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Who's in your Party?

Carine, on June 13, 2022 at 12:52 Posted in Wedding ceremony 0 40

Who is in the wedding party? (how did you decide, how many people, if you're skipping it entirely, how do you know them, or how long you've known them, if you're including siblings or future in-laws)

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Latest activity by Carine, on December 8, 2022 at 10:28
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    Carine ·
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    Less stress that way. Sounds like you both have amazing friends and family.

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    Carine ·
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    I think that is great, it's nice to have the kids there and I am sure they appreciate being included.

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    Featured September 2022 Alberta
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    We had 3 aside in our wedding party. My wife's and my best friends were matron of honor and best man respectively, her youngest daughter and a co-worker of mine were her bridesmaids. Her son and brother were the other groomsmen. We had originally planned 4 a side but 2 declined for various reasons, so rather than try to find new ones we stuck with what we had.
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  • Liza
    Newbie October 2023 British Columbia
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    Second marriage for both of us so we decided to keep things small and intimate. No "wedding party" per se but we are having our kids stand up with us.

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    Carine ·
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    I know a few people that did that and it was still beautiful. My MOH is planning mine, but really I am, feel odd getting her to pay for my shower and Bachelorette parties, things are expensive as it is, so to have someone do it all on their own I just can't.

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    We didn't have one! We did have to chose who signed the license but we didn't have anyone walk down the aisle. I've been MOH twice, once for my older sister and once for my University room mate (so practically family) so it stressed me out too much to chose someone, I also have another unmarried sister etc. There was less drama but also I didn't have a bachelorette or shower because I wasn't going to plan one myself and I guess there was no one whose 'job' it was.

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    Carine ·
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    Friends are the family you chose. Smiley winking

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    Excellent! It's fortunate that you had a backup lined up for something like that. It's good that you have people so close to you for a wedding even when they are not blood relatives.

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    Carine ·
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    I think that sounds great! My FH decided he wanted to add a 3 person to his side, luckily I had a back up on standby who said yes.

    I have 3 great people on my side who are not blood relatives but I consider my sisters. and he has his brother and two childhood friends.

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  • Vinod
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    4 wedding party only which consisted a colour to each side. 2 MOHs and 2 BM (Best Man).
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    Featured September 2022 Alberta
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    We are having 3 a side. Originally the plan was to have 4 a side but we had 2 people decline, 1 for very strange reasons. In any case we felt it was easier to just stick with the numbers who said yes. Both my best friend and hers are serving as best man & matron of honor (respectively), while her daughter and a dear co-worker of mine are serving as bridesmaids. Her son and oldest brother are serving as groomsmen (I have no surviving siblings).
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  • Yami
    Frequent user October 2022 Ontario
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    Thank you for the assurance, Carine! 🤗
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    Carine ·
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    That's why I decided to cut to two each, he would have 3 on his side and I've 10. lol

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    Carine ·
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    Nothing wrong with that, I 've been to two weddings where they did not have a wedding party and it was just as perfect.

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  • Yami
    Frequent user October 2022 Ontario
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    Skipping the wedding party! Most of my best friends and my sister won’t be able to fly in so we just decided to not have any.
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    Our wedding party is a bit uneven but we're happy with it!

    My fiance has a total of 5: 4 of his closest friends (1 will be the best man) and 1 of his cousins.

    I have 8 on my side (oops haha). 2 are my fiance's sisters, my niece, 1 BFF from elementary school, 2 friends from high school, and 2 friends I met while serving.

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    Carine ·
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    The OCD in me felt the same we needed even numbers. I just wouldn't be able to look at our photos with uneven numbers. lol.

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    Carine ·
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    That sounded perfect, and so true, friends are the family you get to choose. Smiley heart

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  • Kelsey
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    We both have 4 on each side. My FH has 4 friends, 2 male and 2 female. I have my 3 closest friends and my sister. We are having my FHs sister and grandfather do our ceremony, so we have everyone included. It was an easy decision.


    For my brain, I needed balance on both sides haha. Not saying everyone has to, but that visual balance brings me peace. I could have easily picked a few more friends, but we settled on 4 each.
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  • Danielle
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    My bridal party was absolutely such an easy decision. I wanted to keep it on the smaller side and we weren’t concerned with having the same number of guys and girls so we both chose without that pressure. My MOH was my sister, bridesmaids were my sister-in-law, and two close friends I met 10 and 12yrs ago at the same job. My Jr. bridesmaid was my 10yr old niece/littlest bff. It was also important to me to choose a group of girls I absolutely knew would hit it off and get along so well Smiley smile They all said speeches at the wedding that I watch back teary eyed - I could not have chosen a better group of girls. It’s a beautiful thing to have friends that feel like family and family that feels like friends Smiley smile
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    Yes absolutely!!!
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    That’s great to include friends and family.
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    That really does suck but an eye opener. I find weddings closes so many doors on friendship and opens your eyes to who you thought were your friends. No bad blood just don’t have time for games like that.
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    I feel the same we have 40 and we chose two people. The one friend that might be the jealous one gave me attitude and said she probably won’t be going to my wedding because she already has 4 before I could tell her the date. After the attitude she was like when’s your date when I told her she was like oh okay I have no wedding so far for next year. So I’m kind of glad not have picked her. And my other bestfriend she lives far and her coming depends on budget so I gave a role but if she doesn’t come no biggy.
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    Bridesmaids were all family (sister and cousins) + 1 best friend of hers. Groomsmen were cousins and close friends of 10+ years.

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    Expert October 2022 Alberta
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    For me, it was an easy pick on my side. My ride or die, sister from another mister, bestie of over 20 years. My FH picked 3 guys, his brother (BM) and 2 best friends (GM).

    When we were originally discussing our bridal party, it was a concern on both our parts, as he really wanted at least the 3 guys involved and I really only had the one. I could of scrapped together 2 other girls to fill the spots, but would have felt forced, and I didn't want him to not have who he wanted by his side. So we are going uneven and Im so happy with those choices.

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    Nope she was extremely mad at me. And I was heart broken because I did my best at trying to include all the girls in something but it was hard with Covid. She can be very selfish. So I’ve just distanced myself from her , unfortunately I am not as close with her anymore but it’s just not my focus! If she can’t be happy for me the way I would be for her then that’s fine! I have lots of people in my life who do love and support me ☺️
    But kinda the reason why I didn’t choose her as a maid of honour in the first place because she can be catty lol so it kinda proved my point but it’s still a huge honour to be apart of our wedding and be in the wedding party but that wasn’t good enough for her lol
    Yes def Hard when she lives so far away! But this all happened in September so there isn’t bad blood between us we just aren’t as close which I’m fine with! I’m close with all my other bridesmaids 🥰
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    We're also have a small wedding of about 60 people. I didn't care if people got jealous if they weren't picked to be apart of the wedding party. It's your day and you are able to choose whoever you want. Alot of people these days just assume things lol. So we just picked one each and that was that. I'm so glad that we only have one each. It was so easy to pick out suits and bridal party dresses without so much hassel
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    My side, is 1 daughter is MOH, other 2 are BM's, my bestie is also a BM, my granddaughter is my flower girl (she'll be 8), my 2 grandsons (5 and 13).
    He hasn't figured out his side yet 🤣
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    Same I will be 42 when I get married. It's nice to have that support and nice to include your ride or die's kids as well.

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    Ya that is tough, my FH trust his brother more than his friends so that is why he decided to have his brother.

    He recently made a friend through my MOH's boyfriend so we laughed that if his groomsman backs out last minute, we can ask him to join.

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    Carine ·
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    Did she say that jokingly? Distance also made a huge impact on my decision as well. Hard to help plan a wedding when you aren't a drive away.

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