Did anyone hit a planning rut? How do i get back into it !?

I'm at the point now where I just want it all to be over! I have my list of things that still needs to happen, which isn't very long thankfully, and I'm just checking them off one at a time.

Take a break. It will rejuvenate you and then you can get more done and you'll still have plenty of time. Also, recruit help. Others are willing to help out or take over a part of the planning (for example, my SIL chose the flowers for me as she is the one making the bouquets!)

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YESSSS ! that is exactly it ! We still haven't chosen MC's , decided if we are going to do Flowergirl/ring bearer, haven't decided on a lot of decorations etc etc. but that's exactly how we feel. we just could not care any less about all those things ... whether they happen or not or who does it. just don't care.

I'm feeling this too. I'm basically worn out and just don't care anymore. I'm tired of the spending, tired of the working, and just pretty much prepared to throw everything together the night before. Which, of course, can't be done because there's still a lot to do. But I'm finding it hard to... CARE.

View quoted message Yep.
the incredible war of attrition between me & my mum has been insane:
veil
tiara
unplugged ceremony (she thinks its's dumb)
hair
makeup
menu selection.

along with:
who's watching the money box?
who's greeting the guests and giving them their escort cards?
why not walk down aisle w/ your dad (i don't believe in being given away thanks!)
etc.

View quoted message Yes !!! Some of my soon to be family members well say are being a bit pushy about this fairy tale wedding that we don't want. The small things matter to this person but they don't to us at all ! And I never thought that this could be the rewason why we have been avoiding things until I read your comment. Not to mention I have had a bridesmaid back out and then one of my good highschool friends decline my wedding invite and it's all just seeming not so exciting sometimes. Which with all that stress and pressure makes it hard to want to deal with it !! But I'm just trying to not let that ruin my day as that's what it is , mine and my fiance's day and nothing else should matter !

View quoted message Thank you.
unfortunately, the negative energy is coming from my mum who's been trying damn hard to remind me of the other things i may have forgotten/still need and frankly, im getting annoyed.
i've been driven to tears and had a literal meltdown at my first fitting.
i know weddings will always have some form of drama, but im SO sick of it that the planning's not even fun anymore
😢

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I am glad to hear I am not the only one having this issue. I decided it is our wedding and people have been told that we will hear suggestions but the final decisions are to be made by my fiancé and me. Best wishes to you... they day will be great when it gets here.

Im hitting a planning rut with 86 days to go till my wedding, but it's mainly due to a lot of negative energy/moods....did anyone else go through this (the feeling like you have to bow to family pressure etc)?

I feel like once all the big stuff is organized you Naturally get a lull. Just make a list and tick something off every week and you will be more than ready

I am doing my vow renewal next July but booked my venue back in March to make sure I got my venue. I just got my save the dates in the mail so ill be mailing those out shortly.

I found I was sort of meh about things from 3 months to 1.5 months.

I just hit the 1.5 month mark and now I've booked all the final stuff to get done.

I'm in a similar boat, but it's because our wedding is so far away (September 2019). We've booked our venue and photographer already. We just aren't feeling any rush for booking anything else or doing any more research.
The thing is, if we book something now, we are told that we're stupid for booking it so early and "what will happen if they go out of business?"; If it comes up that we haven't booked something or someone (officiant for example), then we're told that we are stupid for not booking it right away and get the "what will you do if the vendor you want is booked?". ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I honestly did at that point too. You have all of the big things done and now it's honestly just a waiting game. We didn't do anything up until like a month prior to the wedding and now we are just over 2 weeks out. I constantly felt like there should me more for me to do but there wasn't. Now we are finalizing all of the little details and making sure all of the appointments are set, vendors are paid, everything is in writing, people know where and when they are supposed to be places, etc. I'm about to steam everything and iron my napkins and am waiting for my planner to get back to me about an issue with one of our contracts. It will all come up in due time. Just enjoy this lull as things are about to get crazy!

I also hit a planning rut, there was about two and a half weeks I didn't do any wedding planning. Sometimes you just need to take a break, so you can get back into it with a clear mind. I would suggest going on a dates and enjoying the outdoors with your FH, have some relaxing girl time no wedding talk. Right now I do the bare minimum for planning, most of the big decisions I managed to complete already, but I know I got to start making it a priority again. I think what helps is balancing out your day, write a daily task list with wedding tasks and other life tasks, and try to only spend a couple hours on the planning, not the whole day. I just had to know the most important part of this planning and wedding is my future hubby, everything else will always fall into place . Your almost there!! Happy planning

Oh no! As the time gets closer it can certainly feel overwhelming and difficult to get back into the excitement from when we first started planning. It may be a good idea to choose one thing you'd most likely do (perhaps something that involves either your fiance or someone in the wedding party) and make it into a date night to make it more entertaining. Best of luck, you're in the home stretch!