Eloping or not?

I think a pros and cons list is a good start. My husband wanted to elope at a point but I told him how sad it would make me to not have our family and friends with us to celebrate. I understand the stress a wedding brings and wanting to avoid it. As long as you guys have an honest and open discussion, you'll come to the right decision.

I agree with Holly about making a pros and cons list. It definitely helped me in making a few decisions, plus once I had the one with the most pros, I decided if I truly wanted that, so it was a big help.

You can always do a small, intimate wedding (like immediate family) and then in later on when it's more affordable have a reception. My friend is doing something similar by selecting a few people for her quaint backyard wedding (like 30 of us), and then several months later will be having a larger reception in order to save. You could also do it up to a year later. Something to consider! Good luck with your decision!

Think about it but if it’s a real possibility then I’d go for it! Like you said, you’ve done the whole wedding thing and know it won’t go perfect PLUS the expense of it all doesn’t help.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

Omg Lisa I'm so sorry to hear. That's real tough, I've been threw that with my grandmother. Hope she does pull threw for the wedding but just remember she will be with you either way on your big day

You think the best day of your life would be easy to plan lol thinking about it now im chrap and dont want to spend money on me. I have been that way forever. And if I let my fiance decidedhe will spend all the money in the world on me..so that's not happening lol

I totally hear you on the "family" having an opinion! That's a tough call! With all my wedding stress sometimes I wish we could have done what my fiance wanted to do. Pay for our immediate family to go on a vacation and just get married with them Is there anyway if you guys decide to have a destination wedding it could be filmed and you could show it back to his grandfather? Just a thought. When a good friend of mine got married her fiances family was from Ecuador so they had the ceremony there, filmed it and played it at the reception back in Canada. I thought it was a fabulous idea and I loved being able to watch it and be part of the moment. I hope you figure it out. Let us know your idea. I'm struggling right now with my grandmother. She's 90 and failing quickly. I don't know if she will make it to my wedding.
and I'm still trying to find ways to include her and make it all work out.

When I'm unsure of something, I like to make a decision and sit on it for a few days. Fiance and I had talked about getting married last summer. It would've been a small, backyard wedding. Or, we could wait another year and invite my friends and family from another province. I "decided" on the small wedding and thought about it that weekend. It made me sad to think that I wouldn't get to celebrate with all my friends. So, then we went with the bigger wedding this summer and I feel great about this decision.

I can't count how many times we have talked about this. I'm almost to the point to just changing my last name and saying we got married to his family hahaha

I feel you on this so much!!! My fiance and I are moving to BC next month but we have already booked a few vendors for our wedding next June. So we have to decide if we want to just elope and get on with our life and save a ton of money. Or keep the wedding and have to deal with the stress if planning from a different province.. so I know how you feel. My advice is make a pros and cons and really really talk it over and figure out what you really want.