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Honestly, like I mentioned before, I am planning a wedding in a different city and I have found vendors that are willing to work with that so you should be able to as well! I have booked all the vendors and done multiple meetings with them since booking and they have never once asked me to come down to meet with them because I told them I am from out of town. It just takes some patience to find vendors that will work around it.

Thanks for the update! Glad to hear you have made a decision! It must feel like a relief.

I would just sleep on it some. June 2019 is still farish away that you have some time.

Really think about what would make you and your partner happy, small wedding where you might not get EVERYONE you want, or a bigger wedding with everyone.

What area in Ontario are you looking to get married? I would even volunteer to help you with stuff! (I really really love planning).

What do you have left to do? Do you have a lot of vendors left to book? Honestly, once I booked my vendors, all other communication has been through e-mail (with the exception of the menu tasting and one other visit to the venue). My friend lived in Yukon and got married in Ontario and took a few weeks off before the wedding to go to Ontario early to do the DIY things and make payments. All the planning she was able to do where she lived and just executed it all in about two weeks. So, it is doable to keep it in Ontario.

If most of your wedding party is on board to have it in BC, that's great! It would just mean finding all the vendors there and doing that part of the planning again.

There is also the option to have a reception in Ontario and have the ceremony in BC. You can still celebrate with everyone in Ontario, but it can be scaled back (less formal, less decorations, less hassle) so all you have to worry about is food and music, which can technically be done at a distance.

The more I get into wedding planning, the more I feel like someone won't be happy with some aspect. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to please every single person. Hope it all works out for you, no matter what you end up doing.

I'm sorry you're coming through this Holly! I understand the struggle of planning from a far with little help. I'm getting married in Southern Ontario, where both my FH and I are from, but we live in Northern Ontario now. There were a few reasons we chose Southern Ontario but it's definitely harder when I can't meet with vendors all the time. Some of them are good with calling/skyping and meeting when we are around, which only happens so often. My parents are good about checking things out, but it also comes with opinions lol. My wedding party is all over the province, one is just finishing university and unsure of where she's gonna end up. His side has been pretty hands-off.

The other brides here have great advice: it's yours and your FH's day, plus a few others you can't see your wedding happening without. In the end, if you can make things work out for a BC/Destination wedding, with a reception/wedding announcement party in Ontario, I would do that. If you're stressed out/unmotivated to plan the Ontario wedding, then I would cancel it (my own opinion). No matter what you do, someone is going to have opinions with your wedding, whether they be a parent or a complete stranger, but it's your day, and it should be as stress-free as possible!

Hang in there!

Another thought is to have it in neither place. I know, you're trying to decide and here I am throwing another option out.

If you do a destination wedding, everyone travels so it might make people less upset? Plus it's a nice holiday as well! Some destinations can be cheaper to travel to from Ontario (Ontario to BC can be pricey!) as well.

At the end of the day though, don't stress yourself out about this. It should be ENJOYABLE. I think messaging your wedding party and family was a great idea to get their opinions. Those are the people who matter to you obviously, so if they can make it... great!

I completely understand about wanting certain people there, for sure. It wouldn't feel as special if they weren't there to celebrate with you guys. If you do go through with the wedding in Ontario you'll just have to treat it like you're planning a destination wedding. Everything will have to be through emails and phone calls. Skyping is an option too so that you can see them face to face and have that connection with the vendor.

I would see if vendors would be able to skype if you want to see them in person and actually talk to them. I know you can talk on the phone and see if you can have that one bridesmaid go and check to make sure everything is how you want. It does sound very stressful as you don't have enough reliable people to help and don't want to put it all on that one friend. If it is easier and you get more of the experience planning it in BC the people who can make a trip will! its your big day. If easier you could get married somewhere in BC and do a reception party and still wear your dress and all that again in Ontario?

Oh boy this does sound very stressful. Remember, the whole point of getting married is to be married to your partner and not necessarily the huge party! It's about making the two of you happy and as stress free as you possibly can. Do what works best for the two of you, even if that means cancelling the wedding in Ontario and doing something small and intimate out there. It will likely anger some people but it's about the two of you and nobody else.