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Beginner September 2023 Quebec

Old friends?

Julie, on January 7, 2023 at 20:29 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 9
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What is everyone's opinion on inviting old friends to the wedding? There are 2 women who I was best friends with in high school/many years ago, and we talk every once in a while and see each other maybe a couple of times a year (covid/one moving away has made it harder). There's another friend who I met online during covid but she moved out of town just as restrictions were lifted, so we've only actually seen each other in person once, but we text a lot and have video calls, and know each other quite deeply.

So my question is... Is it weird to invite people who you are not THAT close with but still want there? For a variety of reasons, I don't have many close friends, which is sort of embarrassing. I'm worried that it will be really evident that they are more important in my life than I am in theirs. I have severe social anxiety, and in this situation my concern is that I will come across as too forward/needy.

Sorry this is so personal lol I just wanna know if I'm overthinking this whole thing!

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Latest activity by Kimberly, on January 16, 2023 at 07:55
  • Kimberly
    Curious September 2023 British Columbia
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    It's your day, you can invite whoever you want to celebrate with you. I am trying to explain this to my FH as well lol.
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  • J
    Beginner September 2023 Quebec
    Julie ·
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    Thank you so much for this supportive response! It's reassuring to know that other people have invited online friends.
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  • Malyssa
    Expert October 2022 Alberta
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    Literally invite whoever you want there regardless of how long you've known them ect. My hubby and I invited people we had never met in person before (online friends) and invited partners to friends we had never met. And we had the most amazing time with every single one of them.

    also there is NOTHING wrong with not having "alot of friends" I have very few myself (gained alot through my now husband tho) so I ended up have 1 MOH in my wedding party because I didn't want anyone else with me. Majority of guests at our wedding were "his" side.

    Friendship is about quality not quantity!

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  • KELLY
    Featured October 2023 Ontario
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    I think it's wonderful to invite them- they might not be long time friends but they are important to you

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  • K1327
    Featured August 2022 Ontario
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    I'm sure they will feel happy to be there! It's an honour to share in on someones wedding day Smiley heart
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    Not weird at all, I have a small guest list so a lot of my used to be close friends didn't make the cut, but if I had the budget to invite my close but not close anymore friends for sure I would.

    But if we just follow each other on facebook and we never see or talk to each other then I wouldn't invite them. Life gets in the way of friendship, but the fact that you want them there on your special day, means they are special to you.

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  • J
    Beginner September 2023 Quebec
    Julie ·
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    Thank you both Stevie and Julie for the validation!
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  • Julie
    Featured May 2023 Ontario
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    I agree with Stevie. This is not weird at all. I habe invited my old high school girlfriends. We only gget-together maybe once a year, if that. Fiancee also doesnt have a lot of close, personal friends and i dont think theres anything wrong with that. I say invite the friends you want
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  • Stevie
    Frequent user September 2023 Ontario
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    I don’t think it’s weird at all! From the sounds of it, these people know you well - just because you haven’t been physically together much in the past few years doesn’t mean that they aren’t an important part of your life and journey to getting to where you are now! I would absolutely invite them! I know they’ll be honoured 🥰
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