Postponing

We did not postpone necessarily but like others, we had a long engagement because we wanted to save up and be able to cover the wedding in cash so to speak. On the one hand, the waiting is unbearable some days but on the other hand, knowing we will be debt free and we are having the wedding we want 100%.

It sounds like you are doing the best thing! The time will fly by and you can keep planning and chipping away at different things etc.

We didn't postpone due to the deposits paid down for most vendors and having the invitations made to the date. All other printing materials were made accordingly to the date.

We postponed our engagement so we hadn’t started planning yet. It was tough, but at the same time, I knew I would be getting my dream wedding if we waited another year. Now that it’s all over, we made the right decision. It was hard during that year to not think “ we could be married right now” but knowing we were setting ourselves up for financial success did outweigh that!

View quoted message Thank you! I'm feeling much better about the whole thing. I don't think I realized how stressed I was 24/7 about our finances - I would have nightmares that we had deposits everywhere that we couldn't make good on. Wedding planning is supposed to be at least a little fun!! Lol

View quoted message I completely agree with Kelsie!
We didn’t exactly postpone our wedding, but we didn’t want to rush planning and be stressed. He proposed in Feb 2018 and we could have done a fall wedding that year but we wanted to wait until this fall to have more time to plan and save.
It was far more less stressful and we had more than a year to save up for everything! It was a lot less stressful that way for sure! Take your time. There is no right or wrong time to get married, or a certain time it needs to be done . It will always be a little stressful, but giving yourself more time will feel much better!

Dont be upset!! ask the venue if you can switch the date to the following year you may not even lose your deposit cuz your still booking with your hall plus you still have a wedding date!! dont be sad!!

Hi!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Trust me - go with the LEAST stressful option if you both agree you don't mind waiting X year(s).

FH and I definitely want to have a family so we knew we were on a bit of a timeline because we also want to be married for a year or so before we start our family. If we were younger, we would've waited longer probably as well. So, this was also part of the stress for us as well.

Even if you decide to postpone, I hope you'll stick around WeddingWire to continue to update us on your planning!!

View quoted message The stress is definitely the biggest factor. We could probably manage, but I don't want to plan our whole wedding cutting corners and compromising and being too stressed to enjoy the process, and enjoy being with my FH.

We didn't postpone our wedding but we would've preferred to have been married sooner rather than later but 8 months was not enough time for us to be able to afford a wedding, never mind a house.

Trust me when I say, it is so much better knowing you have more time to save than trying to figure out how to make everything work. It also lifts the stress off your shoulders as well.

FH and I have been a little stressed here and there trying to get our down payment for a home together, plus paying the wedding down. So, I can relate totally to how you're feeling.

Do what's best for you both

We didn't set a date and tell family that we were moving it - but we originally wanted to get married in 2018. We had to move it to 2019 due to finances, wanting to buy a house first, and you need at least 6 months to plan a decent Wedding Social which is where you make 1/2 the funds for the wedding.

It sucks... but it worked out in the end because we had a pretty good wedding if I say so myself

Besides that I know that some others that have come and gone on here have had to do the same thing but they had already sent out Save the Dates and it was a bit more difficult as they then had to notify everybody - but really it's nothing to be ashamed of. You want the wedding of your dreams and unless they are going to pitch in thousands of dollars to help - they don't get to have a say in how long your engagement is. (Mine was 1 year and 10 months long.)