I'm not really looking for answers, I think I just need to get all this out out of my head and then I'll be able to relax and wait and see what happens but I don't really want talk to any of my IRL friends in case in turns out I'm worrying over nothing and I start looking like a bridezilla!. It's gonna be long so be warned!
I grew up in Australia, all my bridal party are Australian and will be flying over for the wedding. I feel incredibly blessed that they are willing to come so far especially since I have no space to put them up (family have already claimed every spare bed and mattress at my local family's houses).
My MOH just told me that she is expecting baby#3. The baby will be about 5 months old at the wedding. Now, they haven't decided whether MOH, husband + 3 kids will be coming or just MOH + baby. If the whole crew comes, all my worrying will be for nothing - the baby can simply stay with her husband while we girls get ready/ceremony/photos etc.
But, if it's just MOH and the baby...what do we do with a 5 month old when we don't have a second parent to pass them over to? We've known each other for almost 30 years so she knows my immediate family, but my sister will have her own 4yo to look after, my brother/SIL have 3 kids of their own and I don't want to ask my parents to play babysitter during the ceremony in case the baby starts crying and they have to leave to quiet them down and you know, miss their daughter's wedding! I don't know if she'll be cool to just hand them over to a random aunt or uncle to rock or if they'll get bad enough that she'll end up holding the baby for the ceremony!
Then there's how do we get the baby to the ceremony? Can you put a babyseat in a limo? I don't really want the baby in the limo, but who else is there to look after them when the mother is the MOH and has wedding duties? Do I get one of the other family guests to drive both the MOH and baby together and leave them out of the limo ride?
I just have all these thoughts and worries swirling around in my head but I can't do anything about them until I know who is coming but gosh I feel so much better getting this out! I think I'll be okay now to wait until I know either way and if she's coming solo, we'll deal with it the best we can. Thank you for letting me get this all out!