Guest Wedding Drama

I hate that there is so much drama in a wedding, the only time I have ever questioned my invite is when my cousin did not invite my boyfriend of 4 years who I lived with wasn't invited. Even now I feel bad questioning that even though I did not go to the bride or groom to even ask.

I am very worried this kind of thing will happen though as we have some major family drama as it is, it is the only reason we will have a seating plan.

I am honestly terrified about this and some of the guests I want to invite... there is some very bad tension between a few friends but I don't want to invite one and not the other?

I figured at the end of the day I will invite everyone and they can decide if they want to come or not based on others there. If one person will really spoil the whole night for them, then probably don't want them there anyways.

There will be so many other people... just stay away from the one you don't like or worst case you just have to be civil FOR ONE NIGHT!

I'm also kind of worried about some people acting up during the night and causing a scene... ugh...

Sadly your wedding is your wedding but people might still try to make it about them...

View quoted message Yeah I voiced things and made it clear.

View quoted message I voiced my issues and made it clear. Also emphasized the MY WEDDING part.

I had this happen once. My mom and her sister don't get along. I just told them it's my wedding and I'm inviting who I want. They both came, no issues, and even sat together at the brunch the next day (I did sit them at different tables during the reception).

I think you should say something though--whether it be saying your inner pleading out loud, saying something like Amanda said "fine, then don't come" or something like "you'll be missed". I'm glad I ended up saying something to my aunt (I wasn't going to at first) it was simple and quick, but a good reminder that this day was about me (and my husband!)

Those inner pleadings should be expressed and that's probably exactly what they need to hear. Honestly people do forget its not about them, and need a swift kick in the butt to remind them.

If anyone said this to me (I had a couple) I seriously said “fine, then don’t come.”. I seriously threw it back in their faces. I just decided I didn’t care. If people can’t put aside their differences for one day, then I don’t need them at my wedding. I’d rather have people who are happy to be there for us.

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It's so crazy, it really floored me that we are expected to pay thousands of dollars to invite and feed people we have never met before! It's nice to know I'm not the only one!

View quoted message Yeah im not taking it personally. Just focusing on me and my fiancee. But still people can be annoying

I haven't encountered this, but I'm totally feeling it from my FH who insists on increasing the guest list with people I don't know. My intimate wedding of 100 has grown to 200 and it's so frusterating!

View quoted message I had a bunch of family who were strangers to me and I didn't want to invite too.

I actually didn't have this happen to me but I can understand how that would be frustrating. Best of luck!

Any guest that feels they need to focus the energy on them rather than you is unneeded to show up.

The idea of havong a good time and celebrating your day putting aside what is being said about someone else.

If you feel they are being unreasonable, then accept them as declined and then say they were wrong for what was sayed and done. You need to look at your day and positive energy pulling through.

I totally feel your frustration my dear!

My FMIL is inviting everyone and their brother! Including 4 tables of people I have never met and my fiance has not seen in at least 10 years.

My MOB is asking why the guest list is so huge and telling me to cut everyone, including people that are important to me, while still insisting on having me invite family I do not want there.

It's never ending, good luck!