Second guessing your planning choices

Our wedding planning was done by me and all decisions were solid. I take others and my own family talks as reconsideration. Know what you're wanting and look around before booking. Deposits will be gone and will have to fork more money out.

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I'm with you there! There are a few people that I keep giving the details to, but some people I now just tell them "you'll have to wait and see" or "we want that to be a surprise" because I don't want to hear their opinion or advice anymore! It's my wedding and I want to do it how I want it.

I put a lot of research into our options. I usually make a collage of ideas, for specific things, and send it to my FH. He picks his top 3 choices, from those, I narrow it down to 2. Then we make a decision from there. I try to include him in everything, but the "girly" details are my department. Haha. I feel great about our choices because we chose them together and it just feels good getting things crossed off the list. I've only made 1 small decision that I regretted (a sign). I chose another design the same week and had it printed. I tried to save $15, but I immediately regretted not choosing the one I really wanted just to save a few dollars.

I have the worst commitment issues when it comes to making decisions! It makes me crazy! I haven't learned how to deal with this, I just stay positive with whatever I have haha!

The more people give me "advice", the more I am second guessing. It has gotten to the point where I don't even want to share wedding details!

My FH has given me the option to pick out my own engagement ring and this is the thing I've changed my mind on quite a bit.

Due to some unfortunate issues involving the jewelry store, I have backed out on one ring that we had a hold on (refundable) and another one that we had made but didn't turn out correctly ($100 NON-refundable design fee).

Needless to say, I am stressed out and very upset. This has made me second guess everything. Aside from this community, I had completely abandoned my wedding planner due to the stress of this one issue.

My most valuable tool was talking things out with my husband. I am the one who goes waaaaayy overboard in the over-thinking department so it was nice having a level head to share ideas with and keep me on the even keel.

I heard a couple things about my photographer after I had booked. So I got nervous. BUT, then we had our engagement shoot and she told us our teasers would be up in a week but she had them up in three days. I was so impressed! Our photos took a little longer but she does a lot of photography so I didn't mind waiting. I was super impressed with them and bought them all.

I’m the type of person who changes her mind at least twice before making a final decision. I have learned very early on that this is not always possible with wedding planning. Once you’ve made a decision with certain things- that’s sort of it unless you are willing to sacrifice down payments and the wedding date. I have since had to rewire my brain into being satisfied with what I have and if not I would have to make changes with what’s already been decided. As much as I want a perfect day, as long as I’ve said I do to my best friend and we both are having an amazing time, the rest is secondary.

I think we have changed or at least thought about changing at least 80% of our decisions. Haha. It’s been a very “roller coaster” like experience.

We had decided to not go with a DJ and now we are talking about hiring one. It is something we are discussing together and with other people to find out pros and cons and their experiences.

I changed my MUA but that's the only thing I changed. I did that because she wouldn't answer my emails and when she did it felt like I had to pull information from her to get the answers that I needed.

For the most part, all of my choices were collaborative with my husband, so we put a lot of thought into our decisions and talked them out. There was a safety in that. I second guessed my dress like crazy, but I knew between the 2 that I was looking at, it would be the one my husband would most love on me and I knew it was beautiful, so I knew sticking to my guns on that was good. I chose it for a reason!