Day of Wedding and Cell Phone

I'm lucky that I have a small wedding party so it will be easy to tell them to not put pictures of me in my dress online. If they want pictures of my face or of themselves, sure.

We had a wedding party meeting where we went over the day and times and where to be. That was one of the things we mentioned was we didn’t want pictures on social media. We asked them to keep their cell phones in their pockets as we didn’t pictures of them on their phone and they would be in many pictures during the reception. We also asked a friend who wasn’t involved to hold onto our phones as none of the ladies had pockets.

I haven't thought about this, but I'm for sure not posting photos on social media until the next day.

For getting ready, as long as bridesmaids aren't posting photos of my in my dress, I don't really care. We might do a selfies where getting ready which is okay.

Our ceremony is unplugged so I'm not worried about photos being leaked there. Our officiant will announce it before the processional and our ceremony sign will say unplugged as well.

We'll probably keep phones in the getting ready room and retrieve them when we can.

View quoted message Both are in the same spot so shouldn't be too bad. Thank you

View quoted message

In your Snapchat app, go to your 'profile' and click on the Cog to go to settings. There's an option for "Filters and Lenses" and you can build your own filter. They charge you based on the size of the geographic area that will have access to the filter (my ceremony & reception are in one building, so I can make mine pretty small) and the amount of time it will be available. If your 2 venues are quite far apart, I'd suggest doing 2, one for each.

View quoted message How do you make a snap chat filter

I'm gonna have some basic ground rules for the bridesmaids (all 3 are VERY active on their phones/Snapchat), where pretty much I want them to not put my face, my dress, or their dresses in any photo while getting ready... Kind of more like "sneak peek" photos (make up on the table, shoes in a line... something like that).

My phone is going to be with me while getting ready, then put away with my essentials at the venue (I'm gonna have a go-to bridal tote with my emergency kit, phone and wallet).

We are having an Unplugged Ceremony, so no social media leaks from that... then once that's done, I'm even making a Snapchat filter for our wedding, so once people hit the reception, everything is fair game.

I will probably have my phone with me getting ready but after that it will go in my overnight bag. I don't really care about my wedding party posting pictures as long as they are not of me in my dress before everyone sees it.

Thanks for all the amazing comments! We were able to work everything out and they were able to respect my wishes with no social media until after the I do's.

Everyone will be leaving their phones/purses at the head table since we don't need it for the ceremony or professional photos then they can go crazy with snapping pictures during the cocktail and reception.

Great discussion! I am hoping that phones are put away until after speeches or only out if we have break time. I hope everyone can be in the moment; myself and fiancé included.

Hmm I never actually thought about any of this! At the church we have a room to get ready, everyone will leave their stuff in there! and then at the reception if they want to have their phones out - that's fine with me ;P I cant decide if Il have my phone or not.. My FH and I like to take silly fun pics so I will probably have it with me after the church and before the reception!

View quoted message What an amazing idea! I would’ve never thought of looking for that

My maid of honour chose a dress with pockets and held on to my phone most of the day. I didn't need it much during the day. I would say trust someone in the wedding party to hold on to them phones. Or if there's a back room you can leave them in for the ceremony, do that. There is no reason anyone should be calling you during the actual ceremony.

I am hoping that my bridal party will not do this at all.

Our ceremony and reception is on the same property and we have a bridal room. I am hoping everything will stay in there until after all the important things are done

View quoted message

This is an amazing product! lol

I've been in 12 weddings. and I've never been told not to have my phone. now granted, I have NEVER posted a photo on social media until the bride says its ok. or carried my phone in a ceremony.

I have either left my phone in the getting ready room (if it has been on the same property as ceremony). Or I've put it in my clutch/purse/stuff. and have either put the purse somewhere or given it to someone to hold.

I personally don't care if my bridal party has their phones during the day. take some fun candid photos. they won't post a photo of me on social media until we do. we are providing transportation (which will be locked/watched while we are the ceremony). so we will probably leave our items there.

View quoted message I agree with this. I would be pretty upset with a bridesmaid on her phone or taking pictures during the ceremony. The photographer will be getting pictures the whole time and you don’t want photos of them using their cell phone lol

I haven't considered what to tell my bridal party - but I guess the morning of, I'll just say "No social media pictures, please!" and let that be that. I don't care if they have their cell phones - we'll be giving the girls each a clutch as part of their gift and they can put their phones in there. The groomsmen will have pockets.

My fiancé and I will both be handing out phones over to other people (likely our friend who is our day of coordinator) so that we aren't bothered with texts about "Where's the reception?" and 'What time is the ceremony?' etc.

View quoted message Do you not have a room at where ever you are getting married where you guys will be waiting until it’s time to walk down the aisle? They should just leave their purses with their phones there. And then as soon as the ceremony is done everyone goes and grab their stuff. There is zero reason they need their phones during the actual ceremony. I’m assuming they will want to have other things with them, lipstick, Kleenex etc.

I was thinking of either getting garter purses:

Or, because our venue is all on one property, they may just leave their phones in the cabins while the ceremony takes place and then grab them quickly before the reception (while the guests move over to the pavilion and we go and sign the papers).

View quoted message Is there a particular reason they feel the need to have their phones with them at all times? I know that just by asking my girls to not post photos until i give them the green light, they will respect my wishes! I personally hope that they all take a million photos to look back on later.. ones a little more candid, maybe! I dont want anything posted once I'm in my dress and ready, but before that I don't mind! We are having an unplugged ceremony and they all know this as well and will leave their phones away as well. It seems a little juvenile to me that they seem to be so unwilling to put their phones away for a few hours!

View quoted message

I suggested they could put their phone in their purses and leave it in the reception room at the head table before the ceremony but they want their phone on them at all times.

I guess the back up plan is to have their boyfriends come up to the hotel room to grab their phones for them before the ceremony.

View quoted message They will probably have purses. Why wouldn’t they just put their phone in there?

View quoted message I had a clutch and put it in there.

View quoted message What did you do with your phone when you were a MOH? I have one bridesmaid suggesting to stuff it in her bouquet and the other one suggested to stuff it in her bra so I'm at loss at where to place their phone so they have access to it during the reception.

I’m the only one who’s not allowed to have my phone on the day of. I’ll be doing an official handover to one of my besties and won’t get my phone back until the end of the night.

We are not having a wedding party, and we’re not declaring the ceremony to be unplugged. We’ll have a photographer for the ceremony and the reception but none of the getting ready stuff beforehand.

I’ve been a MOH twice and have never had either of the brides tell me what to do with my phone.🤷🏾‍♀️