Plus Ones and b List?

Most of the people we invited were couples so no issues with the plus ones.

You could always invite your coworkers to the reception after dinner. That way they can still celebrate with you but you aren't paying for extra people.

All my friends are bringing plus ones, I feel like that is something that we can't get away with not 'allowing', we've met most of them anyway so it's good. In terms of cousins and siblings, only my FSIL who's been with her boyfriend for over 10 years is bringing a plus one - he's been in the family longer than me so it's not even a question, the rest of them are younger and don't have long terms significant others so we came up with the rule: unless we've met them at least 5 times or the relationship has been longer than a year, they're not coming. I much rather have my friends there with me that a random girl my brother met two weeks before.

We're only giving plus-ones to people in serious relationships. We don't have a b-list - We basically stopped our family list at first cousins, so that we could keep the guest list as small as possible and still have room to invite our close friends.

We are inviting plus ones only serious relationships etc but most of our friends come as a couple, and we are friends with their partners so that was fairly easy. Now about the b list, we decided to only invite the closest ones, because if we started expanding, the number would have been over 300

My family is huge, and moat of my cousins are adults and already have serious, long-term significant others, so I don't really have this issue. For my younger family, I'm not offering for them to invite boyfriends or girlfriends because I just don't have the space and it's not like they're going to be alone at a wedding with people they don't know. I have a few friends who don't know anyone and I may extend the offer to them, but it will depend on my numbers...

We are giving a plus one to those in a serious relationship. The exception is my fiance's sister who is single and one of my friends who won't know anyone else there.

I'm not doing a B list. I was on the "B list" once and it felt like I was just invited because someone else said no. I get not being able to invite everyone. But inviting someone late feels like they are an afterthought and just to fill a space someone else couldn't.

Only giving a plus one to those who has a fiancé

We are having a smaller wedding of 70, we gave everyone a plus 1 to have the option. Most of my FH's family has to fly in, we have a B list depending on RSVP's. So many we would love to invite however trying to keep it as small as poaaible.

I don't really have a B list. I have an international list and a local list. We're having different rsvp dates on the invitations. International guests will have an earlier date so that by the time we have to send the local invitations, we'll know how many we can invite.

I only gave people a plus 1 that have been in the relationship for a year or longer.

But I am also have a B-List

I'm also not sure how we are going to do the plus ones at first I thought everyone should have a plus one (thinking it would be rude not to) but if I don't know them I don't really feel the need to spend all that extra money on them we do have a B list but it's not very big it's mostly our co-workers (they all work the day of our wedding) so we are just inviting them to our dance!

I’m in the same boat! I’m hoping some elderly relatives I’ve never met don’t come so we can have a more intimate wedding with the people we’ve already invited. And the plus one thing: we are only giving plus ones to people who are in a serious relationship and would have not really anyone else to talk to, which would make them uncomfortable. Like we are inviting his cousins and while they do have boyfriends, we’re not giving them plus ones because they are all friends and their parents will be there, so it’s not like they will be alone

It’s not weird at all to hope to accommodate your B-List! We’ve got a B-List of people we’d invite in a perfect world if we could invite everyone we wanted to. Honestly, the ones we really want there are on the A-List, and we will be dipping into the B-List if we drop below a certain number for guest RSVPing.

As for plus ones, we’re giving every one of our single guests a plus one.

View quoted message Our wedding ceremony is going to be very special as it is to celebrate what would have been our daughters first birthday. I miscarried last July and also our wedding is going to involve some of my First Nations culture. I wouldn’t want to leave people out of that because it will be very special. Also I know the people who are my B-list are very open minded and would understand not being invited for the dinner. There will also be like 5+ hours between the ceremony ending to the dance party beginning. So that gives them time to go do whatever and not just wait around. I would also never only invite half a couple for dinner. Most of the friends I have invited are either like family, or they will be traveling to get to the wedding. In the end I will leave it up to them. We can’t afford to have 250 guests at 70 dollars a plate. I’m sure if they are feeling awkward they will tell me and I’ll just explain that as much as I would like to invite everyone for the dinner unfortunately we can’t afford everyone as we have large family’s we have to invite. I’m not stressing about it, the people who want to come will come.

Our rule of thumb was, if we don't know your name now, or haven't met you, you're not invited/included as a plus one. There are many of my fiance's buddies who are invited who are perpetually single, and I didn't want to give any of them a plus one, because I don't want their flavour of the month there causing any drama, or being in our wedding photos.

Luckily my FH agrees, and he says they will still have a good time, as its a big group of them who are all friends.

We don't really have a B-list, because our guest list is mostly close family and friends, with virtually no one having to travel, and our wedding is in January, so we don't see many "declined" RSVPs coming back to us. I guess our "B-list" would be if anyone gets into a relationship in the next few months that we actually meet and like enough to extend an invitation to.

We gave plus ones to some people.. so people who were married, or what we considered serious - so together for at least a few months and that we had met.

We also gave plus ones to anyone in our bridal party even if they weren't seriously with someone.

We aren't anywhere near capacity.. we can invite up to 110 people but have only invited 77, so we don't really have a blist.

We're only giving plus ones to people in a serious relationship. As for B list, we have a couple of friends we *might* invite if we get too many regrets from the family we're inviting (we're only inviting family members right now).

We are doing it where anyone that is engaged, married or in a relationship for more than 2 years will get a plus one. If our numbers allow more people to come than we will offer more of the out of town guests a plus one.

We are giving plus ones to people who wouldn't know anyone or with serious relationships. Our B list is people who are invited to reception only.

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I actually went to a wedding that had that. I'll be completely blunt with you, it did not go over well with the people who were only invited to the ceremony and the dance. It make them feel like they weren't important enough to the couple. They were embarrassed, and a lot of them said they would have preferred no invitation to half of one.

Their invitation didn't specify that they weren't invited to the dinner, so they didn't find out until they went to find their seat on the seating chart and their name wasn't there. One friend's invitation included his girlfriend, but only he got to go to the dinner. Obviously the couple didn't navigate this very well, and I'm sure most people wouldn't repeat their mistakes. But I think people's biggest annoyance was the time they waited between the ceremony and the party. Maybe only invite them to the party so they aren't waiting around?

We are only giving plus ones to people in serious relationships. I have a really large family and I do have a B-list so what I know was suggested to me on here before was sending them an invite to ceremony and for the cake and dance. Now this would work for me because I have lots of people on my B-list who would have fun at the dance. I haven’t exactly decided if that’s what we will do or not.

We have both! I've allowed some friends who aren't in a relationship to bring another friend if they choose! We've left it up to them! Bring a partner if they have or a friend if they want!

We do have a B-List as well... I'm thinking we just just include everyone as I keep hearing there is always a percentage of people who wont be able to make it. So I'd rather have everyone on the first invite list and not have anyone feel left out or was only invited because someone else couldn't make it?

Our plus ones are for commited and serious significant others only. And yes we have our B list of friends that may get on the list once we finalize the list. We have a few spots saved for co-workers but chances are not much will be able to attend since the wedding is in Ontario and we live in BC.

We gave plus ones to serious relationships only and to two people who don’t know anyone else.

I dont have a b-list simply because we were able to fit everyone into our list. I don’t have loads of friends so it worked out okay.

We gave plus ones to those who are in serious relationships and to those who are traveling from out of town alone who wouldn't know anybody.

We did a B list and started sending some out after we received some no responses.