Dreams Defferred - what major component(s) of your vision have changed?

The only thing I can think of that changed for my fiancé and I is the type of venue we were going for; I really wanted a restored historical building or restaurant, but they tend to be more expensive than the venue we booked and of lesser quality service-wise.

I never really thought about my wedding when I was younger because I didn't really ever think about marriage due to my parents going through a horrible divorce. I then (stupidly) got engaged when I was 18 and was too afraid to say no to him, had a horrible wedding which was nothing that I even wanted because his family took over everything, and a pretty horrible breakup/divorce as well. This time around I just knew I wanted it to be completely about us and nobody else. My husband and I decided we didn't want anybody to help us pay for it so that they couldn't hold anything over our heads and butt in and try to give their opinions. We made it as far from my previous wedding as humanly possible. It turned out perfectly and was everything we hoped it would be!

The only thing I always wanted was getting married at my childhood church. But, I now live in another province and didn't want to plan a long-distance wedding!

I know I wanted a long train, my mom's veil, both of which I have. Later I wanted my colours to be blue and orange, which we are doing.

Shoes. I actually just posted about this in another thread, but anyway...
I always dreamed of having some ridiculous and/or gorgeous wedding shoes. When my best friend got married, hers were like five inches high, bright blue, and completely covered in little flashy (fake) gemstones. I remember thinking how I wanted something like that for my wedding!
Well, my fiance and I are adventure-seekers- we call ourselves The Waterfall Hunters - and our dream is to get married while standing in the water at a waterfall...which means no shoes! I mean, I'll need some for my entrance, dinner, and first dance, but after that, once the dancing starts, they're coming off anyway, so what's the point?! I'm kinda over it. I'm having my dream wedding otherwise.

Oh loads has changed.

My dream wedding (and truth be told.. still would be my DREAM wedding, but I'm very happy with what I have planned instead) would be on the country property I grew up on (we no longer have it). The ceremony would be on this hill of wild flowers and I'd wear a short (to the knee or slightly above) lace dress that I had picked out, and no shoes. The reception would be on the lawn next to a pond we had with a gorgeous willow tree and it would be small and intimate (like 20 people ideally). I didn't want gifts from our guests, instead I wanted everyone to bring a dish for a potluck.

I'm having nothing like that now... Still smallish at 80 people. But I'm wearing a long dress, VERY high heels as I'm marrying a man over a foot taller than me, and it's pretty formal with a 4 course sit down meal in a 1920s manor converted into a restaurant. It will still be amazing.

When I was younger I wanted a satin dress and poofy and a pot luck dinner haha. I have chosen a chiffon dress with a long train and bbq buffet. So only slightly different.

I always envisioned running away and eloping (although as I have aged out of childhood tv programs it doesn't involve him throwing rocks at my window and sneaking out to his car ... but here I am killing it!

Nothing really! The only thing I HAD TO HAVE was my blue/purple 'galaxy' orchids in my bridal bouquet! And I told my fiance that and he was more than okay with that being our flower/play off it for colours!

I had ideas and things (pinterest boards haha) but some have changed and I'm honestly so open to different ideas nothing has ever been set fully as my vision!

Except my flowers... couldn't live without them hahah!

I didn't never planned a dream wedding. Never thought I'd actually get married either

I started planning in February and pretty much my original plan changed completely.

Part of it was of costs for a venue with a small party.

The venue changed and where we were going to have the ceremony. Wedding flowers and fashion stayed relatively the same.

I had actually given up on dreaming about a wedding - I hadn't had a long term, serious relationship ever (My longest relationship had been about 6 months). I had given up on having a partner in life before I met my now-fiancé when I was 35.

When I -had- dreamed about it as a kid/teenager, it was always a really formal affair - plated, four course dinner, fancy ballroom, etc.

Now that I'm actually getting married, my fiancé and I decided that the most important thing to us was to make our wedding 'us' and tons of fun. So we're going pretty casual for the reception(taco buffet, huge candy buffet, lots of laughter), having it in a community hall and DIYing all our decorations.

A church ceremony!

Both my future husband and I are from religious backgrounds (he is Lutheran, I'm Christian) and while neither of us attends church or really has anypreference of religion or what it even means to us, we just kind of assumed that we needed to get married in a church to make our families happy. It wasnt until we started actually planning that we realized we dont care what they think as it's our day.

Now we are having a 20 minute beach ceremony and I could not be happier! This will be our view ❤

I didn't start thinking of what I wanted till about 6 months before I met my fiancé. I always thought I'd have a kid free, small and intimate wedding.

We are having kids at the wedding but non in the wedding party. He has 5 nieces and nephews that are a part of our day to day life and we couldn't get married without them there.

We are also have a big wedding (invited 230 people expecting upto 200). He has a big extended family on both sides and if he wants his whole family there I can be ok with that. It just meant more room for my friends too.

I also just assumed I'd have an open bar as it's whats common where I'm from. But now that I've seen how much it costs and I'm past the sloppy drunk stage of my life (unlike most of my own extended family) I'm seriously reconsidering it and going to a toonie bar as that is what's common where we are getting married. I really hate being around sloppy, messy, emotional drunks so if I can avoid even 1 or 2 it's worth it.

I always thought that I would have a big extravagant wedding in a ballroom and then leave early while people throw bird seed in the air. Not only was the money a problem - but it's just not me anymore. Now I will be getting married outside of the city on a dock! The reception will be in a pavilion and it will be in fall even though I always pictured a winter wedding. Crazy how what I wanted when I was 10 is completely different than who I am at 20!

I really wanted a smaller wedding at a small resort and sit around a campfire and enjoy others company.

Unfortunately, my fiance has a massive family (including immediate) and we wanted to get married Catholic, which meant a larger wedding and in a church. We also chose to have a winter wedding due to timing, so that whole plan went out the window.

View quoted message It was actually your recent post that got me thinking about this subject, so thanks! 😊

(Our brunch weddings will be beautiful💜)

Not sure, but I know I would rather have the money (or extra) to be able to splurge on our Honeymoon, instead of the wedding.

I always imagined the classic huge party in a ball room with an open bar, tons of food and all my friends and family drinking and dancing until early morning.

Honestly, that's not at all my vision now. We're having a nice brunch reception. No alcohol, no big dance or party. Really laid back and calm. Lots of fun and games, but not all loud and partying like I thought before.

The biggest thing that made the change: Our life. I'm a mom, our friends and family all have young kids and my fiance and I are a quiet couple who aren't into partying at all. A quiet night at home with a bottle of wine and Netflix is as close as we get to a party. So we think this is the best choice for us.❤

I think when I was younger I thought I would have a really big wedding but the older I got the more I wanted to cut it down. There are even people that came to our wedding that now I would be iffy on inviting lol. I think the thing that shocked me the most was that for the longest time I said I would get married in a red dress but as soon as I got engaged that idea flew out the window entirely! I couldn't imagine wearing red for my wedding anymore so I made my bridesmaids wear it for me lol