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Kirsten
Frequent user October 2025 Alberta

Wedding party

Kirsten, on March 22, 2019 at 09:42 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 7
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Sooo... I have a problem. I have asked my wedding party but not in the official way of doing like the big proposals which I want to do at the end of the year.

As of right now my MOH is my big sister from my sorority and having my little sister as a co-MOH. Part of me is questioning whether or not I truly want to have my sorority sister as my MOH.

One of my childhood friends that I reconnected with last year has just been a god sent while I do bits and pieces of the planning process. He has also really helped with my anxieties that I have had from time to time. He is a part of my party but part of me wants him to have that important position. My biggest concern is that he is going into the military and may not even make the wedding. Although he said he will do anything he can to be there.

I'm just not sure what to do.

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on March 25, 2019 at 13:53
  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    My friend had three bridesmaids; none of them were given the maid of honour title. They all planned the shower/bachelorette together, did the speech together and one of them signed the registry.
    You could also have them each responsible for something different. One could plan the shower, one the bachelorette, one sign the registry, one make the speech etc to help share some of the MOH responsibilities.
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  • Kirsten
    Frequent user October 2025 Alberta
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    I might take this idea considering my everyone in my party is so important to me along with it being so small

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  • Hélène
    Devoted September 2019 Alberta
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    If they’re all really close to you, you could refer to all four as ‘honour attendants’. Then, if your good friend can’t make it due to his service, no one’s feeling put out or like they’re ‘back-up’ MOH.

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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    It would be nice to have another MOH though not knowing if he does leave before your wedding. Life has no promises of what can happen. Keep the party as you have it and don't change it unless your friend acknowledges he can be there for sure. As a guest he can be there and help with anything you need.


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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I would almost not have an official MOH role since you only have 4 and 2 kind of already have a MOH title.

    I started with 2 MOHs and 2 bridesmaids - one of the MOH's told me she'd rather just be a bridesmaid but still make a speech with the MOH, which I was totally ok with. I think your friend will already stand out if he's the only guy on your side - you could still have him say a speech if you want if he's able to make it.

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  • Kirsten
    Frequent user October 2025 Alberta
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    Ya that's the things is I'd almost rather switch them but I only have 4 in my wedding party so I couldn't do 3 MOH
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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    So you currently have 2 MOH's and want to add a 3rd?

    Why not?! Who cares? If he doesn't end up being able to make it then he can be an honourary MOH! You still get to mention all that he has done leading up to the day even though he may not be there physically with you on your wedding.

    At the same time - if your bridal party is only the 3 of them it's kind of weird to have them all be MOH - so you could also just not have a MOH?

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