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Hey Liliane! I definitely feel you on that, it can be a bit overwhelming when you start, especially with the pressures of African culture and weddings. My best advice would be to first breath and relax, find a hobby that you love to do that can help you destress. Start planning as early as possible, and try to get a lot of details done, sooner then later so that you can enjoy the last couple months (its get really stressful and hectic). Start by looking for a venue, and get your feet wet by meeting with a couple vendors. . Everything will be fine, won't be easy but you will have a beautiful wedding.

Hi Liliane!

I think most brides feel overwhelmed at some point during the planning process! The other brides have given some great advice. I would add to it: ask for help! If you don't know, ask. If you want help, ask! One of the greatest things I did was to entrust people close to me with certain tasks when they offered. My sister-in-law offered to make the bouquets so I told her the colours and she chose the flowers. My brother was the MC and we gave him a few times, but other than that, he planned the reception order and times. I told my MIL my idea for centrepieces and she ended up doing most of the work! If you can pass on some of your to-do list to someone else you trust, it will make your life, and your planning, a little easier!

My advice to you is to start early. When you start planning early, there will be less pressure as you have more time to do research and shop around for the best price and you can also spread out your to-do list so it is not so overwhelming. Like Bianca said, work through a checklist and set a timeline so you are focused on getting specific tasks done and achieving these little milestones will make you feel good. Most important of all is your attitude! If you tell yourself it is scary, it WILL be scary! Have fun with it! When everything comes together on your big day, you're going to look back and think it was worth all the hard work!

Hey Liliane! I was in your shoes a little while ago, where the thought of planning a wedding was just daunting to me. I took it one step at a time and found things online like timelines of when things should get done, researched vendors, set my budget, and spent hours looking at inspiration for all aspects of my wedding.

It's a shame that you feel pressured into hosting a more culturally traditional wedding, but that doesn't mean you have to do everything to a T. I've been to several weddings that skipped a lot of things (décor, cake, bridal party), and they were still amazing! Everything will be okay! You know your Wedding Wire family will always be here for support

Just start with the venue and get your inspiration for decor concept and style. Don't fall for higher prices with the word "wedding". Anniversary will save you less and help you stay on budget for your day.

Avoid purchases that will sit after the day to resell unless its gping to be give aways to guests. Real flowers will cost lots. Think about renting centrerpieces/flowers rental and see if that will save you more money as well as other items overall.

I did end up renting and backdrop too diy. Money box was less than what i saw online on amazon site.

You will accomplish everything in time once you secure the date, venue and guest list.

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Congrats to your wedding Kaye. I wish you the best in your up coming future with the one you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. May you both be blessed. And again, thank you for your advise.

Thank you Kaye

I understand because Ive felt the same way during my 9 month engagement. Just take it one day at a time
What you dont get done today can always get done tomorrow. Try not to let people pressure you into mover faster than youre able. Lean on your partner and know that theyre worth it