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Joey
WeddingWire Admin May 2015 Maryland

How long before the wedding did you ask your wedding party?

Joey, on March 5, 2018 at 08:54 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 31

I want to ask you about your wedding planning timeline - I'm curious to know how long before the wedding you crossed various planning tasks off your to-do list, or when you're planning to have the tasks finished. So play along to have some fun comparing timelines, while sharing your advice with those who are still building their own!

When did you ask your nearest and dearest to be in your wedding party?

How long before the wedding did you ask your wedding party? 1

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31 Comments

Latest activity by Brett, on August 30, 2019 at 10:04
  • B
    Frequent user July 2020 Saskatchewan
    Brett ·
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    My MOH already knew before we even got engaged that she would be MOH. My other bridesmaid I asked about a day after I got engaged. My FH has not asked his guys yet and we are just shy of 11months til our wedding.
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    1 year in advance in person and only 4 individuals.

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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
    Brittany ·
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    Unfortunately kind of way too early. My fiance asked 7 guys within the first couple months of getting engaged (over 10 months out), and I asked my girls around the same time. One person isn't even in my bridal party any more, and my FH barely talks to a couple of the guys he's having (not a falling out, just lack of communication).

    I think I'd suggest to people to wait until the novelty of getting engaged has worn off, and you really think about who you see a lot/are in contact with, and then make a decision.

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  • Jessie
    Expert September 2018 Ontario
    Jessie ·
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    We asked the wedding party for my side 11 months before the wedding and he asked his groomsmens 14 months before the wedding.

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  • Breanne
    Expert August 2018 Ontario
    Breanne ·
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    Engaged in October and we are getting married in August.

    I had asked my MOH and all my bridesmaids between Christmas and mid January (they all knew they were going to be in the wedding except one).

    My FH literally finished asking his guys this week Smiley xd

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  • Laura
    Curious September 2018 Quebec
    Laura ·
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    We asked within a couple of months of being engaged. We already knew who we wanted as they are our closest friends! It was just a matter of how long it took to put together a "asking gift" and we did the asking individually one on one so it wasn't a big deal or anything

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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
    Becky ·
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    I asked about 18 months before and my FH asked 12 before

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  • Tracy
    Devoted September 2018 Ontario
    Tracy ·
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    I asked my girls at our engagement party which was about 14 months before the wedding.
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  • Michelle
    Super September 2018 Alberta
    Michelle ·
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    Over 2 yrs in advance

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  • Renee
    Devoted October 2018 Ontario
    Renee ·
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    Once we set the actual date it was a little implied! We've been engaged for over 8 years so my bride Squad knew they were in pretty much. I did have an official Lucheon to ask them formally with a gift, and to have everyone meet each other as I do have different circles of friends and family (10 bridesmaids!) that happened about 1 year before our wedding. (Lucheon in October 28th 2017, wedding October 19th 2018)
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  • Alexandra
    VIP November 2019 British Columbia
    Alexandra ·
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    Since they’re 90% family, we asked straight away which ended up being just under two years away. Kind of wish I hadn’t just because the one friend I do have, I’m kind of second guessing since I’ve started to realize it’s a fairly one sided friendship but oh well. It’s one of the six people I’ll have on my side and it’s not like she’s gonna be hard to work with since she’s super excited and is willing to listen.
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  • Mandy
    Devoted July 2019 Alberta
    Mandy ·
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    My sister new she would be moh and I have my fiancé sister and she new.
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  • Chloe
    Super May 2018 Ontario
    Chloe ·
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    I asked my bridesmaids 10 months before the wedding date...just a couple weeks after getting engaged. My fiancé asked the groomsmen before he proposed.
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  • Amber
    Devoted September 2018 Alberta
    Amber ·
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    We asked about 2 months after we got engaged.
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  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
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    I’m literally waiting until we’re a year out to ask my wedding party. My sister (MOH) already knows her position tho.
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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2018 Alberta
    Jennifer ·
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    We decided on our wedding party right away and asked them less than a month after we got engaged. We were engaged April 2017 and we’re getting married this August.
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    Oops, that last one wasn’t for this question but on my phone I can’t change or delete it!
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    Fiancé is in charge but about a month ago we decided to keep it local
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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
    Stephanie ·
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    10 months. I asked them all within the first week of being engaged!
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  • Courtney
    Super July 2018 Ontario
    Courtney ·
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    We got engaged in June 2017 and asked all our bridal party by July 2017 just before our Engagement party.

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  • Laura
    Frequent user October 2018 British Columbia
    Laura ·
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    We decided our wedding party pretty quickly. I asked my sisters right after getting engaged (so 11 months before the wedding) and my other two bridesmaids 10 months before the wedding.

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
    Erin ·
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    I asked my girls about 8 months before the wedding. Both of them needed to travel to be there so I wanted to give them plenty of time.

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  • Amanda
    Super August 2018 Alberta
    Amanda ·
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    I asked my girls about 11 months before the wedding, but my FH waited until 7 months. Stressed me out just a bit. Haha
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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
    Becky ·
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    We asked few months after leaving 2 years until wedding

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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
    Valérie ·
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    We don't have a wedding party. That being said, I've already asked my best friend to be my witness.

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  • Stephanie
    Frequent user May 2018 Ontario
    Stephanie ·
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    I asked my bridesmaids a year and a half before.

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·
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    I officially asked my co-moh's in February (1 year, 8 months). One of my bridesmaids is my FSIL and I'm visiting her and her daughter (our flower girl) end of April and will ask them then (1 year, 6 months).

    I asked another today actually, around 1 year, 5 months out.

    FH hasn't asked his bestwoman yet, but his groomsmen (my brother and his) are asked.

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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
    Jen ·
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    We asked them a few months after getting engaged.

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  • Kristen
    Curious October 2021 Ontario
    Kristen ·
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    Having a bigger bridal party, planning to ask them in a few weeks so it will be 2 years before.
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  • Tatiana
    Expert April 2018 Ontario
    Tatiana ·
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    We are not having a wedding party perce so n/a

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  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
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    Our wedding party all knew they would be apart of our day. We asked them around the time we got engaged. So close to two years.
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