Paying for the Wedding - Traditional or Modern?

Both worlds

Modern where I paid for most things and husband took on 2 vendors payments.

Traditional where parents bought my outfit, reception rentals and part DJ payment.

Both? We are paying the vast majority but my parents bought my dress and will pay a small portion towards the wedding.

We'll be paying it all ourselves. His family and my dad have nothing to give, only my mom is wealthy but she's stingy AF and doesn't like my FH so we're on our own and I'm happy with that. Better with no one to answer to anyway, no family who think they should have a say cause they contributed.

We are paying for our entire wedding ourselves.

I always thought we'd pay for the wedding ourselves, but my parents have mentioned they want to help a little, which is great! I'm so happy because we have such a tight budget, but my fiance told me today, that whatever they contribute we are paying them back :/ as he doesn't want them "to hold it over my head", my parents aren't like that at all. It's just him and his sister so there is no 'equal' contribution on his side

How can I convince him we should expect the help? Does anyone else have this drama/ issue?

Modern.
We’re paying.

Modern, we are paying for the wedding although my parents said they would help out a little.

Modern, we are paying for our whole wedding.

Mostly traditional, my mom/stepdad and dad are contributing equal amounts for the majority of the budget, and my FH's parents are paying for the liquor.

I think that's all traditional though, I heard the groom's parents pay for the liquor & rehearsal dinner, and the bride's parents pay for the rest?

My MOH is hosting the Bridal Shower and Bachelorette, but she's also my sister, so my mom is helping with that stuff too.

I feel extremely fortunate for all their generosity, or it would still be years til I'm married.

We went fairly traditional - but only because my parents were so generous! They hosted and paid for most of the wedding (we definitely kicked in as well), and my father-in-law volunteer to host the rehearsal dinner.

Modern. Both sets of parents contributed to the wedding but we mostly paid for it ourselves.

Modern. Both sets of parents are gifting us equal amounts of money to help with the wedding. Although when we first got engaged, we had full intentions of having our wedding without any financial help from anyone (we didn't ask for any money; it was offered).

Modern. My mom has insisted on paying for the desserts, and his parents are covering the upfront alcohol costs as well as the liquor license and will give us the remaining money if there’s anything after cost has been covered. Aside from that we’re paying for everything ourselves.

Modern, my parent's are really contributing

Modern. Both parents and ourselves are pitching in. His parents are pitching in the most as they don’t have kids left at home as my fh is the baby of the family, whereas I’m the eldest so my parents have 3 children

A bit of both. My husband and I paid for most of the wedding, with the parents chipping in for the odd thing here and there. My parents paid for the day after brunch, and covered my dress adn some centerpieces. My husband's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and gave a small contribution towards the wedding to help with other costs. We weren't expecting any of it, so it was a nice relief!

We are paying for it ourselves. This way we can have the wedding we want and it keeps everyone else quiet

Modern - we are paying ourselves in Manitoba we have a social to help raise money for the wedding and our parents are contributing a little as well.

Modern- we are paying every cent ourselves.

Modern, we are paying for it ourselves. Doing a buck and doe to help and parents of my family are helping little as well.

Modern, we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves.

Modern - we are paying for about 75% of it ourselves. My parents paid our venue deposit and FH's dad gave us the same amount for our first payment (our venue has everything on a payment schedule). Both could afford to contribute more but we're really trying to do as much as we can on our own and it's nice that since we haven't asked for much, if we get in a bind or need to borrow a little money in the end, we know they would in a heartbeat. FH's mom isn't contributing anything but I don't think she can really afford it so we are not asking at all.

There are times it's stressful, but in the end our entire wedding will be paid for by that date (with no debt woohoo!) and we managed most of it ourselves. We may not have originally thought we could afford a $30k wedding but we've buckled down and made it work.

Modern - FH and I are paying for everything ourselves. My dad wants to get my necklace for me, and my mom wants to take care of all of the legal stuff (event insurance, liquor license). But it’s all us other than that.

Originally we were paying for everything ourselves. Then my dad offered to pay about half the cost which was AMAZING. My mum also offered to cover some items such as the dress, bridal shower and wedding invites. Again, super greatful.

His family were not contributing but we didn't want to point that out. So we wrote "Together with our families" on the invitations. Glad we did, as his Dad has just contributed! It was unexpected and super awesome! So we're paying about a third of the wedding cost now.

Modern- this way we get what we want. my mom chipped in for a few things & the bridesmaids dresses.

Modern. Everyone is kind of chipping in where they can, we are paying the majority. His aunt set aside a few thousand for us when we started dated and gave it to us when we got engaged, his parents are paying for the bar, my mom is paying for all the wine, my dad paid for the dress and the rest is us mostly.

A mix. We are paying for the majority but both parents are contributing.

Traditional. My parents are paying for the wedding. His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner.

A bit of both? my parents are paying the majority of the way, but there will be things we pay for ourselves

Modern; both families have generously given money to help us pay, but we're treating it as a loan. We'd like to have the same amount in our savings account by the time we're married, so that we could put that money towards a down payment on a house.

Both parents are chipping in but we are also paying so we are taking a more modern approach.