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Katelyn
Super October 2019 Ontario

Wedding Blues, Uninvited plus ones, Etc.

Katelyn, on June 25, 2019 at 18:49

Posted in Plan a wedding 39

Guys I'm so depressed. I'm 101 days out from my wedding. My bridal party almost entirely consists of unreliable, unhelpful people. My FH didn't bother to check with his guests if they needed plus ones before we sent the invites out and now we are getting people who have RSVP'd for two people when...
Guys I'm so depressed. I'm 101 days out from my wedding. My bridal party almost entirely consists of unreliable, unhelpful people. My FH didn't bother to check with his guests if they needed plus ones before we sent the invites out and now we are getting people who have RSVP'd for two people when the invitation was for one. His excuse was that the last time he spoke to them they didn't have partners. When was the last time he spoke to them you ask? A few years ago. I'm ready to about kill him. Everything is stressful and I am doing EVERYTHING myself on top of putting out constant fires being set off by bridal party or the groom. What am I supposed to do here? Is anyone else feeling this way?
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  • Katelyn
    Super October 2019 Ontario
    Katelyn ·
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    I appreciate the advice. To be honest my MIL is really not involved in the planning at all. And doesn't know any of the guests. My FH has agreed that any extras are his responsibility to pay for.
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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I think its a guy thing. My FH did the same thing, I had to go to his parents to get the addresses and who else was being invited to the wedding.

    This is the stressful part of planning, everything is coming so soon and getting close, so there is going to be a lot of stress! Like Chelsea said it will be worth it in the end. My FH keeps saying that he can't wait until the morning after when we wake up and open the cards lol.

    Take it day by day, and just really keep track of your numbers. You will get through this. And we are all here to listen to a good rant!

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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
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    Hi Katelyn, you have def hit the mark of yes the stressful freak out period! I have had such bad luck for wedding party- out of 6 girls 2 are helpful and I have had to drop to because of the things they say and how un-supportive they have become. As for the FH, I feel like this is typical. My FH told me he didn't care of his friends invited so I didn't invite any he didn't mention, and he still hasn't given out the reception cards because hes like they have time its not for while *Face palm* like OMG!!! Could kill him too ! Its so frusterating, I know things are hard right now but I promise it gets better. I felt like was stuck in a rut for little but have gotten out of it and its working out.

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    1st - Ya we are! (101 days out)

    2nd - I totally get that - my FH was basically no help (he did some asking for addresses but not many... and it required my nagging). Even if you can accommodate I would recommend making sure that the plus one's are warranted to just make sure that you don't go over your max. capacity. So, my guidelines are that they have to be in a relationship longer than 1 year by the time of the wedding, engaged, or we have met them and approve. (me and my FH were only together 10 months before getting engaged.)

    Plus, this is when you can throw your FH under the bus and blame it on him when you tell them that they only have 1 spot atm...

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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Its tough when you have to do everything and don't get the response you get on time. Guests assume they get to bring a guest when its on your expense. FH should understand you two are working hard and putting this day to be one. Have your MIL talk to the guests to let them know that the venue is booked and can't take more if you want to keep your numbers low.

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  • Katelyn
    Super October 2019 Ontario
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    I think we can accommodate because we have had a few decline. But I'm very frustrated.
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  • Chelsea
    Super June 2020 Alberta
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    Wedding planning is HARD. I personally am enjoying it way less than I had hoped to. Are you able to accommodate these additional plus ones, or are you now in a tough position?

    It sucks now, but it’ll all be worth it in the end!!!
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