How to deal with both families when it comes to planning ? I have made it very clear to both sides about the wedding but my brother wants an open bar and my mother in law wants drinking tickets. How can i make them both happy? it is my wedding and well my brother is helping out as he took the place of my father since hes no longer with us but this is not recent, this whole wedding planning is fun until you have someone who disagrees with everything. ahem my brother! How can i let him know nicely that we are going with drinking tickets and not an open bar? I mean there is no agreement with him over drinking tickets. He said that he will chip in on it but my mother in law stated that if he wants open bar he will have to pay for it himself.