Secret or Sharing? - Who's on your guest list

Happy to share about the guest list, but the seating arrangements are secret because I don't want input

No secrets! but no one has asked us!

Mostly secret. We have talked to both our parents about it and the MOH (my sister) and his best man (friend), but that's about it. Even with them, there was a lot of push back constantly with one parent on inviting more people than the venue could hold just to be polite! I want to minimize conversations like that because there is probably going to be enough of them the who's coming once the invites get mailed out.

We still need to finalize a lot in that department, so another reason it's not getting a lot of airtime.

It's not necessarily a secret, but now one has asked us! I guess if someone did, I wouldn't mind telling them though, but I guess on what their intentions are for knowing.

No one has asked me so no secrets to keep!!

No secret, but its annoying to be asked

Shared. Not many people bugged us about it so we shared with the few that did.

Been trying to keep secret but hard when others plan your bridal and need to know for that guest list.

This has been very frustrating especially with coworkers! I have found it difficult to cut people from our list and I hate when people ask is so and so is invited and why not.
ultimately it’s none of their business this is our day and we are inviting and paying for who we can’t see our wedding day going without

We were fairly secretive at first we knew we would have to leave a lot of people off the list and wanted to confirm before letting people know.

Not a secret at all.

Not a secret. it’s been a point of contention with certain people - cough mother in law cough - but i am adamant about keeping our guest list to who we want where, and not what other people want

This is mostly secretive. Exceptions being parents + bridal party

We shared to a degree... not many people asked though tbh

The only people who will get some degree of a say in the guest list are our parents so they'll be the only ones who know the details. And siblings if they ask.

Not a secret with the family about immediate family as to the question of was being invited. Otherwise a secret to everyone else not knowing who else was on our guest list.

Only our parents have asked about the guestlist but no one else really. If anyone does ask, we do share the info.

I didn’t talk about it too much.

No one has asked us. So secret I guess.

Other than our parents asking which relatives have been included on our guest list we haven't had anyone else ask us.

We haven’t shared but only because no one has asked.

We didn't share but it wasn't a secret. No one really asked us.

Sharing. Almost everyone knows each other.

I'm pretty sure everyone knows who's coming. It's not easy to keep 22 people a secret haha. They're basically all immediate family members and friends.

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On the flip side, I find it rude when someone asks me who's invited. Like it'll influence whether we're worthy enough to have them attend our wedding.

I agree 100% about the kids. That's the only part that I'll openly share : NO KIDS UNLESS SPECIFICALLY INVITED (which only applies to the ring bearer and flower girl!).

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Right? And I rather them ask me if such-and-such is invited rather than going to said person and having that person is could possibly not be invited have to tell them no. That is always awkward...

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100% agree with this. The kids thing is a no no ( except for our immediate nieces and nephews). If people want to know I will tell them, its better than hearing the complaining once they get the invite and aren't please with it.

I'm a very blunt person. If they want to know I will tell them. For the most part it will be a yes, that person is invited - but when they ask about kids... no... not invited. And I don't care how they feel about it.