Flip Out Or Forget It? - Your family keeps adding to your guest list

My parents were pretty good and didn't really push too much on us.

We've talked to both sets of parents about the guest list and they've both been great so far. They understand that we're keeping it on the smaller side and don't want to invite people we've never met before. Everyone seems satisfied with the list so far!

My parents were actually SO good about this. My dad only asked for his best friend and his wife to be invited, which is totally fair and I've known them my whole life anyway.

Ughhhhhh. This has happened to me and I couldn't flip out because both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding. I'm flipping out on the inside lol.

Flip out! There’s no adding guests Willy billy we have things to budget!

Forget it! My parents didn't ask to add anyone as I had to fill in the numbers myself and just by inviting one MOH parents. One guest was rude enough to invite his mother and bf personally on our account to feed them both. Being obnoxious and loud too.

I'm mixed on this... I Forgot it for a long time until our list suddenly neared 300 with all the additional people that keeps getting added hahah! I'm a little stressed about it but we will make it work!

Because of how small our wedding is (most family isn't even getting invited) and that we're paying, our parents aren't getting a say. If they went ahead and promised seats to people, I'm not dealing with it. So it's a flip then forget

I have flipped out as this is my wedding, if I don't see them often then I am not inviting. If you want them their then you can pay for their meal completely.

This didn’t happen thankfully, but it would’ve been a flip out. I don’t want people I barely know at my wedding!

FLIP OUT. OMG my FH got a very angry phone call from me within 5 seconds of me receiving a text saying he wants to invite a work buddy and his wife, SIX DAYS before the wedding, with my final numbers going in tomorrow, and I've never met this guy, and I would need to add a whole extra table to accommodate more guests... I lost it.

It's a hard no to adding more guests now, however I was more calm a month or two ago when asked about adding guests... I just said no honestly. We had our budget, and that was it.

Forget it cuz I'm not adding anyone so they can ask all they want lol

I've flipped out about this but now our list is pretty much a done deal now so I'm not taking any additions. We did compromise a bit when we first made the list so I'm happy where we are at.

FLIP OUT! I'm sorry, where were those names when we asked you for the list of guests? At this point, I think we've made it pretty clear that there will be no additions or substitutions haha.

FLIP OUT! Though our parents know we are paying for most of the wedding and they have been very supportive of our guest list choices. I do have some of their friends added, but they are people I know and I was comfortable inviting them anyways.

My family always says "out of respect you need to invite..... etc." and I just say no thanks, its my day and if I don't want to invite them I dont have too - i'm very firm with that.

Forget it. My family is so small that we are UNDER our projected number. At this point we're actually asking his parents to add people!

I initially flipped out but it’s gotten to the point where I’ll say forget it. No point in getting worked up over it anymore...

I think our families have added a total of 4 guests to our lists. Nothing to get upset about!

None of our family’s have done this. We are paying for our wedding, so they haven’t tried to invite anyone

Forget it.

My family didn't add anyone extra to our guest list. FMIL wanted to add an aunt which I am ok with because it is only one person. Once it starts getting to be too many and over our budget that is when I would start flipping out.

I have already flipped out about this a bit to be honest. we’re paying for our wedding ourselves so i find it incredibly irritating when people assume they can invite whoever. i’ve been quite blunt about it and will continue to do so. we actually booked a ceremony venue that can only accommodate 100 guests, so that’s helped us to eliminate annoying extras.

Forget it. My fiancé and I consider suggestions, but have already determined our final guest list for the most part.

The answer is definitely forget it.. but I did almost flip out when my fiance's mom kept telling us all the people we HAD to invite and she was getting very pushy about it.. almost flipped out but for the most part kept cool.

Forget it. My mom added lots of her friends, which my FH didn’t understand. My mom was a single mom and lots of her friends were around me in my younger years. The more people, the merrier, especially when some of our guest list can’t make it.

Forget it. At the end of the day we’ll invite who we want to and can afford to. If they really really want someone there that we’re not planning to invite due to budget we will gladly invite them if our parents contribute the extra cost to have them.

Forget it but don’t be afraid to say no.
Recently my aunt has me invite an extended cousin and his wife who I’ve never met citing those she’d known who had declined. We caved and agreed to invite them but it was as lesson learned. We’ve carefully selected those we want to celebrate with. It’s not about money it’s about if we want them there. I also find it particularly rude. So next time? Hard no. No exceptions.

Forget it, they can add but I don't have to invite

But for real, it's my wedding and I have final say... Plus it's not a matter of money, it's a matter of space.