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Taylor
Devoted October 2021 Alberta

My biggest fear might be coming true!

Taylor, on April 4, 2020 at 18:27

Posted in Plan a wedding 51

We have been engaged since 2013. We have tried several times to get married. Coronavirus hits and I'm sitting here like "oh it will be long gone by October". Then it lasted a bit longer then expected and it turned into "I hope it's gone by october" to now hearing rumors 2020 is just canceled period....
We have been engaged since 2013. We have tried several times to get married. Coronavirus hits and I'm sitting here like "oh it will be long gone by October". Then it lasted a bit longer then expected and it turned into "I hope it's gone by october" to now hearing rumors 2020 is just canceled period. Social distancing and everything will stay for the rest of the year. Meaning even my October wedding may be done for. Yeah it wasn't big to begin with but it means no vendors or venue and literally parents,siblings,grandparent,great aunt and uncle. And then the MOH and Best man. That's 9 people plus us. My heart is broken. I feel like it will never happen. My FH doesnt care because he would rather elope anyways but I have spent my whole life with a broken family and now I have one that isnt so broken. I have always been very sentimental and I dont care what I wear or even where it happens but as long as my loved ones are there and I get some pictures (even if they are taken with a phone) I'm happy. They are a part of our journey and this is something important that i want shared with the people who matter most to both of us. Now I'm sitting here crying and freaking out over something not even set in stone. This crap sucks!


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  • Sarah
    Curious October 2021 Ontario
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    I find in this time we need something to occupy our minds over the serious situation we can’t control
    True photographer is one vendor that isn’t overly impacted
    A wedding is a wedding no matter what it looks like, you make the day your own Take deep breaths and take moments to just relax, after doing that tasks will seem easier to accomplish (cheesy but true)
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Too cute! I'm trapped inside all day usually because I dont work and I dont have transport anywhere and nothing is walking distance. So what kept my mind busy was preparing to move in 2 months and planning for the wedding. Now I'm kinda in limbo because I dont want to spend money just to have it be canceled. I dont got much money to begin with so I have to be careful. I have been napping way too much to try and run away from all my problems lol
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  • Tori
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    Man.... well what I'm doing during this time to keep busy and my mind occupied while being stuck inside is baking? Me and my neighbour keep trading off what we give each other Smiley tongue I started by sending over a keylime pie, then she sent a bunch of bananas (she ordered 6 but got 6 bunches), then I sent over some doughnuts, then she sent over some mini-egg cookies, and now I'm thinking I'll make a couple mini banana cream pies Smiley smile

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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    I wanted all the bells and whistles too in the beginning and after the 2018 fail I really changed things. Even during this process its simplified so much that it's hardly even a wedding lol. I dont want to have to worry about the tripod being in the right spot during the event or anything like that. I'll be talking to the vendors and venue soon. The venue has a notice on their site I can watch. And the vendors I can talk to whenever. The photographer I'm less worried about because shes very laid back and she would always be 6 feet atleast away anyways. I'm trying to stay sane. I find it funny I'm more worried about my wedding then my health.
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  • Sarah
    Curious October 2021 Ontario
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    My fiancé and i got engaged in 2018, planned a paid for most of it then we had to cancel, now we are planning it again, my fiancé would rather elope too, for awhile it really upsetted me. He has a bad relationship with my family, but i finally got him to understand how it was important to me, when i first planned it i wanted all the things I thought, but after starting round two, I realized that sometimes its not maybe what you originally envisioned but as long as you have the things that really matter its okay. Dont let all the pinterst and insta weddings let you feel that your day isn’t special no matter what it looks like
    Tips: watch videos about your phone camera settings
    Amazon had great tripods as well even ones with remote control buttons
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Thank you. That makes me feel a bit calmer seeing that if china can do it in that span so can we. I've always been the person to stay home when sick and wash my hands (good old ocd is to thank for that one lol) and because of my health issues being all respiratory ones I cant risk anything. I still go to the grocery store but I wear gloves or I dont touch anything then wash my hands when I get home. But for the most part I'm just alone with my dogs in a basement. Normally I am anyways but being told I cant go somewhere has been very hard because it took that last bit of freedom. I live surrounded by alot of highly infected areas. My street is fine but surrounding areas not so much. So we arnt really allowed to leave. It gets you stuck in doom and gloom that's for sure
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Thanks! They are saying another 18 months possibly with a few restrictions lifted or changed slightly. I have stayed away from the news and such but I still see people talking about it and I'm way too curious for my own good. Luckily I have some pretty good people in my life now and I know they wouldnt accept being told no haha. I just feel very defeated. Alot of work and energy and time has gone into something so simple and it can be all swept away in a heartbeat. 7 months in theory sounds like a long time but I've noticed when it comes to weddings it sure isnt alot of time! Especially when you add moving ontop of that. We are moving in only 2 months. 7 months at this point feels like 2 weeks!
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Thanks. Long story short plan C even wouldnt happen because of numbers of people. Plan D wouldnt even work because of space. I know my family are all psychos and would risk being arrested just to see me get married but that isnt really a memory I want to keep haha. Last date was 8/8/18 because 8 is my favorite number. 10/10/2020 is even more special because I get the pattern date but it falls exactly between our birthdays. His being Oct 1 and mine being oct 20. Family is the most important part. I want them to witness the official moment we are legally married. We cant do it like on video chat because several people dont even own any technology like that. I'm trying to remain hopeful but the doubt is very much sinking in and being stuck inside alone really isnt helping with the doom and gloom feeling!
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  • L
    Newbie July 2021 Alberta
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    I just postponed our June 13th wedding, but I think you will be OK by October!!! I know the media is pulling us in every direction, but I am going to stay optimistic that a vaccine will come out at least at some point this year. My fiance decided that he wants to get married regardless (legally), and save our wedding/party and celebration for next year. We have rescheduled for July 2021, but it will be around faster than we know it!! Hang in there!

    Lisa

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  • Caitlyn
    Super January 2020 Ontario
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    For now, just try to remain calm and stay positive. I know it’s hard though with so much up in the air.


    I personally think that things will be well enough by October that weddings can go on. It took China about 3-4 months to stop the spread so using that as a guide since this hit us in March then maybe by June-July things will be better.
    Just try to focus on what you can control. Social distance and keep yourself safe and don’t contribute to the spread of the sickness . Unfortunately we cannot individually control how long this will last and the long term effects. We can just each do our own little part.
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  • Tori
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    I know I didn't have this to worry about for my wedding, but what I do for stressing about things like this - write a list. (The only thing I have to offer is advice on how to try and ease the stress.) Write down the worst case scenario, and then what are some things you can pick from it that aren't so bad? What are some things that you could do to try and make your wedding (in the worst case scenario situation) better?
    For the things that you can't change in that situation, those are things that you have to write out and just try and keep the mindset that it's truly out of your control.

    With people staying home we can hopefully get at least a portion of our summer back Smiley smile

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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Thank you Smiley smile
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  • Vinod
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    It is terrifying to hear the news and thinking it will last longer than expected. I hear the same negative things at home than focusing on the positive things to get done or look forward later on in the year. Families are just not able to get together as much and awaiting to do so once again. Your wedding should be on track and being as small as it is will be great to look forward to celebrate your new life together. This crisis should be over before June and cleared for everyone to get out and back to work as well as being outside. We are all together working as a team to get through this rough patch at the time. Feel secure to know your safe for your date and family coming that month.
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Yeah my grandma and stepmom said not to worry till like July but that doesnt help me now. They told me if the virus does hang on till october that it wont stop them lol. They have been waiting too I can tell
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  • Lindsey
    Beginner August 2022 Ontario
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    I know it sucks to hear but you just have to try and remain positive (I know it's tough!) and wait it out! October is still a long time away. My wedding is July 25 and when this first all happened I thought oh July is so far away it will be gone, then it seemed like it kept getting worse, and I started to lose some of that positivity. When I reached out to our venue she had said that the Health Unit told her for us not to make any decisions until May.


    So I as well am trying to remain hopeful that I will be able to have our wedding the way we had hoped with all our loved ones.

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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Thanks. I've been trying to stay away from the rumors and everything because it so isnt helping!
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    Frequent user October 2020 Ontario
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    You are gonna be totally fine for October. I can understand about the anxiety (I’ve had it for years- and it’s peaked right about now!!!) but you still have almost 2 whole seasons before your wedding arrives. That’s plenty of time to turn a corner! Keep smiling 😁
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021 Alberta
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    Thank you. Hearing that you with a closer date are remaining hopeful helps. I have talked to my stepmom and grandma in tears and they both assured me that the people who matter most wouldnt miss it virus or no virus. I'm still scared and I know a good chunk is my anxiety disorder but I just feel like too many things are stacking against me and I know I'm not alone. I posted this hoping people could offer me some reassurance and that's exactly what you did. Smiley smile
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  • Kelsie
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    I think, and this is just my personal opinion, I’d wait it out if I were you.


    Our wedding is in July and we’re optimistic it’s going to happen. If everyone continues to social distance, I think this will turn a corner.
    I would wait it out and see what happens over the summer!
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