Postponing

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Definitely! Do what you need to do to make it what you want!

View quoted message We want a summer wedding as well and we still want that, when you don’t have the funds to pay for must haves it’s hard

Of course!


My fiancé and I were originally planning on next summer. But then once we started pricing out our must-haves we decided to wait until 2021. Then I got laid off and it's been hard finding a job, so we went to 2023. Now I'm going into business with my mom so things are looking up. We were going to go back to 2021 but my holidays will be 3 weeks in July and 2 at Christmas. We want a summer wedding and due to venue setup restrictions (I don't really feel like showing up at 8am day-of to setup) we'd like a Friday. So factoring in the honeymoon we're basically restricted to the first Friday in July. That's pretty specific so I'm not really confident it'll still be available when we're ready to pull that trigger. So I'm going to have to jump on it basically as soon as they open booking for 2022.
Dates change. It happens. It sucks but it does. People will understand.

I know tons of people who have done this! dont put yourselves in debt over a wedding day!!!! save money if you need longer there is NOTHING wrong with postponing

I know of a few people who have postponed their wedding for various reasons. If it’s what’s best for you, postpone it. We got engaged a year later than I wanted because I wanted a big wedding. My husband would’ve been fine with a backyard wedding, but when I thought about it, I felt really sad that all my out-of-province friends wouldn’t be there.
It is possible to scale back and have a cheaper wedding, but it’s also possible to postpone it. Do what feels best to both of you.

View quoted message Thanks 😊 The only thing we’ve done mostly is talk with our photographer which I have to talk to as we’ve done our free engagement photo session with her and see if she is willing to change when we pick a new date

Things happen, and postponing sounds like it's a good idea for you guys. It's also no one's business but you and your FH, as well as any vendors you've hired already.

We waited quite a few years to make sure we could have the wedding we want. You don't want to have a lot of regrets. We have been planning for over two years but we aren't really telling anyone about it till we get to the one year mark.

View quoted message Understandable - time goes by quicker than we realize sometimes!

View quoted message We just figured when we set the date we could get part time jobs and start saving but it’s almost the end of the year

I also wanted to send some hugs if you are feeling down about this at all! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad - if it’s the right thing to do, waiting until you are in a better place to do this is a good thing.

Not a problem at all!


If you've booked venues or paid deposits check to see if they can be transferred to a later date do you don't lose out on money you've already spent. Most places are accommodating if you ask and might not have a lot of 2021 bookings yet.

Totally fine to postpone. This should be something that you can both plan for the wedding you want. No need to hurry just to satisfy others.

I don't think its bad to postpone at all. Like you said, you're the one that's paying for the wedding, take all the time you need to save!

I'm sure your guests will totally understand.

View quoted message Thanks 😊 When you’re paying it yourself it’s hard and like you said unless someone is willing to donate than than we have to take time to save for it

Not a bad thing at all!

If you want your wedding to be a big thing - which it is, then take all the time you need! I know I've seen a few people here on weddingwire mention that life happened and they are just now getting to the wedding part years after they decided to get married.

You're going to get some family and friends question you as to why it's taking so long or if it's "ever going to happen", but your reason is because when you say "I do" you want it to be everything you imagined which means you need to take some time to save up for it. Unless of course they are willing to donate $30,000 your way