Long engagement vs Short engagement

SUPER long, to us at least. Almost 2 full years by the time we say 'I do' in May! But it was necessary since we're paying for it all ourselves! By the end, we should make it out the other side of the wedding with only about 3000$ debt (out of a 20,000$ budget!); the rest we have saved and paid in cash!

Long, long, long. We got engaged October 2017 and will be married August 2019. We decided to do a long engagemtnt since we both wanted a summer wedding, but weren't ready to get married in 2018. Waiting is hard but I truly enjoy the planning and will be kind of sad when it's over lol.

We're on the shorter side apparently - we will have been engaged only nine months when we finally get married. We both wanted a spring wedding but waiting until 2020 wasn't an option for either of us. We're eager to finally live together, and both of our families are too traditional for that to be an option before we get married in a church. So spring 2019 it is, and honestly, as hectic as it has been, I'm glad there was a time crunch. I'm a procrastinator so the short engagement has actually forced me to get stuff done.

I would have chosen a sooner date but the 10 year anniversary of the day we met falls on a Saturday in September (2020) so I thought it was just too perfect. Basically just under 2 years to plan.

Short. 10 months. I liked it. Made quick decisions. My only concern had been the venue, and we booked that before we were engaged. Which was good because we booked the last Saturday of the summer at our dream venue.

Long - 3.5 years. Gives me lots of time to plan and shop around! I love it!

We have a one year engagement - I've always wanted to get married in August so we had to wait until the following year. and it works out really great for his parents to travel over as they live in Montreal. Having a long engagement has been nice since we have a lot of time to plan everything and I've changed my mind 100 times about stuff haha. but I would have loved to already be married.. I just want to live with him already!!! (we are waiting until marriage for that - a little old school but I wouldn't have it any other way) it gives us something huge to look forward to!

Ours will be 25 months all said and done! our reasons were mostly financial - we didn’t want to have to stress as much

We have just under 2 years to plan. This was to create less stress and have time to really research vendors and pick who we want and not just who is available.

It also gives us more time to save!

By the time we get married, it’ll be about a 2 year engagement. I’m happy we are taking our time. We have big changes coming (graduating, moving, new jobs) and it’s reassuring knowing I can plan ahead. Although I wish I could get married tomorrow, I know this is the best choice for us.

I would say medium? But I think long overall since it was more than a year.

We will have had a year and 9 months worth of engagement when we get married. I wish we could have done it faster and sooner but realistically with us buying a house it was just not possible financially or time wise.

We had a 2+ year engagement (proposed in April 2017 and getting married in September 2019). We picked to have a longer engagement, just because we're planning a long distance wedding and just knew we wouldn't be able to handle or manage it with a shorter engagement.

Between April and December 2017, we figured the budget, type of wedding we wanted, the size and the location (either out here in Alberta or back home in Ottawa/Gatineau).

During the holidays, we were able to fit some venue visits in our hometown.

Between January and September 2018, we booked the venue, photographer, officiant, DJ, booked a hotel block of room, the MUA and hair stylist, and I bought my dress!

2019, so far, has been pretty quiet having only booked our florist. We're just about to send our StDs this week!!!

I've definitely enjoyed having more time, as we feel like we can really put more time into making each decisions for our special day. We don't feel rushed, which is key for me!

Be kinder to your self! There's plenty of time to plan a wedding a year in advance!

Don't give your anxiety any chance to flourish! You've got this!

If anything I think 3 years gives you more time to second guess your decisions, which can be more anxiety inducing.

My best friend planned her wedding in 6 months.

We're planning ours in a little over a year.

We specifically chose our date for sentimental reasons. We're about 2 months away, and earlier this week a "close" family member suggested that I push back the date (you should have seen my face...hello anxiety my old friend).

My point IS: No matter how far in advance you plan there will be things that come up that throw you for a loop. Stay organize, roll with the punches, don't sweat the small stuff, have fun, and you'll have a wonderful memorable day!

We are having a 2 year engagement, and sometimes I think it could've been shorter. In the beginning it seemed like the wedding was a long ways away, but now it's sneaking up on me and I'm glad I had the extra time.

I was able to enjoy the engagement a bit and plan more in advance so I hopefully won't be as stressed leading up to the wedding. We're getting married 18 hours away from where we live to time is on our side since distance is not.

View quoted message That's what I was thinking! The longer the less stress with it all. The money saving I'd a huge reason I love long engagements haha. We have so much on our plates, wedding, trying to buy a house, babies. He's young and excited and wants it all right away as it'shis first. I'm older, this will be my second marriage and I'm like why not take the time? No rush for me lol.

View quoted message The no stress would be so nice. This is my second time around so I'm not as excited as someone doing it the first time - it's my fiances first so though so he just can't seem to wait anymore. I'm like, men, next year so we can go slowly and lower my stress level. Haha. I ain't goin' anywhere so what's the rush?! Lol.

View quoted message

I can definitely agree with you on this, our engagement isn’t as long but I’m glad I have lots of time to think things through and compare stuff. I went to a wedding show before booking anything too just to be sure of my options before I decided on anything. I still wish I can fast-forward to the wedding day sometimes though!

View quoted message

I know what you mean, I sometimes wish I could fast forward

I feel it’s somewhere in the middle we got engaged at the end of November 2018 and we’re getting married March 2020. So we’ll have been engaged for 16 months.

I think the middle is a year to 2 years, less than a year is short, and more than 2 is long. But thats just my personal opinion on it, I don’t believe there’s any rules, everyone has a different opinion on this based on their own experiences with it.

Technically he got me a promise ring after 4 years together so that was 5 years ago lol, he said that was the one really meaning that we were going to get married eventually. So I’ve been engaged to be engaged for awhile now! We didn’t wanted to get married once we got closer to buying a home.

Our engagement is a year and 2 months, I am happy with a shorter engagement. I could not wait much longer to get married! I am so excited.

1.5 year engagement! And we started planning almost right away! Glad we did it that way there have been moments of stress but nothing too bad!

We have a 2 year engagement. The main reason for the longer wait is that I wanted lots of time for planning - thinking about getting it all done in a year gives me anxiety lol. Also, most vendors we've talked to are mostly booked for 2019 so it's nice to have less pressure to book immediately and have the extra time for more research. Plus we'll be able to wait for sales to come around to buy our stationary, wedding bands, etc. and will generally just have more saved by 2020. The only thing that sucks is the waiting

I would say our engagement is more on the longer side (20months), and I wouldn’t change it at all!
I took my time researching vendors, making lists, comparing packages and pricing etc and never felt rushed to book anything.
Right after we got engaged I was so excited to start planning. I narrowed down my Pinterest board, and starting looking at venues and dresses! After booking some vendors I kept thinking “ damn I wish I could get married this fall”.
There were times where I felt like I was wasting time doing something, or wishing I could do more. But now that we are about 8 months away from the big day I feel like I can do more without it being “too soon”.
The one thing I really enjoy is not being stressed. I’ve had all big vendors booked since before the 1 year mark and now it’s just little things that need to be done!