Planning a same sex wedding

Ugh, I feel for you. I am in the same situation. I've been able to find a woman through searching for LGBT officiants on google, and found a woman who does it and states on her website that she is LGBT-friendly. She is independant, maybe try finding someone like that?

I've been doing the same thing, being upfront about having two brides. So far I've had 0 negative experiences, but we are making sure their website has photos of LGBT couples beforehand. It's more work than we thought. Good luck.

I'm sorry you are going through this! The lying is completely unprofessional, you don't need different credentials to marry 2 brides or 2 grooms!! It sounds like you have something else figured out, which is awesome!

It's 2018, same-sex marriage has been legal in Canada for a long time now, and yet some people are still uncomfortable about it, I don't get it. Planning a wedding is stressful enough, you don't need the added stress of "is this vendor LGBTQ+ friendly?!" on top of it.

They do, I sent it.

Thanks.

I'm really sad to hear that. Can you please PM me the name of the officiant/company if they have a WeddingWire listing?

Thank you so much to everyone who responded.

I am so full and overwhelmed by all of the support, honestly.

I appreciate your referrals, suggestions and kind words. It honestly has made me feel better.

Thank you again !

Thank you.. and good idea. I might question them on it a little before I do anything else. Whoever emailed me was very nice, there was no disrespect on either end, it was the lie that upset me. If it makes you uncomfortable, fine. that is your right. I am not going to lose sleep over it... but be honest.

Thank you for the idea. We found a couple great officiants so we will be fine, and obviously wouldn't want this company being a part of our day anyways !

That was how I felt. I would want to know as a potentional client as well. It's such poor business.

I didn't even think of that.

Thank you !

Thank you..

Honestly, the support I have received on this post is overwhelming.

That is exactly how I felt.. I don't lose sleep over people not supporting anything in my life, especially strangers. I am not sad that someone doesn't want to be a part of my life choice, I was disappointed about being lied to and you are right, I would have respected the honesty.

I've been in touch with several. We have two that we are deciding between now too so there is no issue there. Just disappointing.

Thank you

That was how I felt too.. Leaving reviews is basically a service for other potential customers. Thank you.

Thank you.. It's true, some people have even mentioned they think it's actually illegal to decline a same sex wedding.. but whatever.

Obviously they aren't the people we want anyways.

I found them too !!

Thank you so so much for that.

Thanks for the different perspective. I also think it is unlikely, but you are right.. ya never know.

That was what my fiance said too!! It's 2018 people ! I can't change how people feel about things, and I won't lose sleep over it, it was just the lie about credentials that upset me.

Thank you.. We found a couple others we are trying to decide between.

But thank you again

Thank you so much..
I've been in touch with a couple other great officiants so we will be just fine, it was just a little off-putting.

Oh also our officiant works out of st. catharines and he is excellent and i know he does same sex weddings, if you're interested.

That's terrible and you shouldn't have to deal with people like that. 100% you are not being too sensitive, that is very negative behavior from an officiant. you are right that there is no difference in credentials required. Tori is also right that there may be another issue, perhaps make it clear that they should have communicated any issue to you earlier, rather than giving you information that suggested they were available and then taking it back the way they did.

Not too sensitive at all. I would leave a review, but give them the benefit of the doubt and maybe consider it was like how hotels sometimes double book rooms? I know that it is unlikely but I would put that in the review just so that people that read it don't think that and wonder why you may have "jumped to conclusions". Either way what they did was bad and in the wrong.

Ugh! Why is this even a thing anymore?? Love is love and if an officiant isn't comfortable performing a same-sex marriage, THAT should be advertised...not the fact that they do!

If you're having a difficult time finding someone, and happen to be near a Unitarian church, their chaplains will perform ceremonies for anyone who is in love and wants to get married. It's as religious as your want - or not at all. They'll work with you to make it meaningful for you.

I'm sorry you have to go through this...it really infuriates me! I hope you find someone who vibes with you!

That's really disappointing that people have to resort to lying, as if you wouldn't know immediately there's nothing different about the legality of your ceremony versus a man/woman...

You are definitely not being too sensitive. The disrespectful part isn't them not having anyone willing to do the ceremony, it's lying to you. You could probably even understand being told "we don't have anyone comfortable in performing same sex marriages", even though it would be a little disappointing, than a bold faced lie.

Best of luck with your future vendors! Hopefully there's much more good interactions than bad in the future.