When guests don't RSVP

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I sent an online invitation (I am from Brazil, I live in the USA and so my fiancée) but we are getting married in Ontario because his mom is sick.

Every other week I resend the invitation to the guests that did not replied. By end of February I will start emailing the people that never RSVP. bu Mid March I want to have a hard number. My wedding is in June.

View quoted message Call your guests personally or send an email to notify them the date has passed for the rsvp.

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It should be common courtesy. I'm actually starting to think there is no such thing. Same as common sense. It's a myth! (This is how I feel after a tough day at work...)

Are wedding is in August and we are sending out our invites I believe in March once we can decide on a place to have the wedding (his parents or my parents). We then will give them 2 months to reply and then we will send out our 2nd string of invites for those who are on our "waiting list" so to speak than give them 2 months. I'm sure there will be some who are late. My best friend at her wedding didn't get some RSVP's back including one from one of our friends in high school. It was even postage paid. Don't understand.

We are thinking about just using email as a way of confirmation or calling as we are having a buffet so no need to know if they want chicken or beef. There will be both lol. Also paper and stamps just cost so much more these days and trying to cut out some of our costs.

We are having 60 people and hopefully people that can't attend will RSVP. If they don't I assume they aren't going to attend.

View quoted message Your right it is common courtesy. Clearly people forget but after I send out a reminder I shouldn't have to do anything else. We are planning a wedding, we shouldn't have to worry about people who don't RSVP

View quoted message I'm with you 100%. I'll sent the invite with the RSVP and deadline, give one reminder and after that they are done. No seat, no food, no wedding. It sounds mean but it's not, it's common courtesy to reply yes or no and if they can't bother then not my problem.

Hmm I didn't really consider this. I honestly don't want to bother with running people down. Depending on the people if you don't RSVP then they don't get a seat. Is that too mean or cut throat? How can one expect to have a seat if they never RSVP. Why should we pay for a plate because someone may or may not attend. We are sending save the date emails. So maybe I'll send a reminder email to RSVP.

We just mailed our invites out and stated that rsvp's need to be in by the 1st of March giving us a month to chase people down if needed. Hopefully this is plenty of time, as the venue needs final counts a few weeks prior.

I haven't thought of this yet! I like to think that I know my guests well enough that they will all respond on time...although everyone who has already gotten married said people backed out last minute. Everyone. So, at the moment I'm not thinking about it. When it gets to that point, I think we will contact them, then have someone else contact them (someone they know better, depending who it is), and then send them the link to the wedding broadcast and let them know they can watch the ceremony live the day of since they are not able to join us.

I'm so nervous about this! This stresses me out lol but we have a plan. A week before the RSVP date we will call and remind them to send the RSVP and if they don't then they will be marked down as not attending. If someone says they are unsure then we will thank them and tell them we will miss them at the wedding. It's common courtesy to reply regardless if you're going or not and on time. Unfortunately if you don't for our wedding that will get you off the list. We can't have maybes floating around.

Oh man, reading this is stressing me out lol we haven't sent out our invites yet. We get married in June and are sending them out by the end of this month. We put the RSVP date as 2 months before the wedding. I'm hoping we don't have to play cat and mouse to get ahold of people! Especially because the majority of our guests are coming in from out of town.

We have 4 months until our rsvp deadline, and I handed most of the invites out 4 months ago... but we have had maybe 20/150 people rsvp. And it is totally nerve wracking. I was kinda hoping I wouldn’t have to call up 100+ people to see if they’d be coming to our wedding or not... here’s hoping I get a few phone calls in the next 4 months!

I enlisted the help of the moms for making calls to people who hadn't RSVP'd depending on who the person was and how well I knew them. If I couldn't get a response, I assumed they weren't coming and was prepared to tell them that if they showed up expecting dinner! If you can't RSVP, I can't feed you!

Thankfully, that didn't happen and everything worked out! Our deadline was a month before our wedding, so it gave us enough time to get in touch with people.

We had a few people who missed the deadline but we had given ourselves plenty of time to contact them. We got married September 30 and our RSVP deadline was in July. We had lots of people coming from near and far so we wanted to make sure that we had the time to connect with them should they miss the deadline. This is one of the reasons I do not suggest leaving invitations until 2 months before the wedding like most website and etiquette articles seem to suggest. It does not give the couple enough time to chase down people who didn't RSVP.