Inviting cousins to your wedding

Depends how close you all are. im super close with my cousins so theyre all coming to everything. its hard when you pick and choose people take huge offence if theyre not invited to everything

I think I would invite them based off how close you are. Some people really hate getting invited to weddings when they aren't close to the Bride and Groom.

You could also just invite them to the after dinner portion if you didn't want them to be there for the full thing

I would say it's fine to invite them to the "after-party" of the wedding. I try and think of it like this; a) would you be offended if they did that to you? and b) would you be willing to explain your reasoning and tell them in person if you HAD to?

Considering your budget and people to feed for reception, you can invite those for the wedding to the reception following with other guests to enjoy the party portion as an option. This includes cousins you wish to invite and let them go out for dinner after the wedding if not invited for reception followed.

Its something that is done with 2 separate invites to let them know about the events and timings.

View quoted message That's totally understandable! We invited all the aunts and uncles (albeit we don't have as many as you), and only a select few cousins. I'd say just invite the cousins you're close with to both the ceremony and reception!

I only invited a few cousins to my wedding. Our family isn’t that close anymore so I rarely talk to any of my cousins.

Personally I would not be offended, and I'd always rather go to the dance part of the reception. I think everyone in this day and age realizes how expensive weddings are and are a lot more understanding about guest lists.

View quoted message Biggest issue we have is that immediate family (grandparents, parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, and our family) makes almost 50. This doesn't include our 39 aunts and uncles and all of their kids (cousins), and our close friends. If we invite everyone to everything, we'd close in on 200-250 easily.

Unless there's a really good reason that you can't have the same number of people at both the ceremony and reception, then I would say it should be all or nothing. Friends of ours chose to only invite certain people to the ceremony (for no good reason) and it lead to a lot of problems and tainted relationships.