How are you deciding your wedding date?

We based it 100% around my FHs deployment schedule.

We went through some steps to narrow down our choices:

1. We chose the year 2017 giving us (me) time to put the money together and do all the bookings in time and online shopping in between that time frame.

2. We looked at the season which summer was finalized as our decision.

3. We looked the months following that season and decided on August.

4. We picked a weekend date that would work for us to book at the venue. All after followed through with the invites.

Several factors affected our decision on the date, which is tentative at October 26, 2019:

-FH is on long term disability and will be having surgery to fix his ACL in April, we wanted him to be back at work for several months, and to be sure he would be in good shape for the big day.

-my sister is pregnant and due in September (don't have a definitive date yet), so that rules out September entirely, late August and early October as well.

-my parent's anniversary is early October, so we wanted it to be spaced out from their date a little.

-my sister and her husband's anniversary is early November, so same as above, we wanted a little space from their date.

-we didn't want to go much later in the year either so that the weather has a good chance of being okay-saying that, it was fine this year ahaha, but can't rely on that! We don't want anyone out of town driving on dangerous roads, or being unable to come due to bad weather.

-we didn't want to delay another year, because we want to start a family within the next year, if possible. Also, his cousins are likely getting married next year, and we want to be able to afford to go and get them a nice gift as well!

We knew we wanted a summer wedding to accommodate our out of town guests. The venue we wanted only had one Saturday open and it happened to be 2 days before our dating anniversary so we took it!

We based ours around two factors: temperature and mosquitoes.

I am dead set on an outdoor ceremony (weather permitted) but I can't handle the heat and my fiance gets large welts when bitten by mosquitoes. We decided on late September since it tends to be more mild and the bugs are gone by the point in the season.

We had a few deciding factors. We live in BC but most of our family lives in Ontario. We planned on getting married in Ontario. That being said (we both grew up in Ontario), I LOVE the fall colours in October. We were specifically looking at a long weekend (makes travel easier). That left Thanksgiving weekend. During our planning stage, we discovered that both my FH's father and my father were both not well enough to travel that far. That brought our wedding back to BC again. The date really just stuck from what we planned for Ontario.

We wanted to get married in May and tried to avoid Mother's Day weekend and the first weekend that a couple family members have birthdays on. We didn't want to get married on a long weekend so we only had the one weekend left to choose from

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Sort of in the same boat! It will be our 6th year together and it just so happens to be on a Saturday too!

For us there’s only one day I would want to get married - our 10 year anniversary which just so happens to fall on a Saturday!!! Sept 26, 2020

For us, we started by first picking a season. My favourite season in general is Fall, and luckily it’s my FH’s too. When it came to what month, it was a no brainer for us...September!!!

September is extremely special for us for many reasons:
1. My Aunt & Uncles Anniversary is September 4th and they have been married for 16 years.
2. My FH’s parents Anniversary is September 11th and they have been married for 25 years.
3. My parents Anniversey is September 19th and they have been married for 26 years.

We got engaged August 18th, 2017 and debated a September 2020 wedding, but after much consideration, we settled on September 2019.

Our venue was available every weekend in September 2019, since we booked almost two years in advance!!! The first weekend of the month (7th) was too soon in our opinion. My FH is a groomsman in a wedding on the 28th, so that eliminated that weekend too. So that left us with the 14th and the 21st. 21 has always been a lucky number for me, and my fiancé! We met when we were 21, and it was also my brother’s number playing hockey.

So...September 21st, 2019!!! And we couldn’t be more excited!!! ❤️

He wanted summer, I wanted fall, so we chose spring as a compromise. We really wanted June 23, but the venue was completely booked, so we took June 16.

Got engaged at the end of September of 2018. We both knew we wanted a fall wedding and I wanted more than a year to plan so we decided on the fall of 2020. While we'd hoped for early October, our venue was booked on the 3rd, the following weekend is Thanksgiving, and we thought it might be too cold for an outdoor ceremony by the time the middle of October rolled around so we ended up going with September 26th. It works out to almost 2 years to the day of being engaged and it's my FH's late grandpa's birthday that day so it makes the day all the more special

We started with choosing a season. I’ve had my heart set on a winter wedding since I was like ten and luckily my fiancé was okay with that. Since we got engaged April 2018 it seemed too early to have the wedding late 2018 or early 2019. So that narrowed it down to being between November 2019 and February 2020. We thought November may be too early for snow, and December would be too hectic with Christmas. The venue we really liked also offered their off season discount from January-April so then after looking at our venue’s availability we decided on January 18 2020

We both wanted a fall wedding as he proposed on October 3rd. Originally we wanted September 21st because of the equinox, but he really wanted fall engagement shots at Moraine Lake, which means September pics. The only date that worked in both our schedules for engagement shots was September 21st and so we decided on September 29th for the ceremony. (He's since come around to summer engagement photos, thank goodness.) Besides, it'll be more difficult to forget 9/29/2019.

Ours was largely for practicality:

We wanted April 27 originally because it's exactly 6 months after our anniversary/engagement date. It also happens to be near Easter long weekend sometimes for anniversaries. But it didn't work with my school schedule.

In the end, we chose the (BC Day) holiday long weekend in August because we wanted it to be near a long weekend for anniversary get-aways. It happens to be the only month of year I don't have school as well.

-K

For us, there are 3 very important factors to land us on the day we picked.

First, we want outside ceremony, so summer is the best chance of not having rain (fingers crossed it won't be 40 C) that day.

Second, we would move from BC to QC in early spring and hope to start building our house in the beginning of May (fingers crossed it will be a short winter this year). Fiance said he could finish the house by end of July or early August the latest. We need the house done so my family and bridesmaids would have place to stay.

Third, I was checking for auspicious days for wedding from Chinese almanac. I am not too superstitious but for something as important as wedding, I have better followed the thousands of years of tradition.

In the end we picked August 17th cause it's a Saturday, in summer, good day for wedding and more importantly it's Fiance's late mother's birthday.

Honestly, it started with me always considering winter, but I knew if can be a less expensive time to get married... And we got engaged in December, so I felt like the upcoming summer was too soon, and waiting a year and a half was too long...

Then I started looking into honeymoon cruises, and we found an amazing itinerary for Jan 21, 2019 (a Monday), which made it perfect to do a Saturday wedding, fly Sunday, cruise Monday! So 4 days to go til January 19th, 2019!!!

We got engaged in 2017 so at first we decided whether to get married in 2018 or 2019.

2018 had a lot of busy family moments: our nephew was born, my parents had their 30 anniversary, and my mom turned 60. My FH's sister was also already in 4 weddings that year, one being a destination and she was pregnant until April! On top of that, my FFIL ended up having heart surgery that October so it was a good thing we didn't have a 2018 wedding.

Ultimately, we went with 2019 and started eliminating seasons. We nixed both winter and summer since neither of us wanted a winter wedding or to be sweating buckets in the summer so we had spring and autumn left. Autumn seemed more appealing to us since most of our milestones are in October (dating and engaged, we moved in together in April so that was the other option). My FH liked the way October 19, 2019 sounded so we picked that day and it works since it's in between our dating anniversary and our engagement anniversary

My fiancé and I chose October because it’s our favourite month and time of year. I always wanted an autumn wedding so that the ceremony could be comfortable outdoors. The day itself has no significance; we wanted Saturday the 19th, but were told that Friday the 18th would be better availability-wise in case we need to use a back-up room in our venue in the event that it rains.

I’m happy with our date, but if I could select it over again, I would’ve taken our anniversary date into consideration (May 31), which somehow slipped my mind.

We chose mid-September! It's not too hot, not too cold. Our reception and ceremony are outside, and after checking trend reports from he last few years it's usually around 24 degrees, so I'm very excited and hoping the weather turns out perfect!

Our conversation went..

"hey babe I've always wanted to get married in August, how about the 3rd? its the first saturday of the month?!" -me

"sure sweetheart whatever your heart desires" -FH

and that's about it! haha we did double check with his parents after if that date worked for them since they would be coming from Montreal & they said it would work perfectly as they own their own business and always take their holidays in August

For us the date was the most important! The 24th means a lot to us so we just wanted to make sure we got married on a 24th of any month! May worked best as it's starting to get warmer and a friday is a bonus to keep some costs down!

I knew I wanted a summer wedding for a variety of reasons; it’s my favourite season, beautiful weather (fingers crossed) and a lot of my invites are teachers (both parents and FMIL are with the school board) so they are off as well.

i like even numbers also so we went with the 18th. I chose July because it generally has better weather than August!

We were limited based on my fiancé is busy season at work (January-May) and the fact that I’m in school from September to April. We were left with June, July, August, and I did not want a summer wedding, so June it was! for some reason I have a weird thing where I prefer even numbers over odd numbers, so it came down to June 6, or June 20. Both would have been great, But June 6 was sooner!

Ah where to begin?

- We knew we wanted a summer wedding
- We wanted a long weekend Sunday (for OOT guests AND because it’s usually cheaper)
- It had to be LATEST the beginning of August since I’m due back in school in September

That’s how we landed on August 4. It completely conflicts with both my dads and my brothers birthdays (August 2nd and 3rd) but it was either that or sometime in July at a venue we didn’t love.

My venue decided my date. We fell in love with the space And they only had April or November. Finding myself wishing we went with November with how expensive everything has been but oh well

We also didn't want a summer or winter wedding, and spring was a bit too soon for us, so we decided on September, when the weather would (hopefully) still be nice but not too hot. His parents were going on vacation towards the end of September so we decided it would be the 9th or the 16th. Our chosen venue wasn't available for the 9th, so the 16th it was!

We had a general timeline we wanted to stick with (2 years to plan & save) and then just wanted to find a venue we loved and picked our date based on their availability. It felt very laid back and I'm really happy it all worked out so smoothly!

Just like Leah, we first picked a season - I veto'd summer (bad timing for farmers aka my family), he veto'd winter (he doesn't care for the cold), then we were left with Spring or Autumn... which Spring in Manitoba is basically just soggy winter... so we went with Autumn!

Then it was between September and October because can you really count November and part of December as Autumn?!?!?!

Next thing I took into account was holidays, so I nixed labour day weekend, Thanksgiving weekend, and the weekend before Halloween.

My BM's brother is getting married on one of them so I took that one away.

I was left with 5 weekends to choose from, which I then took away 2 because it would be that time of the month and I'm going to avoid that if I can.

Take away the first weekend of September because school is starting up...

2 left! we had either September 28th or 21st.. can't remember which.. or October 5th.

We felt that it was meant to be the 5th because we started dating on a 5th so we went with that date although had our venue been booked we could have done September too.

We eliminated the seasons we didn’t want (Summer, Winter), the seasons that are the saddest bc of family deaths (Autumn, Winter).

When considering the Spring months we thought March would be too soon, and settled on my grandmother’s birthday - April 20- (she’s deceased and I consider it to be a high holy day), which conveniently falls on Easter weekend. It’s really the day that stood out the most for us and we wouldn’t have it any other way.