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Sarah
Beginner June 2018 British Columbia

First Look?

Sarah, on November 30, 2017 at 17:17 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 11
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Hi guys, BIG question,
So my fiancé and i just found out last night that our venue won't let us on site until 1pm, and earliest ceremony is 4pm. Now, i know that's not that crazy of a timeline, but the place is beautiful and a little pricey ahah. So, we would actually like a chance to enjoy our day at the venue and with our guests but with that late of a ceremony and then photos and everything, it seems like we're going to miss a good portion of our day. I've never considered a 'first look' before because it's always been my dream to do the tradional walk down the isle. But if we happen to do a first look and photos before the ceremony... then we get to spend the whole time having fun with our guests.
Basically I want to know if I am happy giving up on my long time dream in order to probably enjoy the day more (by doing a first look). Or if it's worth it the keep to my original plan/dream of first look at the isle and take photos after and miss out on the inbetween time.

Thanks in advance you guys, I really appreciate any opinions!!!! Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Michelle, on January 24, 2018 at 13:38
  • Michelle
    Beginner June 2018 British Columbia
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    Would you wear you wedding rings during the first look pics if your doing all the posed ones etc. I'd like to so when we look back it looks like we're actually married lol
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  • Holly
    Expert June 2019 Ontario
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    It has its pros and cons. First look you can get some of the photos out of the way before hand and it's also a nice moment of just you and the groomz which you won't have much alone time on the wedding day. However the idea of walking down towards him and seeing his reaction of you walking towards him moments before you get married is incredible and it also give families the chance to see your reactions to each other. We personally are waiting till I walk to see each other.
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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    We had our short ceremony 4-4:20 and then did pictures during the cocktail reception before dinner (4:30-6). We also snuck out during dinner to do some sunset photos.

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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
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    Also... I'm not doing the typical first look lol I'm doing something a little different... haha I literally wear nothing but scrubs or big comfy clothes. He's seen me in my dress already so I want to keep the next time he sees me in it for when I'm walking towards him.

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  • Jen
    VIP June 2018 Ontario
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    We are also doing a first look and are having a later ceremony. I wanted the day to be super chill so we decided on a later start.

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  • Ashley
    Expert March 2018 Ontario
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    We are doing a first look so we can have that moment in a private setting. And doing our photos in between the ceremony and reception. Our ceremony is also at 4pm so we will be missing cocktail hour but I have heard that you do not get to spend too much time with your husband on the day of because you are pulled in so many different directions with guests.


    So we are alright with our plan because that means we get some alone quiet time the day of to take in the moment!

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  • Maegan
    Super July 2018 British Columbia
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    We will be doing a first look and all our photos before our 3:00 ceremony... It just made the timelines SO much easier and means we can spend more of our day together before the wedding reception chaos really begins haha. We will doing our first look at noon, then taking all our wedding party photos, then we are going for a walk through some forested park trails just the two of us and our photographer before the ceremony. I think it'll be very romantic and will help both of us calm our nerves before we say i do!
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  • A
    Newbie November 2017 Ontario
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    I had the exact same situation. Everyone is different but for what it's worth, we did a first look to save time and I'm actually really glad we did. We did it just us without anyone but the photographers there, and it ended up being a much more intimate and memorable moment than we could have had seeing each other at the end of the aisle for the first time. Even if I could do it again with more time, I would do a first look. Most of the day from the ceremony on is watched and photographed - it was nice to have that special moment just for us. And we both still cried walking down the aisle! Seeing each other before didn't take away from that moment at all.

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  • Bethany
    Super July 2018 Alberta
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    A first look can be very emotional too!! But if you really want to walk down the aisle then do that!!! Honestly it's your day do exactly what you want because you only have one time for this moment! Hope that helps!
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  • Ashley
    Super June 2018 Alberta
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    I'm doing a first look with my fiance and were super excited. It makes for a cute intimate moment for the bride and groom. and then to get your pics out of the way after that, will be all the better! Why the heck not?! Enjoy your day i think its worth it!

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  • Stephanie
    Master July 2018 Alberta
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    For me, I had certain things I wanted (and have wanted since a little girl). One of those, was wearing a white dress. I ended up with an ivory dress because it goes better with my skin tone, but I do really wish I had a white one (love my dress, just the colour I'm not thrilled about). So, I was not going to give up anything else that I have dreamed of. I also dreamed of walking down the aisle, and that being the first time I see my fiance and he sees me. I am not willing to give that up (and he isn't either--that was also a big thing he wanted).

    What I usually so (didn't do this with the dress though) is make a "decision" and sit on it for a few days before actually deciding. For example, in this case, I would "decide" we are doing the first look. That decision would be on my mind for the next few days, and I would see how I feel about it. If I feel good about the decision, I stick with it, if I feel sad, then I know I made the wrong one, and switch it at that time.

    There is still time to enjoy the venue before the ceremony (just not together). But you can get pictures with your family, with your maids, with some of your guests, and save the pics of the two of you for after the ceremony.

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