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Allison
Master October 2019 Ontario

How to avoid clinking glasses/guests making us kiss during dinner?

Allison, on February 12, 2019 at 14:05

Posted in Wedding reception 75

Hey ladies (and gentleman), I've been having some major wedding anxiety the last few weeks and this is probably one of my biggest anxiety inducers: How to avoid clinking glasses/guests making us kiss during dinner? Everyone my FH talks to mentions how we aren't going to have time to eat at our...

Hey ladies (and gentleman), I've been having some major wedding anxiety the last few weeks and this is probably one of my biggest anxiety inducers:

How to avoid clinking glasses/guests making us kiss during dinner?

Everyone my FH talks to mentions how we aren't going to have time to eat at our wedding since guests are going to want to mingle/make us kiss. Every wedding I've been to (family/friends) I've noticed that the Bride and Groom have had time to eat, so now I'm worried that my FH's family are the ones that mingle/clink glasses during dinner.

I'm also the type of person who gets hangry, especially if I know I'm getting food, but there's a delay (traffic, cooking times, buffet lines, etc). My FH is very aware of this (lol) and I've mentioned I won't be having any large meals before the ceremony and I hope to sneak snacks between photos. That being said, I'm really going to be looking forward to dinner since our venue has amazing food to begin with, and it's expensive. I'm hoping that we get to mingle with most guests during parts of our cocktail hour, if photos are on schedule, and that most will let us eat and maybe visit between courses.

I also don't feel like putting time into coming up with kissing games/menus, since very few guests actually do them and I'm over kissing games TBH. However, I fear that if we don't have games, guests are just going to clink glasses, which is even worse! Our venue might have a clause in their contract that prohibits clinking glasses, but I might also tell guests this is the case regardless.

Has anyone not had kissing games and not allowed clinking glasses? Has anyone had any kissing games they really liked/did at their wedding? Is there a non-rude way to tell guests to let us eat in (somewhat) peace? We plan to hype people up with with a grand entrance, we're doing the shoe game, and have an excellent DJ!

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  • Alexandra
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    See I’m stubborn enough that I would not kiss out of spite so 😂 That’s fair though. It would be annoying. I’m pretty sure my family won’t do it though, it’ll be his side if anything and theyll give up before I will
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Get it all out it the open, love it!!

    We're considering doing a dramatic kiss at our Grand entrance and then having our MC say something along the lines of: You saw them kiss, now let's all eat! The couple requests that we all enjoy our meals and save the kissing for afterwards.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    That could work too, with the speeches at dinner! However, I would feel bad for the speaker who's talking while their food is getting cold. I have thought about doing this too but will probably wait until after dinner just so there's not eating sounds during a speech

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I feel like this would be easier in theory, but once people start, it would just sound annoying to me and hard to ignore lol

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    This comment is my spirit animal lol Dinner will probably be my only proper meal of the day so I'm enjoying it!

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Haha thanks Karine!

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    That's also a neat idea!

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  • Maegan
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    We got our MC to address it. When he started up for the evening he started the clinking and then everyone jumped on board. We kissed and then he told everyone that was their one chance and the bride and groom have requested no further clinking. Never heard a single clink after that! Worked really well Smiley smile
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  • Valérie
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    Our venue has told us that they don't allow clinking of glasses, due to previous damage. We were definitely relieved to hear it, but I feel the same as you. Thinking about people doing it just makes me nervous.

    I've seen kissing game sheets that you can print for each table. The games would ask guests to either read a poem, sing, share a funny story or demonstrate a kiss the couple have to recreate. We might tweak it a bit, since I want to avoid any "funny stories" or exaggerated kisses.

    Otherwise, we're planning on doing speeches during dinner, once everyone has their plate. This might help reduce the amount of time guests will have to request kisses.

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  • Alexandra
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    My game plan is to ignore the clinking if it happens. Once people get the hint that I’m not going to succumb to it they’ll quickly tire of trying.

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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    The whole clinking of glasses shouldn’t be allowed! I agree with you! I just want to sit and eat my food and not listen to people telling me to kiss lol.
    Our venue does say that they do not allow it at all. So it saves us that way!
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  • K
    Frequent user August 2024 Quebec
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    Wether it is permitted or not, just announce that it's not allowed anyways... No one needs to know Smiley xd
    The MC can announce it in the mic and let the venue know that you'll to that little white lie so the employees can say the same as you...
    You got this!
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  • Christine
    Newbie June 2020 Ontario
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    Not sure if this is considered a game or not but I’ve been to a few of my friends weddings where they had the MC at the beginning of dinner that the bride and groom would only kiss if a guest comes up to the mic and tells a short anecdote/story about the bride and/or groom. Talking in front of a crowd is not something very many people like to do, so you only get a few people coming up to speak and it was fun to hear little stories from guests about the married couple. I think we’re going to do this at our wedding
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Seems like the best idea! We'll do a grand entrance kiss, an after-our-thank-you speech kiss, and a first dance kiss so people get to see us kiss a few times.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    That's a cute idea, I like the idea of SHORT advice!

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Lol I like what you suggested for the MC to say, I might have to steal this!!

    I'm pretty sure glass clinking might be not allowed at our venue, so we might make that announcement too!

    I just don't want to put too much thought into games just for very few people to play lol

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Right?! I would rather not make a big deal of it!

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  • Sharlene
    Expert August 2019 Alberta
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    Great suggestions!!!! I may borrower one for our wedding.


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  • Peggy
    Super May 2019 Alberta
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    I agree with others - add it to your MC's announcements. That's what we're doing. We will probably kiss once before sitting down after our grand entrance, but that's it.

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    Yeah definitely just get someone to make it known so people refrain from doing so. I'm definitely going to make sure people know I don't want that kind of behaviour at my wedding lol.

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  • Michelle
    Expert April 2019 Alberta
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    We think we might have our MC's announce that we will kiss when someone comes up to the mic with some SHORT and sweet marriage advice.

    We hope that a few people will go up and speak, but the public speaking aspect will hopefully deter everyone from doing it.

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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
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    Most weddings I’ve been to lately, the kissing game hasn’t been played or it was rarely played. We had one person do it at our wedding. From my experience, games that are less likely to be played are ones where there is a possibility the person will have to do something. For example, my cousin did bowling. If the person got a strike, the couple would kiss. If they didn’t, that person would have to kiss someone.

    I think you could have the Mc say something funny like “the couple likes eating more than kissing so if you want to see them kiss wait until the dance floor”.

    You could have something that can only be completed a certain number of times. For example, my friend gave each table a puzzle. Once it was completed, they would kiss. They had one puzzle per table so they only had to kiss 10 times. Another friend gave each table LEGO and they had to build a tower taller than the previous one.

    Or, you could have a game that makes it less possible you would kiss. You could have trivia with questions that no one would know the answer to so it’s less likely you would kiss. Have a bowl or hugs and kisses (the chocolates) and if the person picks a kiss, you two kiss and if it’s a hug they have to kiss someone else. And then put a lot more hugs than kisses in the bowl (I’m sure eventually someone will figure out the game is rigged, no matter what game you come up with!)
    Most venues these days say you can’t clink glasses ( I think because of the chance that they can break) so even just having the Mc say the venue has requested no glass clinking, and doesn’t offer an alternative, people should get the hint. My friend did that anyway and it worked for them.
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  • Paige
    Frequent user June 2019 Manitoba
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    I LOVE This lol. I’m not sure yet how we’ll deal with it but we’re not doing speeches, bouquet toss, garter toss or a first dance so people may be like what the heck?! Where’s all the wedding stuff?! Lol. An announcement of some kind might be the way to go.
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  • Paige
    Frequent user June 2019 Manitoba
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    Oh my gosh do I ever feel you on this. I would love to avoid this completely.
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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
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    Right? Hopefully if you let them know to keep it to a minimum, they will.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Lmao Agreed!!

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    LMAO! I feel like we could go around and around with this for a while. Let's agree that clinking glasses is tacky and should be banned from weddings if the bride and groom want it banned?

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Lol that is true! It's just one of those things I'll never understand!

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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
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    That sounds like a good idea too!I think the main reason guests decide to during dinner is because it's the only time where there isn't some sort of distraction going on (ex: doing it during a speech would be rude, then once dancing starts, it'll be harder to hear and they'll be on the dance floor anyway). It is annoying, though!
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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I haven't thought of that, I'll have to ask them! I also thought of something similar to Tori, but the guests request a selection of songs with the word love in it rather than sing to get the bride and groom to kiss.

    A family friend of mine is our MC so we might mention to him the no clinking glasses thing.

    I'm mostly baffled at the thought that guests think the best time for this is during dinner lol

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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
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    Have you asked your DJ about kissing games? They may be able to recommend alternatives (and let your guests know that you'd prefer that they do not clink the glasses, haha).

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    True, they clink glasses to get a reaction/kiss, but it doesn't happen did they really clink glasses?

    Getting philosophical now lol

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