When to have both a Maid of Honour and a Matron of Honour?

You can ask 2 people, just make sure they know what you expect of them and how to divide the role. For example, I was a co-MOH. She stood beside the bride at the front and signed the registry, I did the toast. We planned shower and bachelorette together.

If one is married, she should be called matron of honour.

It’s your wedding. You can do whatever you want. I have two best friends so I am having two maid of honours. And I also have a huge family so I am having 6 bridesmaid so 8 girls in total.

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That sounds like a fair compromise and beautiful way to make them a part of your wedding! Thank you!

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Thanks Tori!! Really appreciate your feedback and input.

Thanks Gina! This helped me a lot.

1. absolutely you can have 2. your day, your relationships with them, your choice

2. I've actually never seen the matron title unless the MOH is way older. My MOH is married. I still keeping said maid of honor. who cares.
3. its truly up to you and FH. my FH was adamant that we have even numbers on each side and 4 people on each side. I was ok with it being uneven (I wanted 5. and he has 4). he was strong on it. so I went with him on it. but it truly doesn't matter.

4. 6 isn't too many if you want that. I personally wanted a max of 5. in terms of eliminating. I struggled a bit with this. but I really was fortunate in that my friends/family would never hold it against me. I looked at who I saw with me for the rest of my life and supporting me/our relationship. and that was a big deciding factor. and I looked at other ways I could include them (for example my 2 cousins I wanted. and decided not to. and they came with me dress shopping. they are lighting a candle in memory of our grandpa. I have kept them in the loop on all my planning. and my bridesmaids know to keep them involved bachelorette wise).

Q1) Nope. I couldn't pick between my sister and cousin for MOH, but one's married so it made it easy to make one Maid and one Matron. Of course, now my cousin is out of the wedding party so I'm back to just one MOH.

Q2) Although in the past it aged them, nowadays I don't think it's a problem. Matron literally just indicates they are married. If you think about it too much, you could even say being labelled "Maid of Honour" highlights that you're not married... Haha. I would just go with the appropriate titles.

Q3) It's totally up to you! It's your wedding, do what you're happy with. I have 3 ladies (MOH, 2 bridesmaids), I was going to have 4 but my best friend is in school in England. My FH has 7 groomsmen... SEVEN... our guest count is approx 100 people. It's totally lopsided, and not necessarily ideal, but it's important to him, and that's what matters.

Q4) If you are able to eliminate one, they probably shouldn't have been in the bridal party to begin with. I tried to get my FH to cut back his list and he just couldn't do it. Those ladies who will be standing with you have been picked for a reason, the size of your wedding shouldn't alter that.

1) Not too much at all! My FH is having 2 bestmen in fact! I was considering doing the same with having 2 maids of honour but to be realistic there are 3 that I would want if i do increase it and then it would be 3 MOH and only 2 BM... I'll be sticking to one.

2) I would stick with the matron title but if you are worried that they might take offence to it then you could ask them what they would prefer? I mean you could just call them the MOH and they wouldn't question it either Besides, I'm 21 and getting married at 22... If I was picked for a MOH title I would want the matron title but I wouldn't be "old" or anything!

3) Never too much! Lol I will have 5 on my side and my FH will also have 5. My Mom and Dad had either 7 or 8 on each side! Even if you are having a small wedding - the pictures will be of the wedding party not of the guests next to the wedding party! Besides, if they mean a lot to you then they should be by your side on your big day.

4) N/A because 6 is fine! lol

With that being said, CONGRATS on the engagement and welcome to the wedding wire community!

1. It’s totally fine to have 2! Lots of people do it!

2. I don’t think the title is a huge deal to be honest! Most people just call them Maid of Honour, and no one will question any different.

3. & 4. IMO it’s never to much or too little. I personally don’t connect the size of a wedding to the size of a wedding party. You should have the people you want up there with you, no matter how many! Don’t cut anyone just because of your guest head count. I personally love the look of big wedding parties too!