Engaged. Now what?

We started planning really early on before we got engaged. Now plotting ideas was one thing because we have tons of time. We were engaged for one year before we started seriously considering booking venues. We will also be engaged four years by the time we get married so we couldn't start too soon. 2.5 years in advance though is not too soon so I've learned from my vendors!

I understand the want to get started as well. It was such a tough restraint to not try and plan right from the get-go!

I'm one of those people who had pinterest boards started and saved for a long time before we were engaged haha! So I already had a lot of ideas and we've been discussing since!

We enjoyed the first 2-3 months just enjoying the engagement him and I but we got asked all the time from people about dates and details so we've finally really started getting on track now!

Don't rush it! Do what feels right for you! I'd say too that the venue is probably one of the most important things to get booked ASAP! As they do get booked quick! Other things can be ticked off piece by piece as it comes!

To be honest, we did a lot before we were even engaged (as many people in our area do). Our vendors book very quickly so we wanted to ensure they were on board! If you have time, just start planning the main details and everything else will fall into place.

Two weeks. I have wanted to marry my man for a long time. I was excited to start planning.

It depends on when you’re thinking of getting married. If you are planning on getting married in 2018/19 I would definitely start now (at least get the big things out of the way). If you want a longer engagement, then take your time! Enjoy being engaged. You can start brainstorming ideas without any concrete plans.
It’s all between you and your fiancé, don’t let other people’s ideas of how long your engagement should be get in your way.

It's hard not to feel the pressure, but you just gotta do it all in your own time.

We got engaged in June 2017 and just picked a venue and date this month (March 2018). We're now working towards a September 2019 wedding, which has given us plenty of time to find what we're looking for within our budget and have time to save up money and not feel like every second of free time has to be devoted to wedding planning. Keeps it light and fun!

My fiance and I are about halfway through a three-year engagement and I'm so happy we opted for a long one... We can save up and not stress about the planning and the BEST thing about it is that when I find something I like (favours, flowers, etc,) I don't have to buy it right away. I can wait for it to go on sale, or find it somewhere else, or find a way to DIY it.

If you're feeling pressured, maybe you two can at least agree on a date a few years down the road? You can certainly start looking at things you might like! No harm in getting started early!

I started before I was engaged lol. But we had discussed it and had already picked a date, it was just all up to him with the ring. Lol probably backwards but it worked for us! Plus we wanted certain vendors in busy wedding season so we started asap. By the wedding, we will have been engaged for a year and two months.

You and your fiance need to agree on this or he'll feel pressured and things will go down south. Just give him time. If a year passes then bring it subtly.

My fiance and I got engaged August 2017 and didn't pick a date until November - and we picked a date a year and a half in advance. We are getting married July 2019. I'd have a discussion and see what year/month he wants to get married and go from there. It's better to pick a date and book your venue at least so you have one thing to plan everything else around.

Our engagement will be a year and one week long we got engaged in October 2017, and at first we were going to wait until 2019, because we didn’t want to have to rush to find things or settle on a venue we didn’t love. But then we decided to at least look, and the venue we loved the most still had some Friday’s available so we jumped in to wedding plans pretty much right away!

I got engaged December 25, 2014 and married October 21, 2017

I don't think I even thought about picking a date until January of 2016.

Not because I was stalling - we just had to save up some money.

We got engaged and then 9 months later we got married. We got on it pretty quickly as we knew things would be booking up fast for the same year. I don't think you need to feel any pressure. Whatever feels right for you as a couple is what works and don't mind everyone else and their expectations.

When we first got engaged , we had originally had planned to wait a year to save up money, However, our friends who had previously also got engaged were thinking the same thing around the same time ! we had figured that was just too stressful to handle for both me and my friend. We decided to talk to our parents and see if we could make this year work financially, as we would have rather done it 2018 anyway, Our friends and family were good with the idea as they felt it was a long time coming anyway! We started planning right away, we were at the 11 month mark at this point , and ALOT of vendors ( photography and venues especially) were already booked for 2018 and some of 2019.... Even if you dont want to start the full on planning, i would atleast try and pick a date , and start researching what and who is available that date..depending on how far your date is in advanced. if you even book some of the main things to start out with, you can leave alot of it until closer to the date ive found !

Long story short, i feel a year - ish before your date is a good time to start ! , but sooner the better, as they say the early bird gets the worm !

Haha I started a little before I was engaged but we both knew it was coming. We started probably April last year, got engaged in May and are getting married this July. It depends I think, I knew exactly what I wanted through recommendations so I wanted to make sure I had those particular vendors.

I have two years two prepare my wedding and im starting to do thing right away...and in my point of view i feel.like im not gonna have enough time it already stress me

Our total engagement will be 9 months so we started (by we I really mean me) planning the wedding maybe 10 days after we got engaged, as I thought there was not enough time. Turns out, I am already done with the preparations and now I’m bored!

My fiancé and I have been together for 4 years and will have been engaged for just over 2 years when we get married this October. There is not rush to start planning after you get engaged regardless of what others have been anticipating.
We got engaged in Sept 2016 and the only reason we picked a date and venue in Dec 2016 is because we were in our home city for Christmas and weren’t planning a trip back any time soon lol. My biggest recommendation is to make sure your doing everything to your and your fiancés own pace. Nows a great time to start a Pinterest board with ideas and things you like and to start looking at the types of venues you would consider to see what prices and packages are like for in the future when you start planning. Makes budgeting easier if you have a preset idea.
Just enjoy being engaged 🙂

It will be nearly 3 years by the time we get married! I think you can start putting together some ideas and creating a budget. That might help narrow down the engagement time!

We've been engaged 2 yrs Christmas Eve . Getting married this summer. We wanted our house b4 we got married

Totally depends on the person, I know people who were engaged for 7+years before deciding to do it, another friend of mine didn’t even wait a full year! Depends on what you want as well, and your financial state.. I think everyone feels the pressure right off the bat tho because everyone wants answers, where, when ect ect it’ll blow over eventually but is a long expensive process if you’re having a big wedding so take your time !

Pick a date and venue then relax. Venues are hard to pick but once you’ve picked that and booked it you can definitely slow down if you’re having a longer engagement. I booked my venue in less than two months (and it only took that long because Christmas is expensive so we didn’t have the deposit) and now I have a year and a half until the day and I’m just really relaxed looking at little things but not really going crazy planning.

We waited a year and a month- I don't think there's any rush at all to put a date, but do keep in mind you need to book venues about a year in advance sometimes.

Picking a date now will be a good time as to looking around for venues of your choice to hold your events. If you decide a hotel, the guests have an easier time moving around to the ceremony and reception followed. Everything else after will then be based on your guest count.

I feel and understand your pressure. I believe that you should definitely discuss ideal timeline or date, then look at venues so you have an idea on a budget. Once you have your venue booked, you can just relax for a bit as venues are the one area that books out the quickest.

There are tons of vendors for photos, cake, decor, etc. but if you are absolutely in love with a venue, it would be a shame to lose the booking for your ideal date.

Hope my advice helps =)

We have been together for 7 years next month and are getting married in august. It really depends on what the both of you want. I had a friend who got engaged within the first couple years of dating then waited 6 years to get married. I have waited for this for a long time. We got engaged in July 2017 and I booked our venue and purchased dress in the same month

My fiance and I have known each other for 7 years, we got engaged in Aug 2015 and knew we didn't want to get married till we were both done school. We set a wedding date for October 6, 2018, as we will both be done school in April. We have been planning our wedding day for 1 year which is amazing because you can get so many discounts through the year on decore.

The day approaches very fast and it's important to have time together to plan and set goals of who can work on what and share little parts of it with the wedding party and the family. It's best to have extra time than not enough to plan such a large day maybe try breaking it down yourself first and introduce it to him sections at a time.

It was about 2 years before we even started talking. We decided to start planning this past summer and We're getting married September 29, 2018

We picked a date right away so we knew what we were working with. We got engaged november 2016 and picked july 7 2018 as our date. So a decently long engagement. Really didnt start planning at all until july 2017 aside from discussing ideas and figuring out kind what we wanted.

For us we got engaged October 2017. We set the year roughly when we wanted to get engaged. I started looking into places knowing that we had a limited budget. We found our venue in November 2017. Once January came along it was okay know I can book a florist Dj and photographer.

It depends on the length of your engagement. Ours is just under 6 months, and we wanted to get married in the summer, so we chose a date and started looking for venues within a week (and we actually did get our preferred venue on our chosen date!). But, had we had more time, I'd definitely have waited a bit before starting the planning to just enjoy being engaged.

We had already prebooked our venue because we had chosen our wedding date before he proposed. I had a miscarriage last July and we had already talked about getting married on a year from her due date to celebrate her. My fiancé had time to surprise me with an engagement proposal and although he left it to last minute and lied to me at first saying he couldn’t get the ring he totally surprised me.