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Wedding Reception Traditions

Holly, on April 5, 2018 at 20:45 Posted in Wedding reception 0 33
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Hello Ladies and Gents!

I was reading through different articles on here and it had me wonder what traditional reception things are you definitely keep and/or definitely cutting? Such as cake cutting/face smash, garter/bouquet toss, first dances, etc?

We are definitely keeping the garter and bout toss, we think it'll be fun, play fun old fun songs to get everyone in the mood for it. Our guests will definitely have a good time with it. We are also probably cutting the cake cutting, we don't get why it's a big deal especially since we both hate the idea of smashing it in each other's faces. So we will probably skip that all together and just have the cake on display untill it's ready to be cut by a worker and served.

Anyone adding any non traditional things to the reception? Anything fun, unique and different?
I'd love to hear your plans!

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Latest activity by Erin, on April 16, 2018 at 14:01
  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    We kept speeches and first dances but otherwise everything else was cut.

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  • Sara
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
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    We are doing the 'cake' cutting for pictures - but no smashing cake as we will be having cheesecake instead of actual cake, also won't be saving a piece as it will probably go bad.

    We are doing first dances, our respective parents are excited.

    We are doing bouquet/garter toss, we think its fun Smiley smile

    And i'm going traditional for the ceremony of staying at my parents' the night before and my FH won't see me until I'm walking does the aisle - I really want to see his face.

    I also want to do the something old, new, borrowed and blue

    Also, we're a bilingual couple, so my speech to my parents and family will be in Spanish, with a summary in English - I'm not translating the whole thing.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    - We will cut the cake and take pictures (although if he smushes cake in my face there may be an annulment Smiley xd )
    Lol this is hilarious!!! I feel the same way!
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  • Brandi
    Curious July 2019 Alberta
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    We are not doing the garter toss and probably not doing the bouquet toss either.

    We wont be doing the cake cutting since we aren't doing a traditional cake, we are buying cheese cake and various pies.

    I am undecided on the first dance, I don't really like to dance but I feel like it is pivotal to having a reception with a dance floor.

    We are doing first look photos. We are doing all of the photos before the ceremony since we are having an evening ceremony & reception.

    I am either going to have my little brother or my mom walk me down the isle.

    Im unsure what else we will or will not be doing.

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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
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    We are doing a first dance but inviting other couples to join us during the second verse.

    We are not doing the cake or the garter/bouquet toss.

    I want to sneak off for some late night photos!

    We are probably skipping the kissing game as well since we can't think of anything fun for our guests!

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  • Candace
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
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    We are going to be doing the cake cutting but not smashing in each other's faces, the garter toss, bouquet toss, first dances, and the speeches.

    We are cutting the whole "clink glasses for a kiss" thing and we aren't doing a big fancy exit at the end of the night, and saving some of the cake for a year later.

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  • Breanne
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
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    Oooh good question.

    Traditions and what we are doing:

    - FH will not see me before the wedding (we will likely do the picture where we are each on one side of a door/wall because we will be getting ready in the same hotel)

    - I will be doing the something borrowed, blue, old and new

    - I don't think I will wear a veil (but I bought one just in case)

    - My dress is not white (more of a champagne/ivory) which is probably fitting lol

    - Dad is walking me down the aisle

    - There will be an open bar

    - Untraditional cocktail/action station dinner instead of a sitdown - more of a mingling atmosphere

    - Doing the first dance, father/daughter, mother/son

    - We will cut the cake and take pictures (although if he smushes cake in my face there may be an annulment Smiley xd )

    - We will not be saving a piece/tier for our anniversary (freezer space is at a premium in our house)

    - No bouquet/garter toss - we are both in our 30s and a large portion of our friends are already married so we thought we'd skip it

    - Will not do clinking for kissing (no sit down dinner so it wouldn't work)

    - Hoping to do sparklers later at night

    - My favourite non-traditional part - I booked lawn games to rent for our wedding (giant jenga, ring toss, giant connect 4 plus we have bocce ball, ladder ball) so people can play outdoors during the reception!


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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Definitely doing bouquet toss, on the fence about the garter toss. Have to see if FH wants to do it.

    Definitely NOT cake smashing, might do a cake cutting photo but I don't see the point in that. Also not going to save a slice for a year... I want to have my cake and eat it too lol

    We'll have a first dance, and my dad will probably want to do a father/daughter dance, but FH's mom is not in the picture so he will likely not do that. Torn about wedding party dance, could be fun or just plain awks.

    Not doing glass clinking for kisses, might do bells and incorporate the bell as the favour or a kissing menu, or just skip it entirely.

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  • Christine
    Curious September 2018 Nova Scotia
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    We are doing the first dance father daughter and mother son we are really close to our family so this seems nice we are also doing the bouquet toss, garter toss because we think they are fun ideas and they only take a minute to do we are going to cut the first peace of our cake but no smashing and then get our caterers to cut and serve the rest
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Admin October 2016 North Carolina
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    We skipped the garter and bouquet tosses, and absolutely no clinking glasses for kissing!!

    We did a first dance and a father/daughter dance and cut the cake (but no face smash). I didn’t really think about the cake cutting at all before the wedding but knew it was a “photo moment”, and in hindsight it was the most awkward part of our reception!! To us it felt like a weird hovering picture moment and the photos we did get have us laughing and making weird faces at each other. 😝. I’m now team skip the cake cutting!
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  • Andie
    Expert May 2019 Ontario
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    Wow, that is hilarious 😆!
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  • Maegan
    Super July 2018 British Columbia
    Maegan ·
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    We are skipping just about all of it... No bouquet/garter toss, no cake cutting, no kissing when they clink glasses...

    the only thing we are kinda keeping is the first dance. But really after about 30 seconds we will have our wedding party join us and hopefully the floor fills up quick after that!
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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
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    We are going to give a bouquet to the longest married couple, instead of the bouquet toss. We won't be dong the garter toss but we will be keeping the cake cutting and first dance.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Yes I think so might as well Smiley smile
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    That's another reason we decided no wedding party dance. Our entire wedding party is in serious relationships so might as well have them dance with that special person.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    Yeah I didn’t think mine would be either but I just asked him and he’s fine with it haha
    I have a jr bridesmaid and he doesn’t have a jr groomsman so I think it would be awkward lol plus some of the people in our wedding party are married or in relationships and I think it’s nice if they can dance with their loved one instead if they want to get the dance floor warmed up that way or just welcome everyone out. I’m really not picky about it just want everyone to be comfortable
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    We have a kissing menu that we are going to do I'll post a picture of it. For us we didn't see the point of doing the bouquet and not the garter since they are connecting traditions and they go together. We originally were just going to do bouquet but my fiance loves the garter lol

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    We were going to skip the garter because I originally didn't think my fiance would be into it so since they go hand in hand I wasn't going to do the bouquet toss but he told me he really wanted to do them so we are. And I mentioned to saving the cake for my fiance and he almost threw up so that's not happening lol plus we live so far it wouldn't make it.. we are also skipping the wedding party dance, we have odd numbers so it won't work.
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    I originally didn't think we'd to he garter toss but my fiance really wants to and now it just makes more sense to do it since we are doing the bouquet toss and since they go hand in hand we agreed to do them. And that magazine is so funny!
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    I was considering doing a dance with my girls but we just won't have time since we all live so far apart.
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    Exactly if there are no single men or women then no point in the bouquet/garter toss. And that sounds like it will be really cool!
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    Exactly! I am not paying for hair and make-up just to get it ruined for no reason.. we are still on the fence about doing the parent dances traditionally or maybe incorporating it a different way..
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    We will NOT be kissing at the glasses..not thanks lol we have a "kissing menu" the only way we kiss is if someone does something on the menu. And the cigar bar..my fiance wants one and I'm totally down but that's on the back list so if we have room and the venue allows it then we will totally do it.
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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
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    I love the slide show idea! I wanted that but there is no TV area in our venue (it's a barn) and we don't really want to find a spot to set one up.
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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
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    No cake cutting/smash. No garter toss either, but I'll probably do the bouquet toss. We're on the fence about speeches, but we got lots of pushbacks from our families on that one. The only things we're 100% for sure keeping are the first dance and the dance with our mother/father.

    We'll ask the DJ suggestions for game ideas for the guests to do in order to get us to kiss.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
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    We’re keeping the garter/bouqet toss (bouqet for sure could see skipping the garter possibly) and cake cutting. I don’t really get the cake cutting either though, I was told it signifies the first thing you do as husband and wife but that’s not really true haha ... def not smashing it in each other’s face though! Just cutting a small cake, feeding it NICELY to each other lol we’re saving the rest and freezing it for our anniversary.
    We’re having our first dance and mother/son father/daughter dances and skipping the wedding party dance.
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  • Cathrine
    Devoted April 2018 Ontario
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    We are doing most of it. All the dances, bouquet toss, cake cutting. We are not doing the garter toss though as my FH isn’t into it.
    I’ve been reading a magazine called the Bride’s Survival guide that I got from a wedding show. It had a really funny section on the cake smash. Don’t sugar coat it magazine, right?



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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    The only traditional thing we’re doing is the first dance. We literally just don’t like cliches and it all is very unappealing to us. But to each their own!
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  • Karen
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
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    I'm doing all it all (cake, bouquet, garter, first dance, Father daughter dance and mother son dance). I'm also planning a dance routine with my bridesmaid and moh. My moh (sis) also made a slideshow.
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  • Janine
    Curious June 2018 Ontario
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    My Fiance is vehemently against the cake cutting, smashing or no. I see no reason for the garter toss, especially since I don't plan to wear one. I am not sure about the bouquet toss as most of my family and friends are already married. We will be doing the table toasting and pictures that is traditional to my Fiance's side, with the possibility of me being dressed in traditional Vietnamese dress.

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  • Nikki
    Curious September 2019 Saskatchewan
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    There will be no cake smash at our wedding, I am not paying well over $200 for hair and makeup only to have it coated in buttercream frosting and cake crumbs! Not sure if we will do an official cake cutting or not, we are serving cupcakes, but having our baker make a small 6-8" cake we can put a silly topper on.

    We aren't doing the traditional parent dances, it's our first dance, then the bridal party & parents join us for the next song, and then the floor opens up and the party gets going!


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  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
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    We're cutting a lot cause we aren't super into it.

    No Cake (so no cake smash), No Games such as garter tosses, bouquet tosses.

    I'm also hoping we won't have anyone tinkling glasses at us to get us to kiss.


    We're not adding too much at all. We just want it to be pretty simple with good music and good food and lots of booze. We'll have a cigar bar if that counts.

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