Guest dilemma

I know what you mean Robyn... I think it's probably one of the hardest part of the planning! Have I already shared these discussions with you? Maybe they could help?

10 questions to cut down your guest list

5 people you don't need to invite to your wedding. Agree?

That one is really funny too 10 things couples think about when making their guest list

Let me know if this helps! Are your co-workers invited to your wedding?

I guess I will have to invite both. It just frustrates me that again the guest list expands. The wedding is already big (180 invites) and I really didn't want it to be this big.

Hey Robyn! Oh no, that's so unfortunate! I'm very sorry to hear this... I like Melissa's suggestion If you're equally close to both, you should definitely invite both. If you feel comfortable, you could also ask them what they prefer, whether sitting at different tables, with separate groups of friends, etc. Let us know what solution you find and how it all goes! Are there a lot of people coming to your wedding or is it an intimate wedding?

That is really unfortunate!

I do think in this case they should both remain on the guest list. It is possible that one (or both) might decline, to avoid the same drama you don't want.

In the event they both accept, it might be best to seat them at different tables, both for their comfort, and the comfort of other guests. It might be awkward if people sense tension!

If they are both single now, you have no obligation to extend a "plus one" to them. However if one or both end up in relationships again before you send invites, I would include their new significant others. If only one were to have an SO, I might still extend a plus one to the other party....I am sure we all remember the feeling of facing an ex solo when they have a new partner (if not- it frigging sucks).

Soooo that is what I would do! I hope that helps!

Are you close with both people equally?