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Walking down the aisle

Amyfanggg, on January 9, 2018 at 00:39 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 11

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Hi everyone. I am in a little situation. My wedding is in a little over 100 days and I don't know what to do about walking down the aisle. My dad was in an accident a little over a year ago that caused him brain damage and as a result he is paralyzed in the left side of his body. He is wheelchair-bound and he is completely dependent.
I discussed with my siblings (i have 2 older sisters and 1 younger brother -and my mom doesn't really want to talk about it) that maybe my brother can push my dad out and my mom can walk me down the aisle. At the same time, we'd feel guilty for not letting him do the honours.

Another idea I had is to have someone (either a brother in law or an uncle) push the chair while I hold my dad's hand to walk down the aisle. Also, if I do this, I would have to stand on the right side of my dad since he can't extend his left arm.
What do you think or do you have any other ideas? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Vinod, on January 11, 2018 at 11:35

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Vinod · On January 11, 2018 at 11:35
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Your dad is important to you and he can be part of your walk down along with your uncle or brother pushing him fro behind. Talk to him and let him know what your intent. If he is ok to go to forward with it, all good. If he feels he isn't able to do so, you did the rifht thing by asking. Don't feel guilty or bad because of the situation. Know you have gone the right direction and asked him.
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Candace · On January 9, 2018 at 21:14
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I would ask your dad what he would prefer if you do not have a preference between the two options. Knowing that you are trying to include him still would make him SOO happy I'm sure he wouldn't mind helping you decide
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Vanessa · On January 9, 2018 at 20:25
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I think whatever your able to include your dad in doing is the best idea of all. It is so unfortunate when things happen like this but if he is able to hold your hand no matter what side you are on will mean the world to him and to you. You can even include your mom as well. I'm lucky to have my dad too as he's survived cancer and his treatments and I'm contemplating walking on his right side as he has limited mobility from a farm accident the year before as it didn't fix his mobility in it and can't lift his left arm only bend at the elbow slightly.
Do what's best for you.
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Courtney · On January 9, 2018 at 13:57
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I love the second option, but really - either option would be a good idea I think.
It's nice that you're thinking so much on this but you need to do what makes you happiest
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Tatiana · On January 9, 2018 at 10:57
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I too think it's your day and you should do what makes you happy, i don't see an issue with you walking on the right, i am actually being walked down the isle by both my parents, so at the end of the day do what would make the day the most memorable for you
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Erin · On January 9, 2018 at 10:37
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I'm so sorry about what happened. I think it is great to include him in any way that you can. I think having both your parents or your whole family walk you down the aisle would be nice. Your brother can push your dad while you hold his hand, your mum could be on your other side and your sisters could walk behind with your brother if they want to. Though any way you do it is very sweet!
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Stephanie · On January 9, 2018 at 10:32
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I like the idea of someone pushing your dad so you can hold his hand. It doesn't matter that you would have to walk on the right side.
It really depends on what you want. My sister-in-law was going to walk down alone (she was in a bit of a riff with her dad at that time and he had said he wasn't coming) but he came and he wanted to walk her down the aisle. She did let him and in the end was glad she had.
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Maegan · On January 9, 2018 at 10:20
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I think it would be super cute if you were still able to hold his hand walking down the aisle. And it would probably mean a lot to him too to still have the honour.
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Ellen · On January 9, 2018 at 09:18
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I think you should include your dad in whatever way makes you happy. Ultimately it is your day and your memories. I really love the option of your being able to hold his hand down the isle.
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Ap2017 · On January 9, 2018 at 08:40
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I think that's a really sweet idea, too.
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Jen · On January 9, 2018 at 04:20
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First off, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. On the upside I'm glad he will be there with you to celebrate with you on your big day. I love the idea of somebody pushing him so that you can hold his hand. It would be so sweet.
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