we considered also.

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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
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    Cut. Which it sounds like we will be able to do. My fiance's grandma passed away a week after our engagement, so at the funeral, my FH was reunited with a bunch of family he never usually sees, and then we made our guest list a week or two later... Big mistake. Anyways, his parents have given us the thumbs up to cut a bunch of extended family, now that the novelty has worn off. So we may actually get back down to about 100 people that we originally wanted, by cutting about 15-20 people.

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    Cut 20. I wouldn't have wanted to add 20 as it was already costing enough lol

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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
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    Cut 20 definitely. There’s people on there I’m not sure I’ll actually give invitations too and it’s been three months since we made the list
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  • Stephanie
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    20 more! The more the merrier!

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  • Chloe
    Super May 2018 Ontario
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    I’d rather cut 20! I wanted 100 people and we’ve got 116, so I’d there was a way we could cut it down to 100, I’d be happy.
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Cut 20, we want a smaller wedding but since my parents are paying for the reception, they have a list of their friends they want.

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