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Curious July 2018 Ontario

rsvp card and etiquette

Fiorina, on May 27, 2018 at 20:34 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 10

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Hello fellow brides,

i recently sent sent out my wedding invites (epppp!!!) and have received a couple RSVP responses. Problem I seem to be having is that on the line next to ‘will attend’ all I’m getting is a check mark and not a number of guests. In the cases of close family, I know exactly how many people but now I’m concerned some extended family will only check mark and not write numbers and therefore assume their adult children are invited (they aren’t. The invites only lists the parents names like my bridal shower invites however one relative took it upon herself to bring her adult daughter to the shower). I’m worried instead of the 2 invited and planned for, people will bring 4 or 5 people. Anyone know how to address this now that the invites have been sent? I’m trying to stay calm but I can not accommodate so many extra people.

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Latest activity by Bianca, on June 6, 2018 at 00:55

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Bianca · On June 6, 2018 at 00:55
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I would personally call those guests and say something straight forward like "Hi Aunt Tina, I got your RSVP back and wanted to confirm that you check marked for both you and Uncle John to come to the wedding" and if the mention any adult child, tell them that the invitation was just for her and your uncle.
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Jane · On May 30, 2018 at 03:33
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I would follow up with those guests and let them know that the invite was only for who it was addressed to, and for the purpose of keeping the numbers to a manageable sum there are no +1s or +2s. We had a few RSVPs ask to bring a +1, our response was pretty much that, I responded with something like "we are limited by the venue (little white lie) and are also trying to keep the list to our nearest and dearest, so at the moment, sadly we are not able to do +1s. if something changes, and we are able to accommodate them, we would be happy to."
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Rachael · On May 29, 2018 at 15:31
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I would follow up with the guests that have responded to you. If you call or email them, be sure to confirm the names the invitations were addressed to rather than asking them directly who is coming so that you're in control of the conversation; this way they can't list off who they intend to bring rather than who you actually invited.
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Jen · On May 29, 2018 at 09:22
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Follow up with people now and ask who will be coming to the wedding. We had to do that with a few people too.
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Vinod · On May 28, 2018 at 20:42
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Reach out by email to let them know who is invited and that space is limited. I had put the number to avoid any situations occuring.
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Stephanie · On May 28, 2018 at 17:49
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I agree with this! Follow up and state in your conversation the names of those invited when you ask how many will be attending.
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Marcia · On May 28, 2018 at 10:19
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I think you will have to reach out to all the guest that RSVP'd with a checkmark and not a total number. Let them know at that time you have a certain number of guest allowed and that the invitation is just for the names written on the card. You can also say, "Hello hope your doing well, i'm calling to do a final number for our guest list, you happened to checkmark the card, but I need a total number, will you and (name) be attending?" A nice way to let them know who is invited indirectly.
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Megis · On May 28, 2018 at 04:54
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You have to follow up with them. When you do state that you have room for a certain number of guests. This way you will get your numbers
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Fiorina · On May 27, 2018 at 22:00
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I might just use that guise of checking on numbers and budget! Thank you. I’ve had a lot going on (not only wedding stuff, but I work full time, am in school part time and we’re starting to move into our place) and I’ve been trying to figure out a nice way of saying to people that not everyone is invited - it’s just too much budget wise. I’m definitely going to have to be firm with this. Sigh the joys of wedding planning
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Geneviève · On May 27, 2018 at 21:50
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You could always reach out individually under the guise of checking on numbers and ask that they are aware that it's only them invited. The fact that someone invited their child to the shower with them does indicate that you might have some people assume their kids are invited (even when the invite says otherwise). It's better to clear it early rather than wait until later. If they start getting pushy, stay firm to what you want; it's not their day, it's yours. I always use the budget excuse, because people won't usually offer to pay for their guest.
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