Last name

I'm still on the fence about it.

1) Being from Qc, culturally only my grandparents and generations before them took their husband's last name. After that, women just keep their maiden name (by law). So for me to have a choice, it just feels weird and a bit wrong (got LOTS of backlash from my family).

2) I find it ever so romantic to take my FH's last name, to be called Mrs. and it sorts of seals the deal. I mean, our friends already calls us by his last name.

I mgonna take my husband name...because for me its really important ....i think its an honnor for every woman to take is husband name...

I'm changing my name. Personally, I find it as a sign of respect for my husband. Not too mention that I want to proudly show off that i'm "MRS. ______"

I always thought of keeping my last name as Vanessa Van Kooten always sounded amazing. How many people have the same first 3 letters in there 1st name and their last last name Van Van. And my initials VVK as I'm Dutch. I admit I will miss it and I thought about hyphenating or adding 2 names it but than it wouldn't fit on a form and I feel sorry for doing it to my daughter with her fathers last name which will not be the same as my married name as her father and I have not been together for going on 6 years. I am not looking forward to the long legal process of changing everything but Pepin is shorter and French and also means seed in english lol and hey VP for initials is pretty good. I'll always be Very Pretty or Vice President lol. Make sure your decision is important and meaningful to you and your spouse.

View quoted message That is unique way to have a reason to change your last name. I'm now on the side of changing it for the sake having 1 family name.

I have a weird reason for wanting to change my name. I want to be published one day, but I have a very popular first-name last-name combo, with some who have published before. My google search of "Emily" with my FH last name only brings up one other person. So for uniqueness I'll probably change my name lol. You could also go by your husband's last name, but legally still keep your own Which is something I've thought of doing too.

I will be changing my name (not looking forward to the process). I hear that combing last names to make a new name is a new thing.

I changed my last name in the US and it was a BIG pain in the butt! You just don't realize how many different places you need to update your name!

I'm still getting used to my new name a year and half later!!

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I feel exactly the same way. Never thought I'd change my name but am now super excited to take my FH's last name.

I plan on changing my last name but I work for the federal government and with all the Phoenix issues I haven't done it yet as I don't want to screw anything up.

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Yeah, it's definitely not for everyone, just a different idea!

View quoted message Woahh never heard of this. But I'm sure that's going to be alot of paper work. I already have a daughter with my FH and she has his last name so it'll be a load more work if i do that. But if it works for you that's unique to tell people.

We've talked about combining our last names to make a new one! We'll probably have more paperwork to do that for IDs but I like the idea of having one name for our family but still keeping a part of both our names. I read an article of a couple doing that in BC, hopefully it's possible in Ontario!

View quoted message Traditionally my last name will be my middle name. I have a daughter and we used my last name as her middle name. I'm heart is sort off Going to changing my last name now as i want my family to be one. Just sucks that i gotta deal with changing all my IDs.

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SO much this. I absolutely love my last name - it just fits so well with my first and my family is really big on our Scottish heritage (FH even pulled off a proposal near my ancestral homeland near Loch Lomand Scotland).

Despite this, I'm with you in making the change. I really like the traditional aspect of changing your last name to become a new family. And hyphenating definitely does NOT work for our names, doesn't sound great and would be super long.

I love your idea of using it as a middle name if you have a surname that fits, wish mine did

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My best friend is a teacher who just got married last year and she felt the same way. She hyphenated her last name on legal documents but in the classroom has chosen to stick with just her last name because she worked so hard for recognization in the school board.

I am the last person with my last name in my family and I've very attached to it.

I decided I am changing my last name, because its important to me to be a family and connected that way.

But I'm heart broken about changing it. I think i'll keep it as another 'middle' name so I know its there even if I don't use it.

Definitely a personal choice. I'm more traditional when it comes to that, so I will be changing my name.

Something to consider if you live in Ontario, is that if you do elect to change your name, you can don't need to legally change it (like switch your birth certificate). There is still some work involved, but it sounds easier to do.

View quoted message Bahaha so funny!

View quoted message My passport i think has 7-6years more but yes it does take alot of effort changing all IDs. It'll be totally Awsome if men can change their last name to ours.....is 2018 time to change! Lol

I’m not sure. I believe I’m going to keep my last name for work (I’m an OT, and my goal is to have my own class one day) and I worked very hard and long to keep my maiden name. Also I just renewed my passport last year! Lol I don’t wanna change it now, it would be a waste of money! Lol
plus changing all my IDs is too much. Though my FH wants me to change my last name to his. So we will see. I wish the men could change their last name to the other spouse. Haha

View quoted message I did tried to also have him take my last name. I didn't work unfortunately.

View quoted message We do have a daughter together. She has his last name. And my Fiance do want me to take hisLast name. I do see your point as well that as a family traditionally having one family name. Also that way my children wouldn't ask why i have a different name.

View quoted message This!!!!! Exactly how I've always been and how I feel now!

I am not changing mine. I never felt the need To change it and my fiancé is totally ok with my decision.

I always said I was going to keep mine till I met my FH. I want nothing more to have his name now ❤️

I'm going to change mine because A) hyphenating it was not an option, and B) this is something that will be special for both of us.

I'm changing my name. I feel like it's another way to bring us together as a family. I want to have the same name as my children. That part outweighs the hassle of changing my ID to me.

If you're unsure, you could always legally keep your last name but use his last name for anything that doesn't require ID (e-mail, for example).

I am in the same boat!! I wasn’t going to change it, I love my last name and I feel more like myself with it. But then we have to renew our passports and now I’m like, should I just take his name? What about when(if) we have kids and I want to travel with them, that will add more hassle (have to have a letter signed by my fiancé saying I can take our child (because of the different last name). I don’t want to hyphenate it either. I tried convincing him to take mine (lol-that was a no go).

I am changing mine! It just feels right to me (I don't know why though). Just my opinion for myself though. And haha I totally know what you mean, mine would be super long as well. But honestly go with what you think, discuss it with your fiancé, if he doesn't mind and you still feel like you don't want to change it, then don't.

Not changing mine. ID's being a hassle is my reason for sure!

I don't really like hyphenated names so I'm glad that's not an option for you lol. For me I also am not looking forward to changing my name on all my ID and I'll have to get my passport new even with 7 years left on it. But personally it is worth it. I think it really ties the couple together and when/if you have kids together either already or in the future you'll have one family name and I love that. I like the traditional aspect of taking the name. If you want his last name and it means something to you and him then I think you should do it, even though all the paperwork for ID and name change is a pain in the butt. If it's what you want then it's worth it 😊 What does your fiancee think of it?