Wedding Party

We plan to have 3 on each side, for him his cousin and 2 sons, for me my best friend since the first grade, my cousin and my daughter. I have no siblings and he has 2 sisters and has been married before. We plan to have a traditional Filipino ceremony which will include 3 sets of sponsors so that way we can include other family members and friends so that they don't feel left out. Our flower girl and ring bearer will both be nieces of ours, we don't have any young nephews.

I think the number of guests also influences the number of people in your party, smaller guest list smaller bridal party and the other way around as well.

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The 13 year old is super excited and would like to be in a tux being the bouncer. LOL. The 20 year old may not want to be involved but we will let him make that decision.

I would love to have all my "kids" in our wedding but that would mean 1 flower pup, 1 flower girl, 5 Jr. bridesmaids, 2 ring bearers, 3 Jr. Groomsmen. I thought it was a little excessive.

I am thinking positively for everyone especially those who postponed to next year.

We had planned to skip the wedding party altogether. The only reason I have bridesmaids is to make it easier to explain to folks why they weren't invited to our ceremony this year because it's way easier to say "it's just immediate family and our wedding party".


I asked our closest couple friends to be our witnesses, and I asked my best friends to be bridesmaids and his to be groomsmen. It's a bit of a symbolic position because the wedding is small and there won't be a processional or speeches (next year when we have the big party that will be different).

I was originally going to have no one but then I thought it might look good for pictures. I have two on each side. My sister and his sister and then his brother and my brother. I potentially might add a third to my side because of hurt feelings but ultimately would like to just keep it to the two each

We have 3 on each side, plus a junior bridesmaid. My best friend, my close friend who's been with me since high school, his sister, his best friend, and my two sons (in their teens). The junior bridesmaid is my daughter, who will be 11 at the time of the wedding.


It was hard to narrow things down! We each have a few others we strongly considered asking, but we agreed we didn't want a huge wedding party since we're not having a huge wedding. We attended a wedding once where there were as many people standing up with the bride and groom as there were sitting in chairs and watching, and we swore that wouldn't be us!

Whoa, is four considered "big" now? I figured that was average. Most weddings I've attended had 3-5 people per side. The big ones to me are 6+ with the biggest I've seen being at 10 people per side + Junior bridesmaids + ring bearer/flower girl.

My fiancee and I are having four per side. In terms of family, I asked my two cousins to be groomsmen whereas her party is practically all made up of family: sister as MOH, with two cousins from her mom's side and her best friend as bridesmaids. Her best friend lives in the US though so if she can't make it, her spot will be taken up by another cousin from her dad's side.

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I know what you mean! So many of our friends have had big wedding parties and I'm thinking to myself how do I choose that many lol

I also think since we're at a limit for gatherings right now, we've made a great choice by only have one standing up for us on each side. That way we can have a few more of our family and friends attend our big day next summer

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That's wonderful to hear! I love how you're incorporating his kids in some way!

We are having kids at our wedding but it all depends on how next year plays out and if everyone is able to travel to BC with us for our wedding and if that happens, we'll have to adjust our guest list.

We had 2 each which seems to be quite uncommon. All of my married friends had at least 4 or 5 members on each side. It actually worked perfectly in the end since we had a microceremony with very few guests

We didn't want a big wedding party either so we have 2 each. My sister and my best friend for me and his best friend and closest friend for him. He had a harder time picking as this will be his second wedding so he chose people who didn't stand up for him the first time. We will also have NO kids in our wedding because I am a professional Aunt and have WAY too many kids in my life however we are incorporating his two kids somehow who are 20 and 13.

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That's awesome though! I'm an only child so I don't have any siblings that could stand up for me. But if I did, I probably would have them stand up for me as well!

Lol we are that couple with 6 each. He has our son,two brothers and 3 closest friends. I have my 2 sister in law and 4 closest friends. Two of my friends are sisters when lol. So it is a very close crew. I couldn't imagine without them. They are all close and there for us on so many levels.