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Allison
Master October 2019 Ontario

How to avoid clinking glasses/guests making us kiss during dinner?

Allison, on February 12, 2019 at 14:05

Posted in Wedding reception 75

Hey ladies (and gentleman), I've been having some major wedding anxiety the last few weeks and this is probably one of my biggest anxiety inducers: How to avoid clinking glasses/guests making us kiss during dinner? Everyone my FH talks to mentions how we aren't going to have time to eat at our...

Hey ladies (and gentleman), I've been having some major wedding anxiety the last few weeks and this is probably one of my biggest anxiety inducers:

How to avoid clinking glasses/guests making us kiss during dinner?

Everyone my FH talks to mentions how we aren't going to have time to eat at our wedding since guests are going to want to mingle/make us kiss. Every wedding I've been to (family/friends) I've noticed that the Bride and Groom have had time to eat, so now I'm worried that my FH's family are the ones that mingle/clink glasses during dinner.

I'm also the type of person who gets hangry, especially if I know I'm getting food, but there's a delay (traffic, cooking times, buffet lines, etc). My FH is very aware of this (lol) and I've mentioned I won't be having any large meals before the ceremony and I hope to sneak snacks between photos. That being said, I'm really going to be looking forward to dinner since our venue has amazing food to begin with, and it's expensive. I'm hoping that we get to mingle with most guests during parts of our cocktail hour, if photos are on schedule, and that most will let us eat and maybe visit between courses.

I also don't feel like putting time into coming up with kissing games/menus, since very few guests actually do them and I'm over kissing games TBH. However, I fear that if we don't have games, guests are just going to clink glasses, which is even worse! Our venue might have a clause in their contract that prohibits clinking glasses, but I might also tell guests this is the case regardless.

Has anyone not had kissing games and not allowed clinking glasses? Has anyone had any kissing games they really liked/did at their wedding? Is there a non-rude way to tell guests to let us eat in (somewhat) peace? We plan to hype people up with with a grand entrance, we're doing the shoe game, and have an excellent DJ!

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    If no one acknowledges that it's happening, is it really happening? Hahah.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Lol some tough love, love it!

    If glasses start clinking, maybe the DJ turns the volume up a bit...

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Lmao I love the shot one, but could be dangerous! I can't take more than 3 shots or else I puke so I don't know if I would join in all the time lol

    The ideas that require more effort definitely do have less guest involvement, but like Stephanie said, some people are still might clink a glass since it's easier.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I'll definitely look into different bells lol!

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    If there's one thing I've learned in life/wedding planning is that you cannot control other's actions whether it's a dramatic MIL or guests clinking glasses.

    Worst Case, we'll ask our venue to pack away any of our leftovers for later, we'll also have cake and a late night food station. There's also a Domino's Pizza down the block that delivers until 3 am on Saturdays if things get dire lol

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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
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    I went to a wedding where the bride and groom straight up told everyone during their speech that they can clink glasses but there will be no kissing as a result. They also told guests that anyone can take the centerpiece and there will be no throwing of the bouquet or whatnot. It's been my inspiration lol!

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    I like the idea of the bell - but if you are trying to avoid noise at all - then perhaps something where the guests would have to put in effort could make it less likely?

    My cousin had guests come up to the podium and sing a song that included the word love in it. If they could sing the song in front of a couple hundred people then they would kiss! I love it and had it not been used at hers, I would so be stealing that!... still might...

    Another one was that in order to have them kiss at my FH's cousin's wedding - the guest(s) had to come up to the front and take a shot of fireball first! Of course, the Bride decided to take shots with every dang guest so she was done by 10pm...

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  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
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    Yep!! And I've been to weddings with the games which are cute! But like sometimes only a half dozen people actually tried them and then glasses were still clinked hahah! People never listen
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  • Rachael
    Super October 2019 Ontario
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    I second what Stephanie said about having a bell; I'm considering having much smaller bells, one per table as our venue does not allow the clinking of glasses.

    I think a larger one like what Stephanie has may be better to avoid having guests use them as often considering it's not as easy to pass around as a smaller one, and the bell ringer would be more obvious.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    That is a good point! People are going to things, even if you tell them not too! The clinking glasses/bell ringing is way more accessible than serenading the bride/groom or mimicking a kiss for them to copy.

    You're right about how there's 1 bell for 10 people as opposed to 1 glass for each person!

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  • Stephanie
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    So the one thing I have noticed.... kissing games dont always stop people from clinking glasses, and asking nicely doesnt always work either. What we are doing (and my mother is a genius for finding these) is having one bell on each table that people can ring for a kiss! It's better as its 1 bell per 10 people instead of everyone clinking a class so we are hoping the bell kinda helps calm down the number of times people try to get a kiss from us! We are hoping for the best and I think itll be good! Easy to access on the tables but again 1 per 10 people should still help tone it down! We found them at the dollar store too so super cheap!

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