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Which came first - Telling your friends or telling your family about your engagement?

Joey, on April 30, 2018 at 09:21 Posted in Before the wedding 0 42
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Once the big question was popped and the "YES!" was given, who did you tell first? Was the very first person you shared the news with a friend, or a relative?

Which came first - Telling your friends or telling your family about your engagement? 1

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on November 3, 2018 at 21:08
  • Stephanie
    Beginner May 2019 Ontario
    Stephanie ·
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    FAMILY!!! In fact I DID NOT tell any friends or post on social media until all of my family was informed directly from me.

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  • Andrea
    Devoted January 2021 Ontario
    Andrea ·
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    Family! Told one of my sisters first.

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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
    Kaisha ·
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    I called my mom first but she wasn't home so I told my friend because I needed to tell someone.

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  • Leanne
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
    Leanne ·
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    Family, then friends

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  • Jessie
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
    Jessie ·
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    We messaged his best man first because he told us first when he was going to propose to his wife.

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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
    Rachael ·
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    My fiancé and I told our families first; my fiancé told his parents and his eldest brother he intended to propose months before he did (and he told my mom two weeks prior to. He was too scared to ask/tell my dad, which was silly because my dad likes him). Smiley tongue

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  • Marcia
    Super August 2018 Manitoba
    Marcia ·
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    Telling my family first (they already knew he was going to propose though!).

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  • Marleau
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
    Marleau ·
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    My mom and sister were 1st followed by my dad, best friends, and FH family. It was a very exciting day that was caught on camera by an amazing friend!
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  • Clarissa
    Expert October 2018 Saskatchewan
    Clarissa ·
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    My sister quickly followed by my friends and then my parents later. My parents would of been first but my mom was working and I wanted to tell them together. My parents and sister already knew so i didn’t think it was a big deal to tell my friends first.
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  • M
    Devoted August 2018 Ontario
    Megis ·
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    Family first. Quickly followed by friends
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  • Taylor
    Frequent user June 2018 Ontario
    Taylor ·
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    Family first because my parents were on their way to my house already and my fiancés family was next store at the farmers market! Then I sent a text to close family/friends to let them know
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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    Family first beacause they needed more time than everyone else (cousins, aunts and uncles).
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  • Charmaine
    Curious September 2018 Ontario
    Charmaine ·
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    Family...parents first, then siblings, nieces, nephews and then friends.
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2018 Alberta
    Amber ·
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    Family! We were in Banff and it was in the evening, shortly after it happened I called my mom then my sister.

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  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
    Michelle ·
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    We were on vacation with his family so his parents, aunt and uncle were the first few ppl to know

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    Family. We were in Mexico and it was 3:30am so we had to wait 2 hours until my mom and sister were getting up back home to tell them. We didn't tell our friends until much later in the day after all our family had been told.

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  • Tracy
    Devoted September 2018 Ontario
    Tracy ·
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    Family! My sister and her husband were the first to know as we live in the same townhouse complex then we drove my parents then to his parents then his brother and his fiance.
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  • Summer
    Devoted May 2019 Ontario
    Summer ·
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    My FH proposed at Christmas so I didn’t have to tell the majority of my family. The first person I text was my best friend! She was so excited!!
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  • Lor
    Frequent user August 2018 Ontario
    Lor ·
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    I called my 2 best friends, then my mom, his mom, brother & sister in law, my dad and then Facebook.
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  • Amanda
    Super August 2018 Alberta
    Amanda ·
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    I called my parents first. Once I stopped crying. Haha
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  • Leah
    VIP April 2019 British Columbia
    Leah ·
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    The big question was never really popped. We’ve been living together for some time and have immigration paperwork filed and are kind of doing things the way my parents did things...It’s just a thing that is happening because we’re grown and have decided that this is what we want. My parents have been our confidantes/guides from the start and support what we’re doing and so has his sister (his parents are deceased☹️).

    We’ll be sending invites within the month to extended fam and friends.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·
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    I told my parents first but my friends who were their for it obviously knew about it first lol. My FH called them earlier the same day so they were waiting for a phone call later that night!

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  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
    Courtney ·
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    Some of my friends (my three close girlfriends) knew before my family! Only because they knew I suspected we'd get engaged that weekend.

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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    Immediate family, friends, extended family
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  • H
    Newbie September 2020 Ontario
    Hollie ·
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    I sent my mom the picture of the ring and wrote finally underneath lol so family!!
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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
    Erin ·
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    I called my mum and then texted a few friends and we told his parents later that day.

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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
    Valérie ·
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    My parents, then his, followed by his sibling and finally my close cousins. After the news was received, we posted an instagram photo.

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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
    Brittany ·
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    We were with my mom and step-dad (all out for a Christmas outing), so they found out minutes after. Then we called my dad, his parents, and my sisters. Then we messaged certain friends.

    Once we both agreed everyone who should find out more personally knew, we did a social media post.


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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    Our parents then our siblings and friends.
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  • Lydia
    Devoted June 2019 British Columbia
    Lydia ·
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    We Skyped our parents the next day (we were away for a weekend and our parents live on the other side of the world basically), after that I texted a couple of friends and about a week later we posted it to the rest on social media.
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  • Colleen
    Curious October 2018 Alberta
    Colleen ·
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    Parents first, then bothers then friends

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  • Sydney
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
    Sydney ·
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    We were in Jamaica, so we FaceTime’d our parents right away! Then we told our friends 😊
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