Wedding invites

I'm setting an age limit for mine, my youngest sister is 13 so no one under the age of 13 will be allowed to attend. We have made an exception for our future niece or nephew as they will only be 1.5 month old and will still be breast feeding. So in total we have a 3-4 minors attending.

You can set up a 'cut off' in a couple different ways.

You could only invite kids who are IN the wedding. You could only invite nieces or nephews (like immediate family kids), you could invite no kids as well.

I would be cautious of the wedding party having their kids there... in theory they'll be pretty busy being in the wedding party with pictures and responsibilities, so it might be difficult to watch the kids too.

I think it's fair to only invite the children involved in the wedding. When I was young, my brother was the ring bearer in a wedding and him, the flower girl, and I were the only children invited (I was only invited because my brother was involved in the wedding).

I agree with Erin, setting an age cut off may help make things feel "fair" between families.

You could restrict the kid invites to young children under the age of 3 or 5 who will definitely need care. You could also just restrict it to babies. Keep in mind that by inviting children it will likely mean that their parents will leave earlier or the children will need supervision.

Many people won't have an issue finding a sitter for their kids as long as they have enough notice. We didn't invite any kids to our wedding except our niece and nephews as there was no one to watch them at home and some of them were in the wedding.