Wedding Registery -monetary Based

We didn't write anything on the invite, and received about 95% monetary gifts. I had a few people call in advance and ask if there was anything we needed, and we were flying in for the wedding, so said we couldn't take much back with us on the plane, while the gifts we did receive were personalized and artsy, which I really appreciated. Now a days I don't think you need to request it, as most people just give cash anyway.

Guests are not obligated to give anything, but the rule of thumb is pay for your plate (about $100 per person). I had some guests give nothing, while others gave way above the cost per plate. Don't expect anything, and you will be pleasantly surprised with the total!

We are in the same boat as you and decided to put the link to our wedding website on our invitations. I did an FAQ section on our wedding website and included the 'no registry' question by saying something cheesy. Also knowing we're having a small wedding, most people we're going to invite know that money is what we're really going to need more than anything.

Typical etiquette is enough to cover the plate but usually its in good taste just not to mention it. Like everyone said so far, it's okay to mention it in a roundabout way, but let the guests have the say. Most will go above and beyond if not out of love, then out of societal obligation.

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It's probably the Italian in me that makes me think it's normal lol.

View quoted message I think the monetary wedding gifts were customary before registeries. My only reference is seeing it in the movie "Goodfellas". Going to ask my mother in law what she did for hers.

I believe that so long as you don't have a registry, people will give you monetary gifts. I personally always gift money even if there is a registry (which there never has been) and I think a lot of other people probably do too.

We just mentioned our wedding website on the invitations, and on the wedding website we have a little poem. We have been together 9years and have 2 kids, so there is almost nothing you can get us haha. I tried to make it sound cute because it feels so weird to ask people to come to a party and give you money, especially when you know that some of your loved ones attending are not as well off. I found different ones onlone and added my own twist.
As we’re getting married we thought it would be fun,To move into a brand new home — we need to get it done.As wedding gifts are bulky and we’re a little short on space,A small financial gift could help us buy a new place!But if you have your heart set,on putting something in a box,We created this registry, because we already have socks!

View quoted message Yeah I don't want to be rude and I'm well aware my guests come from different financial situations. I'll probably use something like your quote in the invite. Thanks

I’m thinking I will put on the invitation “monetary gifts preferred.” There is no specific amount you can ask for but it’s right etiquette for people to at least try to cover their plate. So 100 dollars I would think.

Etiquette says you don't mention gifts, money, registries on the invitations at all. However, most people do. You can say something like "Gifts are not expected however if you would like to give, monetary gifts towards upgrades to our home would be appreciated"

There is no obligation as to how much someone can give. I've heard guests should pay the equivalent of the meal cost, but I don't think you should ask for a certain amount. Some people will give less, some more.