Maid/matron of Honour

I asked my brother as I have huge respect for him and my mother as she raised us. figure she deserves the gratitude. so I have both.. 😁

View quoted message I understand. I think you just need to have people up there that mean something to you. Doesn't matter if they are men or women, as long as they are important to you and support you.

View quoted message That’s part of the problem. I don’t have any girlfriends.

View quoted message If you are unsure about his sister than pick some of your girlfriends and just have them all be bridesmaids.

View quoted message My sons are very shy and don’t want to be the centre of attention. I was pushing my luck when I asked them to walk me down the aisle :-)

View quoted message Thank you for your response. I can’t have nobody. My FH has a best man groomsman and ring bearer. So I really should come up with something. He wanted his sister as his best person but I think we have decided that maybe I will have her as my matron of honour. We aren’t really close but it might bring us closer.

You don't have to have one. You can either have just bridesmaids or no wedding party at all. Totally up to you!

I am having my brothers. Not because I did not have any female friends or so., but because it was more important to me to have my brothers as my “bridesmen” rather than sticking to the social norms

You could always have your sons stand up next to you after they hand off you at the alter?

If you had a daughter, I'm guessing she would be standing next to you, so why not your boys?

I'm not sure if your FH is having anyone on his side? If he doesn't have anyone either then I would say you don't need anyone Just have your sons sign the wedding certificate - one for each of you.

If he does have someone he wants as a groomsmen perhaps you could have your sons beside you as they are obviously very special to you.

As an alternative, is there someone you work with or a casual acquaintance you trust? A few years ago one of my mom's co-workers was in the same boat and although they weren't exactly girlfriends, she asked my mom to stand beside her because she was someone the bride trusted even though they weren't super close. My mom was truly touched. It was a very small, intimate wedding and my mom loved it. It actually brought them closer.

You don't necessarily need one, if you think about it you have the most important people in your life walking you down the aisle to the other most important person in your life. If you have a close friends that means a lot to you then that's great if not that's also fine. Either way I wish you the best of luck! Just don't over think it too much 😊

View quoted message Thank you for thoughts :-)

What if your sons also split the role of "maid of honour". One could sign the register as a witness, one (or both) could do the toast/speech at the reception. The maid of honour should be someone close to you and nothing says it has to be a woman. More and more people are choosing a "man of honour". Or, just aren't having one at all. As long as there is a witness to sign the legal stuff, that's all you need.

View quoted message Hi Brianne

thank you for your reply. The problem is I don’t have any girlfriends lol :-(

Dont think of it as "maid of honour". Think of it as the person you want standing beside you.

You could even ask your sons to stand with you and one of them could sign. Or you could choose to have nobody stand with you but just get someone to sign the licence.

Dont get too stuck in the realm of 'traditional'. Do whatever feels right to you and your FH it is your special day after all!

Hi Lisa,

I love that your sons are walking you down the aisle - how special for you and for them!

As for the Maid/Matron of Honour - is it just the term and what it implies that you find daunting? Do you have a friend or two that you would love to have stand by your side but just don't want that label? If you do, I would say tell them it would mean a lot to you if they would be a part of your special day and be by your side. I don't think you actually have to use the term Maid of Honour, just choose one to sign the wedding certificate. Also, if you're worried about the costs/formality of being in the wedding party you could pick the colour you would like them to wear and tell them to find a dress of their choosing in that colour - that way they can be a bit more comfortable and budget-conscious.

Honestly, I was nervous to ask one of my bridesmaids to be in my wedding party because I wasn't sure if she'd want to be and when I finally got up the nerve to ask her, she was honoured and touched.

Best of luck and happy planning!

View quoted message Thank you Angela

I think its a great idea to have your sons walking you down the aisle. As for Maid of Honor if you don't have that very close relationship with anyone you really do not need to have one "just because".

I know its hard, but keep in mind that is your special day, so things should go as you wish...