Overwhelmed

View quoted message Absolutely! I ended up kinda having fun doing the centerpieces they took a week to finish. I finalized the place cards and seating arrangements last night. I'm getting the marriage license tomorrow. I took a few deep breaths lol

View quoted message Do the Marie Kondo... if the centrepeices are stressing you out, then don't do them. My wedding is the same day, and we are not having any, and very few decorations of any sort. Don't let the details get you down. Really. I know how overwhelming it can get if you let it. Just focus on what you want out of the day, a husband and to celebrate your commitment (I'm guessing !) Nothing else matters. It doesn't complete that goal, if you try to people-please instead. I've actually spent about three straight weeks prior to this literally losing my crap over mundane things like how to place the chairs, and whether or not our youngest sons tie matches well enough... and really, who cares about those things? What do guests remember? If they had a full belly and a good visit, that's all (except for the guests who really can't ever be pleased - I'm not counting them!) Good luck! Enjoy the last two weeks of being engaged, and I hope that you are able to relax and focus on the reason that you wanted to get married.

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Get well wishes to you and hope you are feeling better.

I hope you feel better and sure the family will be helping hands for you when you need it.

View quoted message My wedding is in 2 weeks tomorrow. Haven't done everything I have pneumonia now so hopefully I am better by then

Did the projects work out on time for your day? I know your officially married at this time and feeling that joy now as a newlywed. Your vision was everything you wanted and came to life. The overwhelming feeling get over after everything done?

Everything will come together! Set deadlines for things, even for those tasks that other people are doing (ie your groom getting his suit done by the end of the weekend).

I'm doing a lot myself, and getting married in 6.5 weeks, so I find the deadlines are helpful. I have also allowed a lot of buffer room, to try to limit my stress levels.

Ah that is so great he sort out his suit! And is sounds like you have made centerpiece progress

How are you feeling now??

View quoted message Yes! This past weekend he is completely done with the suit!!! Tomorrow should be marriage license. I am almost done the centerpieces. And I am packing up wedding decorations properly and organized. 17.5 days 😱😱

Your centerpieces look good! I'd say the best way to get things done is to just break up the work and set yourself small goals on a daily basis. Has your FH gotten his suit yet? Everything is going to come together and look wonderful, so try not to stress too much!

View quoted message This is my centerpieces

Quick and easy centerpieces can be make with dollar store items... Mirror, jar, decorative gems and a floating candle or floating flower... Mirror lays flat and you put water in jar put that on the mirror. Put flower or candle in jar and you can put the decorative stones on the mirror or in the water

I understand completely! My FH assures me that he will deal with his suit (slightly hemmed) in the next week or so, finish the ceremony music troubleshooting, and that he will set up the meetings with the pastor in the next two weeks. These are versions of the exact same three jobs that he's had since we started planning in November! Except now we have only have 26 days left!

I’m so sorry you’re feeling all this stress! Despite what it may seem, wedding planning isn’t supposed to be overwhelming!
I do like the list idea. And, this is what I would add. From that list, decide what’s necessary and what you can do without. Think back to weddings you’ve been to. What do you remember about them? That will help determine what’s necessary or not. Marriage licence and grooms suit/tux: essential. Centrepieces? Optional. Honestly, they look nice, but you’ll still be married without them. I have maybe two pictures of my centrepieces. No one remembers what the tables look like! They will remember a groom in jeans.
As for getting your fiancé to get his suit,, I had this problem as well! We made a date out of it. He could choose what we did for that day, as long as going to the store to order his tux was part of that. He chose where we are and what movie we went to see. I also had to (try!) to play this video game he enjoys. It wasn’t my idea of a fun time (I have played maybe 20 minutes of video games in my life!) but it helped him to get his tux ordered.

Oh Allen, I’m glad you shared this with us so we can support you, it sounds like you deserve a big internet hug. I’m sorry to hear you’re stressed.

Candace had some great advice! Make a list of EVERYTHING you have left to do. Split it up based on priority and break it down into manageable chunks. Ask your friends and family for some support! You would be amazed at how many people are willing to help if we just ask.

Have you spoken with your FH? Once he understands the amount of stress you’re under he may become more motivated to get involved. It’s both of your wedding day, he needs to share the workload.

You got this

Just take a breath. 4 weeks is still a fair amount of time. Start with the tasks that are most important to you, if you can't rally the troops to help you then it will be very important to try and manage your time the best you can. Is there a way to make your centerpieces a little more simple so that they do not take as much time to complete? Get your fiance to help out with things as much as he can as well, it is both of you getting married and it is not fair for you to be shouldering all the stress, even if he helps by getting his suit (which some places can take 2-4 weeks to get a suit in, especially if he is getting a custom suit done or if he will need alterations). Try to keep calm and just work on everything when you can.

View quoted message None of my bridesmaids have done anything. Most of my family isn't coming. It's just depressing

Ok you got this!! Do you have any bridesmaids that you can enlist to help make the centrepieces? What about your family or his family? I know giving up control is very hard but can you delegate any jobs to anyone. Also know that only you will know what small detail didn't go as planned, your guests will see the whole picture and it will be beautiful.